Brainstorm with me!

[Ikneelonly4Daddy]

Hi!

 

So Daddy and I are in a LDR. He’s in Australia and I’m in the US so the time difference is a challenge. He also has ms with a lot of fatigue. He ends up having to sleep a lot. We text quite a bit and Skype at least once a week. We don’t really have anything in place that fulfills our desire for a DD/bg relationship. We’ve been together for 3 1/2 years.

 

I’m looking for ideas (non-sexual). In a perfect world we would be together and he would take care of me and us. I’m perfectly capable of taking care of myself but I want to give myself to him and be his baby girl and let him take the lead.

 

I’m not sure if I’m making myself clear.

 

I want us to come up with ways he can be my Daddy that could be easily managed from far away and wouldn’t need immediate attention if he’s too tired to do anything.

 

Any ideas? Feel free to ask for clarification.

[Nymph]

Check out the Obedience app, it is very well organized so you at least don't need to stress about that and the punishments/rewards can be as non-sexual or sexual as you want them to be. So once set up is just a matter of checking on it, but it might be a bit overwhelming at first if you let him "take the lead" all of his own after getting the app, ask him if he wants you to set up some ideas to get him started and doesn't need to start from scratch. I imagine it could be fun to do together too, set an hour everyday to work on it until you feel it's something you can work with.

 

When Daddy and I were long distance we would play the app draw something, we were on a 12hr time difference but to see a replay of him drawing when I opened the app always help me feel like he was right there with me even when I knew for sure he must be sleeping or working.

 

We also did only emails instead of texting (he was not allowed to use his phone due security at work), that way we could type on that email through the day and send it whenever we were ready, they turned into very long emails and we learned a lot about each other. We set a schedule for skype video and we still had little things to talk about that we wouldn't mention in our emails such as the weather, something silly that happened, flirting, etc.

 

You have been with your daddy for a while so you should know what kind of stuff drains him too much, always try to get rewards that make you happy but that he will be able to provide without issues. Same goes if he sends you gifts and he is struggling financially, then ask for something small and cute like stickers or even something that is technically free like him playing with you X game or something that he doesn't do often. That way your rewards will not be put on hold or cancelled and you can stay motivated to follow the rules.

 

Good luck!

[Ikneelonly4Daddy]

What great ideas and input! Thank you!

 

We had been collaborating, but I started leaving the ideas up to him because I didn’t want to suggest anything that would be hard for him to follow up on. I think I’ll work on some ideas for us to go over together.

 

He loves when we email. We also hand write letters, take pictures and email them to one another. We send letter by snail mail too.

[Kitten&Spice]

I think that app is wonderful! I have a few ideas I can share! Although I haven’t ever been in a long distance relationship I keep my mind open for the possibility! There is a website called uncommon goods and they have several options for long distance relationships.

 

https://www.uncommongoods.com/product/lovebox-spinning-heart-messenger This Link is for a spinning heart message box and is good for small letters and drawings you can do for your partner. You can even set it up on a desk at work and it is useful for people with a busy work schedule.

 

https://www.uncommongoods.com/product/long-distance-touch-bracelet-set This is a touch bracelet that can simulate a touch. You can tap it and it can let your partner know you are there even though you are miles away. I think it is handy for people who want to comfort their partner or just to let them know you are there!

 

There are other goods on the website as well but these 2 items stood out to me! And you can also get onto Pinterest for a few ideas as well! I hope this helped out a little! Good luck!

[littleprincessbbw]

OOOOHHHHH I need to check that app out.

 

SO....here are my ideas.

 

I have a star chart of things I has to do every day and I has to send Daddy a picture of it every evening of what I have and have not done.

 

Also something I'm setting up this week (yay for crafting) is a 'bored' and 'chores' sticks system (think lollipop sticks in a jar) so I can choose activities and chores for the day out of that.  One thing that can be done is to also have a consequences and rewards jar.  So if you manage to fill xyz amount of stars you get to choose xyz number of rewards/a fun activity etc.  And if you miss xyz number of stars in the day you have to choose how ever many consequences.  You can work on the consequences with him.  

 

That way, say you don't eat breakfast and that is on your star chart.  And you know you should.  One missed star means you pull one punishment stick.  So maybe it's time out with a butt plug (these are just ideas) and you can take a photo for Daddy, or writing fifty lines (you can take a photo of that too).  So he's in control and you're keeping in contact but with minimum need for immediate input.  I like that the sticks mean you don't know what you are getting (bit like if Daddy was deciding on a consequence).  Russian roulette of the consequence world.  Takes the control away and you don't get to think....ahhh that will be worth it - because you can't see what is in the consequence stick before you pull it out and some are mild and some more severe...so it's risky HAHAHAHA.