Is your daddy/little/etc. NOT your romantic partner?

[Bearly]

My little is just a really good friend because my boyfriend isn't into CG/L and I know other people in the babyfur community whose caregiver isn't their romantic partner and it's just a platonic and SFW big/little relationship. Yesterday my friend mentioned that DDlg has much more emphasis on the D/s aspect and usually the daddy is also very dominating and controlling.

 

So, I'm wondering who else here is only into the SFW stuff like aesthetic and regression, and who else has a platonic caregiver/little.

[Guest janice]

me! but i dont have a cg because my boyfriend of two years doesnt know im into cglre

[Leo_Ascendent]

No, I'm an adult, I stopped playing house 25 years ago. This type of dynamic requires a deep emotional connection.

 

I've been here for a while, and I've seen so many kids playing games and then getting burnt because they dont have the emotional intelligence to handle what being a caregiver/little requires.

[Satan]

No, I'm an adult, I stopped playing house 25 years ago. This type of dynamic requires a deep emotional connection.

I've been here for a while, and I've seen so many kids playing games and then getting burnt because they dont have the emotional intelligence to handle what being a caregiver/little requires.

I hope I am misunderstanding you , but are you saying by having a non sexual cg/l dynamic that is somehow playing house?

I hope that's not the case. I don't really see the connection with being sfw and having emotional intelligence having to do with one another.

[venusmoon]

me too!! I'm more into the sfw stuffs, I use my regression for coping and to just escape from the big world for a bit. in my littlespace, I am also platonic   

[Guest Avi]

No, I'm an adult, I stopped playing house 25 years ago. This type of dynamic requires a deep emotional connection.

I've been here for a while, and I've seen so many kids playing games and then getting burnt because they dont have the emotional intelligence to handle what being a caregiver/little requires.

I hope I am misunderstanding you , but are you saying by having a non sexual cg/l dynamic that is somehow playing house?

I hope that's not the case. I don't really see the connection with being sfw and having emotional intelligence having to do with one another.

Lmao glad im not the only one getting a mad condescending vibe to say the least. Just a fat yikes for me

[beanbean]

No, I'm an adult, I stopped playing house 25 years ago. This type of dynamic requires a deep emotional connection.

 

I've been here for a while, and I've seen so many kids playing games and then getting burnt because they dont have the emotional intelligence to handle what being a caregiver/little requires.

that seems a little insulting and putting everyone here under the same broad strokes.people need to think we are all the same as well ,because were not

[RavenclawPrincess]

Oftentimes I find that platonic love is highly undervalued. Relationships don't have to be sexual or romantic to be valid. Within the scope of CG/l, platonic partnerships still involve a very high level of care, communication, and intimacy. Lack of sex and romance doesn't change that at all in my opinion. 

[T-chan]

No, I'm an adult, I stopped playing house 25 years ago. This type of dynamic requires a deep emotional connection.

I've been here for a while, and I've seen so many kids playing games and then getting burnt because they dont have the emotional intelligence to handle what being a caregiver/little requires.

Sounds a bit bold if you stopped playing house when you were like 4, as you now are 29.

But anyway, there are apparently also caregivers/daddies of 18 y.o. with 6 years of daddy dom experience. So i take it.

 

What if you discovered during your loving vanilla relationship that you are into ddlg? But your partner is totally not? Break up, divorce, run away or just ditch him or her? That is an awful thought.

 

If things goes in full consent and everyone is happy. Than there is nothing wrong about it. It doesn't have to fit into your world, but it does fit in theirs. And that's all what matters

Edited July 10, 2020 by T-chan

[Bearly]

Also, the level of closeness and dependency in CG/l varies between people. As long as both parties are happy, it doesn't matter if they're sleeping together. That also invalidates ace/aro folks. I agree with T-chan, as I got into CG/l after being with my boyfriend for 4 years.

[ValesKittenEEvee]

I may be jumping in late...and sorry if i am being "presumptuous" here, but to me, whatever dynamic exists between the DD and the little, as long as it is consensual, safe and built on mutual respect is what should be tolerated. If they have a dynamic built on a intense sexual relationship, as long as they both agree to respect one another's limits, that should be accepted by others, but if they choose together to build their dynamic instead on a relationship of emotional, intellectual and mental "love" no one has a right to call that "playing house" in my mind...else we are all "playing house" as we should all be "adults" consenting to to some type of age/regression play to be on this site to begin with...lol.

But anyway..I see any DD/lg dynamic that is "safe, consensual and respectful" as a beautiful thing when partner(s) work in tandem to built a loving dynamic over time...no matter how long they are in partnership...it's the union and how they grow together than matters. People come in and out of our lives to "teach us" what we need to know...and sometimes they leave...but if we can honor the experience and grow from it...then we honor the journey we were on while they were with us.

I work with kink  and LGBT clients of all kinds in my coaching, and personally in my dynamic with my own Daddy have seen how having a deeply intellectual connection can improve a relationship. I hope everyone, no matter what kind of connection they have with their CG/l finds happiness...sex is only a small part of what makes for a happy relationship, to create a lasting relationship it take healthy relationship habits and sex is only one aspect of doing that.

I hope my post added to the conversation, and did no detract...that was not my intention in anyway...It's been a while since I have been on. Wishing you all the best in what you do.

-Evee out.

Edited July 17, 2020 by ValesKittenEEvee

[MysticSand]

My Little and I are platonic! We're not sexual people overall and we find joy in things that fill our soul and emotional needs.

Interestingly enough my Little's love language is touch and he thrives from hugs and cuddles.

 

I agree with Evee and would add that for some relationships, it can be argued sex is the only thing that certain relationships exist on.

For me, it's all about finding happiness in my soul first and sexuality doesn't fit that role.

[curiousvet]

My fiance is not into abdl at all, so assuming I find someone, it will not be with my SO-though we have an open relationship so it has the potential of being sexual, though I don't want to find myself split in my commitment, so I'd really have to play it safe emotionally.