New to little space

[Zuzu4444]

Hi, I'm very new to putting a label on this. I really like colouring in,playing with my teddies or a doll if I can get one. I've been using a dummy (a pacifier) to help me with my anxiety as a coping method and to just keep me calm.

 

I'm 18 and I live with my parents but we don't have a very close (and slightly strained) relationship so they don't know about any of this. I don't feel comfortable with them knowing about this. I once tried to bring it up in conversation with one of my closest friends but all she said was that it's too strange for her to understand, so I didn't tell her.

 

I was hoping for some advice because I have no one around me who knows and I would really like some friends who understand.

 

I was also hoping for some advice on how to get into little space, because I've noticed that if I have large gaps between being in little space then I can go into little space unintentionally in a variety of situations. This can cause issues because of the people around me or depending on where we are and what we are doing at the time.

 

I would appreciate any help given, thanks

[ScarletBaby]

Hi! I’ve only been labeling it for about a year and also still live with my parents. My mom is vaguely aware but it does make her uncomfortable to think about it. And my dad has no clue. The best advice I can give you is to either find a friend you know you can trust or make new Little friends so you have someone to share this side with. I for one would happily be your friend if you send me a friend request. As for the getting into Little space, I find using my Little items and either watching a kids show or doing a Little activity gets me the most into Little space when I don’t have my Daddy around. I go into Little space at night after my parents have gone to bed. I hope this helps! I’ll answer any other questions you have if I can. If I don’t know it, I bet someone else will have the answer on here.

[Zuzu4444]

Hi! I’ve only been labeling it for about a year and also still live with my parents. My mom is vaguely aware but it does make her uncomfortable to think about it. And my dad has no clue. The best advice I can give you is to either find a friend you know you can trust or make new Little friends so you have someone to share this side with. I for one would happily be your friend if you send me a friend request. As for the getting into Little space, I find using my Little items and either watching a kids show or doing a Little activity gets me the most into Little space when I don’t have my Daddy around. I go into Little space at night after my parents have gone to bed. I hope this helps! I’ll answer any other questions you have if I can. If I don’t know it, I bet someone else will have the answer on here.

[Zuzu4444]

Thank you for the advice, it's really helpful and I'll try to mention it to some of my other friend to see what they think of the topic before deciding if I should tell them. I'll send a friend's request as soon as I can figure out how too. Thanks

[Lil-Pooh-Bear123]

Hi! I'm also really new to this and hide it from family/friends. The best advice I can give you is to know that you're perfectly normal! I know that having to hide such an important part of yourself can be really stressful. I struggled with accepting this part of me for a long time and now that I'm embracing it, I've realized that I actually have been taking much better care of myself and I'm the happiest I've been in a long time I find that setting time aside so you can be in littlespace is really important. I usually do this by getting into comfy clothes, putting my fav Disney songs on, and doing my favorite activity whether that be making bracelets/coloring/ or just playing with my stuffies. Also, when I notice that I'm really stressed or having a hard time being in littlespace because I may have too many "big" things to do I'll try to incorporate some item that I'm attached to that calms me down (my paci and my teddy) while working on those things. A lot of it is figuring out what works best for you and feels natural. Think about times that you have been the calmest or most carefree and what you were doing that made you feel that way. Then use it when you want to go into littlespace. And sometimes it's just the little things like if you like baths, add some bubbles! Or wear the cutest socks you have in your drawer for that day. Also, I found that buying little items was easiest for me whenever I shopped online You're more than welcome to send me a friend request, I'm trying to make little friends too! I hope this helped.

[Zuzu4444]