Possessiveness?

[Guest mariposa]

Does anyone else find possessiveness super attractive in a partner or is that just me? I don't know for me I just find it so pleasing and so loving how someone can just be all about you and only you. I know sometimes people can go a bit far, but when it's just so simple as someone wanting you i don't know it hits different. I personally think I'm not as possessive as maybe some others are. But when you meet someone you're so into, it really just makes you into a yes that's my person. But what do you guys think?? Do you like it?? 

[Vampiress]

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Edited December 24, 2020 by Vampiress

[DerbyNerd]

Possessiveness without the control aspects is amazing. The idea of someone wanting me so damn much is so incredibly hot.

[Satan]

I agree with DerbyNerd. Its nice with out being controlling.

Knowing the other person is super into you is wonderful and amazing and yes dare I say hot. But if that turns into being controlling that's when it's like okay that's a no from me.

I also enjoy a healthy bit of alone time and expect my partner(s) to be able to do the same and respect each other's personal space when asked for it.

[Guest StellarGirl]

I have to admit, I love reading about possessive relationships in fiction. It's a bit of an embarrassing turn on for me, actually. 

 

I'm not so sure if I would like total possessiveness in a real relationship, though. I'd be afraid it would turn ugly very quickly. I'm open for negotiating the level of authority my partner has over me, but the important thing for me, at least, is that I have negotiated it. 

[Little kaiya]

My Daddy and I like possessiveness to a point. He loves when I'm little and either grab his arm or give him a hug and either shout or quietly murmur "mine". He also loves to snuggle me and tell me I belong to Him.

 

That said, we also respect one another as adults so don't cross lines where that possessiveness goes from cute and fun into invasive and harmful jealousy.

[LittleMsKittens]

Daddy is mine and I am daddy's brat! grrr

[SmolAetherr]

im all about the possessiveness im an extrmely possessive person and i try to channel it and filter it through a healthy outlet because its how i always have been and while it may have affected my love life in the past knowing what i do now i have embraced it as a part of me

 

i personally think a controlling relationship is only unhealthy if it not consensual same with being possessive but i dont push it on people who dont want that sort of energy from me, but im not ashamed of who i am

[Guest mariposa]

This is so interesting! I agree that yeah when it gets to the point of controlling, that's not really good. But when it's like the same amount of possessiveness (as in wanting each other) between two partners and it's consensual then I think that's really good. It all really depends on the two. I know me and my significant other we keep it at a healthy equal point and not in a controlling type way.

 

I have to admit, I love reading about possessive relationships in fiction. It's a bit of an embarrassing turn on for me, actually. 

 

I'm not so sure if I would like total possessiveness in a real relationship, though. I'd be afraid it would turn ugly very quickly. I'm open for negotiating the level of authority my partner has over me, but the important thing for me, at least, is that I have negotiated it.

 

Also you're not the only one this made me giggle a bit. Because I used to love reading it in fiction as well. Ahh the way things start cx 

[Frost Evergarden]

possessiveness in the traditional sense is controlling and toxive. it is "mine all mine and you can't be a separate entity" that being said a certain amount of it done right can be good, reassuring. a little goes a long way. 

[Guest Teasing Tink]

Yeah, I'm into it because it's nice to feel desirable and cherished. It turns me on. Me and my Daddy are very possessive with each other but in a loving/playful/very respectful way. It's never dark or toxic. He always makes sure I know that too. But I already know because him and I are very compatible in that way. To me, it equals passion and who doesn't find passion hot? I know not everyone is into the same level of intensity though and there's nothing wrong with not being that way. I just don't think I would be compatible with someone who couldn't match a certain intensity level or desire that in others.

[junebug0325]

Heya,

 

I'm very into possessiveness. When it comes to my Daddy and I's dynamic, it's very prevalent in our Dom/sub, Owner/pet relationship because of the ownership aspect of it. So in a kink aspect it is controlling but in normal day to day life he's not controlling at all, just possessive. I think everyone here can agree that feeling wanted and cherished is something everyone should want to feel and for some of us it's a major turn on, especially when it comes to ddlg.

 

Thanks for posting!

 

 

 

Junebug x

[daddymind]

I love possessiveness when it's framed in a dominant context. Like a bossy, assertive kind of possessiveness that keeps daddy on his toes. So hot and it always gets my attention. I'm weird. I get energised by what others would perhaps find toxic. But there has to be genuine love behind it all. I want to be "possessed" by the woman I love and who loves me.

[LilJabbyWocky]

Heya,

 

I'm very into possessiveness. When it comes to my Daddy and I's dynamic, it's very prevalent in our Dom/sub, Owner/pet relationship because of the ownership aspect of it. So in a kink aspect it is controlling but in normal day to day life he's not controlling at all, just possessive. I think everyone here can agree that feeling wanted and cherished is something everyone should want to feel and for some of us it's a major turn on, especially when it comes to ddlg.

 

Thanks for posting!

 

 

 

Junebug x

This ^

 

My Daddy and I get dark in our kink aspects. We own each other and declare such (but have a mutual underlying agreement that it is given consent, which may be withdrawn at any moment and use safe words). In normal daily life, we are nurturing and protective. We discussed and agreed upon it, but still check-in making sure it's okay, never disrespecting one another and understand we may change how we feel. 

[baby_k]

It's a imaginary turn on like for some others here

 

I like to be owned and enjoy that sort of reassuring dynamic. I like it also in real life as long as it won't interfere with anything I do or want to do: my partner needs to allow me to be me and not control me in anyway except maybe sexually with concent.

 

I see it more like wanting to spend time with me, wanting to know about me but mainly enjoying the moments we have, and not trying to get more ( as that easily goes into controlling ). Same as I like dominance but can't stand controlling. Dominance is in my eyes something positive, used for good and even selfless. Where as controlling is selfish and toxic.

 

Also, I like my partners little jealous but only so that I feel they care. I don't want them to ever even want to limit me or suspect me. It's more about them seeing me valuable and not to be indifferent towards me, how I choose to spend my time and what they get.

[Guest Looby-Lou]