cgl question

[lil.babe.kitten]

I need some help with understanding a little that I take care of from time to time, since it's more of a long-distance. He's never had a Daddy/Mommy before and I've never been one (I'm not his Mommy/Daddy I mainly am a babysitter/caregiver) but I do know how to take care of him and do what I can being long-distant. My question is though, his little is more little girl than little boy...does anyone have experience with taking care of a a little that identifies as the opposite sex?

Sorry if this is an odd question I just feel a bit lost since I don't know how to care for his little girl side compared to his little boy initially...not even sure how to ask...he doesn't want to burden me but I just want to be able to care for him without making him feel insecure about being male and a little girl...

 

Thank you for your help...

 

[Little kaiya]

As someone who is genderfluid the best advice I can offer is talk to them directly. Ask how they experience their gender and what would make them feel comfortable and cared for. Too often people try and apply stereotypical labels, roles or notions of gender or play and that can do far more harm than good.

 

The person you are caring for is the one best suited to explain their lived experience.

[Pupperoo]

I agree with Kaiya here above. I am trans and I also think that open communication about this is the most important. If they struggle telling you how they feel because it overwhelms them, give them time. Make it clear that it's hard for you to understand unless they explain, but don't pressure them. They'll come around and give you what you need to handle the situation.

Being in little space and dealing with gender dysphoria at the same time is EXTREMELY difficult, and it's probably best if you ask these questions when they are not in sub or littlespace.

I hope it works out okay ♥

[LeanBlaster]

Yes, i agree with everyone here, the best is be direct and ask them while out of the little space!

 

I wish you both the best!