How Important is Physical Attraction in DDlg?

[littlekami]

This question is for anyone whose been in a relationship with anyone, although it's extra specifically aimed at anyone who is or has been in a (sexual?) Ddlg (or caregiver/little) relationship where there was approximately a 15+ year age gap. It’s especially relevant if you met your Daddy before you were 21.

 

Littles/Middles/Submissives:

Do you care what your Daddy physically looks like? 

or, 

Would you be with a Daddy that you didn’t find physically attractive?

 

Daddys/Caregivers/Doms:

In your role, is it important to you that your little/middle/submissive find you to be physically attractive? 

 

 

I would also like to give more info on what I mean by that based on my own experiences:

When I first met the Daddy I spent the last 6 years or so with, I was 19 he was 15+ years older. At that time I was fantasizing about feeling safe and loved. When I was looking for a Daddy their appearance hardly crossed my mind. Personality was really the #1 important thing. 

 

We were at the same local event when we first met, and upon first introductions I didn’t experience immediate attraction – which I can only assume comes from physical factors. 

I didn’t actually realize that I didn’t find him physically attractive until probably a couple years into our relationship, it just never struck me as important in what I wanted and that didn’t seem strange to me.  

I’ve met other men (my age or otherwise) that I didn’t find immediately attractive, but personality traits would make me become attracted to them. With that said, I used to feel ugly and anyone I was physically attracted to seemed out of my league that did cloud my experiences and perspective.

 

Once I was with my Daddy for a while, my life started improving and I feel like I started discovering who I really was beyond my need for safety. I started noticing what I WAS physically attracted to – but I can recognize that physical attraction isn’t the most important thing. It’s also just that noticing what I was physically attracted to as a mentally healthier person, put spot light on the fact that I wasn’t physically attracted to my Daddy. I loved him though, and I was attracted to other things about him. 

 

[Dino-Daddy]

Hi littlekami

 

Ofc there is physical and mental attraction, there is the  cliche saying (but one that is so true , at least in my book)  beauty is in the eye of the beholder. 

The real beauty or attraction is from withing the person, that click and sparkle the feelings you name it , but also at a certain point the eye wants see something more.

And there lies the key, i think everyone has some physicall part thats attractive that enhanches the mental part even more.

[princessfreckles]

I don't meet all of the criteria you gave for those who you want to reply, however I do have some experience with an age gap and DDlg. 

 

Do you care what your Daddy physically looks like? 

Yes, Of course. Looks definitely aren't everything though. However I'm wanting not just a dynamic but a serious relationship. I'm monogamous, so I don't want to have some man as my Daddy who I'm not attracted to because he'd be my boyfriend as well. I will say there have been men who I'm not immediately physically attracted to, but the attraction grew because of the personality the man had. The sense of humor, confidence, intelligence; those are all things that have made men go from meh, to extremely attractive to me. Remember beauty is in the eye beholder. So while a Daddy may not be some one's type, he may be the most handsome man on earth in my book. Just like I may not be every potential Daddy's type, there is (hopefully) a Daddy out there who sees the beauty that others miss. 

 

 

Would you be with a Daddy that you didn’t find physically attractive?

No. As I said above looks aren't everything, but in order to have a good relationship (and dynamic) there has to be some physical attraction. If I'm not attracted to him in some way, I wouldn't be with him. Just like if he was lacking some other quality that's important to me, I wouldn't be with him. That wouldn't be fair to him or me because I'd be settling and not truly happy with the dynamic/relationship. I'd be settling just because I want a Daddy after not having one for years. I'm not the best actress when it comes to faking things (seriously my mouth can tell a lie, but my face will always tell the truth), so the man would find out. I wouldn't want to be hurt like that, knowing some was with me but not at all attracted to me; why would I do that to some one else? That's just cruel. Better to be honest and up front. Settling when genuine attraction isn't there hurts everyone involved in one way or another. 

[Nymph]

Wow those are some very specific borderline illegal questions... because let's face it, regardless if you find them attractive or not, if you are younger than 21 then you are probably mostly "fresh meat" which doesn't mean there won't be some nice guys that will cherish you for who you are, but most of the time you are just a fantasy and an easy target. This is the reason I was extra careful when I was younger dating, when you are just figuring out who you are it can affect you very harshly. As you get older a bigger age gap is no big deal because you can see beyond age. For example I can see right away now that some guys were immature so they were only able to get along with younger girls, but when these girls matured beyond them then things would fall apart!

 

That being said I find it interesting you mention the age gap so much when you are asking about attractiveness, they are unrelated. Do you think if the age gap was smaller or bigger you would have found your daddy more attractive? something for you to ponder.

 

Anyways, on to your questions:

 

Do you care what your Daddy physically looks like?

Yes, to certain extent. I am very sexual and affectionate though, super touchy feely. Also I don't have a list of requirements or mold that I consider attractive physically. I don't care about size, shape, color, race or whatever because I understand there are different kinds of beauty. However they must be clean and healthy, so if the guy has stained teeth... nope, sorry. Husky? sure as long as he doesn't mind going on walks with me because I love going for walks, Beard or long hair? sure, as long as it's well kept. Bald? sure, whatever.

 

Would you be with a Daddy that you didn’t find physically attractive?

That would mean being with someone with bad hygiene so no XD

 

Your daddy sounds like a good guy but just not your type, nothing wrong with having a type. You can obviously see beyond it and appreciate his good points and that is all that matters. With age your likes will evolve a bit and that is normal because you will be exposed to more kind of people, maybe you will see different cultures, etc.

[Vampiress]

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Edited December 24, 2020 by Vampiress

[baby_k]

--if you are younger than 21 then you are probably mostly "fresh meat" which doesn't mean there won't be some nice guys that will cherish you for who you are, but most of the time you are just a fantasy and an easy target. -- some guys were immature so they were only able to get along with younger girls, but when these girls matured beyond them then things would fall apart!

This. Ddlg gathers men who have figured out way to fullfill their fantasy of a young girl easily. Some are into younger because of looks or because they couldn't be with anyone more mature. Some men who are into young girls ( not just youngER but young ) even bluntly say that they are "easy and naive" compared to grown women. So, I do hope that the young girls really take care of themselves and make choices that are good for them. There often is also massive difference with experience, so the older one has huge advantage there. Obviously this doesn't mean that big age cap is horrible but it is something to have caution when the other party is factually young.

 

( Thou, if one wants family etc, I really recommend to consider how life will look when you are old: when other one gets retired, when there is isues with age, dementia and so on. I can tell it is not pretty, and honestly speaking it is not too great that the younger becomes the actual caregiver in the end and kinda wastes their life where they still could be active with that. )

 

Do I care about looks? Definately. I'm not toooo picky thou as long as the other one is healthy and taking care of themselves, so overweight I can't stand. When I was younger, I thought looks etc. don't matter but life has given me some lessons there XD

 

Would I be with daddy who I didn't find physically attractive? Only in platonic caregiving, otherwise there couldn't be sexual physical relationship, and I would be bothered about the looks thing with anything sexual or romantic.

[daddymind]

In your role, is it important to you that your little/middle/submissive find you to be physically attractive? 

 

I mean, I think it makes it easier for her lol 

 

I'm 10 years older than my babs, but I look younger than my age which I think helps. I know there are more attractive, younger guys with bigger dongs out there. That doesn't bother me. As long as she comes home to daddy she will be treated like the princess she is. It's my job to make sure I can give her what no other man can.

[Guest BrieNN]

I pretty agree with and feel the same as princessfreckles. The dlg dynamic would be part of a relationship. Kind of like the way in which we relate to one another but not the sole focus of the relationship. And I need to be attracted to him and vice versa.

[BabyDaisy81]

I find my daddy the most physically and sexually attractive man I have ever met and have lost my interest in other men, not interested in women either.. His looks as an objective opinion, he is a handsome man.. I got lucky.. Does it matter?? Not so much because I was broken when I met him.. being sexually attracted to him and all that is important to me..