I miss my Daddy

[DaddysonlyPrincess]

My Daddy and I began on fire! I am his Princess and had a small list of rules. Over time he has stopped holding me accountable and although he insists I still call him Daddy and adhere to one rule or so I feel so sad. I have brought it up a couple of times and he acknowledged and said he would do better and apologized. Actions over words. But it has been fleeting. It has been a while since I brought it up and each day without it I am more sad. I yearn for him to hold me accountable, rewards, consequences, that connection only a DDlg has... I have talked to a few friends and they say to talk to him again. Just curious if anyone else has been through this and how they got their Daddy back.

 

Background: I do not use little space but do prefer a very submissive role with Daddy. He was very eager to enforce rules and reward good behaviors or give consequences for negative ones. I have always expressed my want/need for him to be more and more dominant in decisions for me (food, clothings, hair, makeup etc) we are very much in love and have a wonderful relationship but the idea of not having my Daddy and my partner breaks my heart into pieces...

[SmolAetherr]

If he was eager at one point do you know what could have change, have you taken the time to ask him about how he is doing?

[MissPattch]

What Aetherr says. If his attitude towards DDlg has shifted, maybe something is not sitting right in his life right now. I know when my Daddy is stressed, he pulls away a little and needs some time out of our dynamic and needs me to be self reliant.

Giving someone time and support to work through what ever is going on in their life, instead of asking for more from them, when they might not have anything left to give, is something we should be doing for our loved ones <3 

[DaddysonlyPrincess]

Life does happen and so I have been very open and accepting of that. I am a very supportive partner. We do live together and while he is at work I take care of his daughter whom he has sole custody of and I also take care of my son who is with us most of the time. I take care of most of the household business and balancing of finances so that he can concentrate on working and coming home to care for us ( he does share in some household chores). He is a very dedicated partner however as a Daddy it’s like he has just checked out. It leaves me in a very confusing space. I get depressed thinking it would be less painful if he just told me he didn’t want to be my Daddy anymore (but that’s absolutely not what I want). When I have to abide by the one or two rules but not any of the others I don’t really understand.

[SmolAetherr]

Life does happen and so I have been very open and accepting of that. I am a very supportive partner. We do live together and while he is at work I take care of his daughter whom he has sole custody of and I also take care of my son who is with us most of the time. I take care of most of the household business and balancing of finances so that he can concentrate on working and coming home to care for us ( he does share in some household chores). He is a very dedicated partner however as a Daddy it’s like he has just checked out. It leaves me in a very confusing space. I get depressed thinking it would be less painful if he just told me he didn’t want to be my Daddy anymore (but that’s absolutely not what I want). When I have to abide by the one or two rules but not any of the others I don’t really understand.

sometimes things that we want in theory dont work as well in practice it sounds like both of you have busy lives and its easy to forget the more fun and enjoyable things in the daily grind.

[daddymind]

Sounds to me like he has a lot on his plate and maybe his daddy energy is low because of other commitments. I am constantly amazed at how much people manage to fit into their day, especially with kids. I know you take care of the home and the kids and that's wonderful and no doubt a huge help which he appreciates. But I'm trying to imagine it and all I see is someone coming home from work exhausted and having to take care of his child who he hasn't seen all day. Maybe he's just burned out. You're going to have to talk about this and maybe hear some hard truths. He probably WANTS to give you more daddy attention, but given the circumstances he may be struggling to find the energy to do everything. Remember, a lot of his daddy energy will go to his daughter and she has to come first. It's time for a sit down conversation about this and for both of you to be as understanding as possible.