why is it so hard to just find someone

[lil_pinky_puppy]

can someone please explain i just want to be happy like everyone else.....

[Jemas]

tbh take your time .. dont rush things the perfect person does come .. you just need to be patient your young and will be happy one day 

[Guest mariposa]

sometimes people just come when you least expect it. the more you search the harder it'll be. i suggest you to focus on yourself for the time being but still have a hopeful energy <3 and before you'll even know it you'll find someone. best wishes.

[beanbean]

was is hard to find someone? because life sucks . they will tell you oh the right person will come along . guess what they never do

[Paul_B]

Not saying this is easy, but you have to be happy with and by yourself. No one else should ever make you happy, they should only make you happier. Like mirposa said above, focus on yourself, find your own happiness, and let everything else fall into place. Good luck (not being sarcastic)

[Kitten&Spice]

I think that is just typical for most people! I know a small few of people who met the love of their lives in high school and some are even 50 years old and still searching. I just think it’s important to enjoy the time you have by yourself. Because once it’s gone it’s gone. Go and enjoy life!

 

I know it’s not really the answer you are looking for but depending on your age group most people are focused on building a career and find ways to enjoy things! Not only that but it is awesome that we have a way to communicate online but can affect how we live in the real world! It’s best to get out and do what you can and hopefully someone will come around!

[Little kaiya]

Finding the right person isn't a race,it takes time. I didn't find my wife until I was 26 but weve now been married for 14 years and together for 16. I didn't find my Daddy/boyfriend until I was 39 and weve been together for 3 years this Fall.

 

In both cases I wasn't looking for a partner. I was just enjoying my life and then they walked into it and made it better. If you get so focused on the end goal of finding a partner you can end up missing the joy of other parts of life.

[Nymph]

Sometimes you get "lucky" and find your match really fast... and neither of you is ready for the relationship, I think that is far more tragic that not actually finding the right person!! so then you end up with many regrets when you look back because you didn't know what you had.

 

Also luck is subjective, I have relatives tell me how lucky I am to have an amazing hubby (my Daddy) but they sit on their butt doing nothing or doing things that will affect their life in a negative way in the long run and just hope one day, the right guy will come with time. And time feels painfully slow for someone who is just staring at the door waiting to open.

 

I say get up and open that door! I searched online for five years to find my guy... I found him after two years but for 3 years we were oblivious acquaintances and it never occurred to either of one we were a match... we now realize it was only because had we tried it, it wouldn't had worked. We still needed to experience some stuff and then we became our match if that makes sense.

 

So in a way, your question might be "why it's so hard to grow/mature?" my guess is, because you value things more when they cost you some effort.