Ashamed of Little Me

[quietbunny]

My daddy is really supportive of my little space now, but it wasn't always like this. It took a while for him to see what it really meant vs. what he saw on the internet about it.

But now that he gets it he's SUPER wonderful. He knows the difference between my safe little space and my sexual daddy kink (for me it's very separate). He knows when I need to be little and when I'm trying really hard not to be. He even encourages me to do little tings around him like use a sippy cup or talk in my little voice or call him daddy. It's kind of great actually.

 

But without fail, every time I'm little around him I get insecure. I have to double ad triple check that it's really okay with him and that I'm not weirding him out.

 

He asked me why I felt so insecure about it and I guess I didn't really have an answer for him. I'm just afraid that I'm going to go 'too little' and scare him away.

 

But I'm SURE there are other littles on here who struggle with little space insecurity. It's like I'm a ashamed of it, even though it's an important part of me. Ya know?

 

What are some ways you try to overcome this insecurity? I could use some ideas lol.

[AHumanBeing]

I'm also super insecure. I've noticed I have a big problem with judgement. Judging other people and especially judging myself. I'm so self-critical and I think it's a defense mechanism against embarrassment. I tend to feel things strongly, and I'm not a fan of how painful embarrassment is and how those memories never seem to go away. If I attempt little space, my brain automatically goes into mean girls mode.

I don't know what to do about it, but maybe this will help? I read an article about how to overcome recurring memories. You know, when it's late at night and you can't sleep because of all the dumb stuff you did or said years ago. You're supposed to look at the memory and ask, "Did I make a mistake? Was I really in the wrong?" If you were, you acknowledge that you made a mistake. You fully accept what went wrong, you put your hand on your heart and then say out loud, "I forgive you."
Maybe you could try something similar? Instead of worrying about if you're too much for him, ask if you're too much for yourself. Are you judging yourself unnecessarily for doing something that genuinely makes you happy? If he's okay with it and is having fun, that's all for him. He's fine. You're the one who's uncomfortable. You need to give yourself some undivided attention and tackle what it is that's making you insecure.

[MissPattch]

Hey Sunny ^^

 

I've only been exploring my little side a short while, but i get insecure in my little space too. As a little, sometimes i can be really clingy and needy of my Daddy's time, which is in direct contrast to how i usually am. So i worry that i'm going to be "too much" sometimes, as a result, its not often i go into little space. When i talk about it with my Daddy, he reassures me that its fine, and that i can be little when ever i want / need to be. I also have trust issues from previous relationships, so its hard to believe him sometimes when he says that. Just this last few months, i've decided to start taking him at his word, and believing him when he says these things. It can be pretty hard, and sometimes takes a lot of effort, but i look at the words he writes and the things he says and i make a conscious decision to believe them. No questions asked. I'm hoping, eventually, that i'll break the habit of second guessing whats being said and just accepting the truth. That he loves me, and its ok to be as litte as i need to be <3

Edited July 6, 2020 by MissPattch

[Alaskan Daddy]

Your insecurities are very common among many littles. There is nothing wrong with you asking for reassurance from your daddy. It happened to me with a few littles I was a daddy to. I always understood why they asked. They asked because just about every one in their life made them feel they were a freak when ever they showed their little side. I feel the more you are with your daddy the more you will trust that he loves all of you with out conditions. I think you should let your daddy know that you just need to be reassured once and a while that he is okay with any 'little' thing you do. It is just one of your struggles you have right now. I hope this helps you feel more comfortable with who you are inside your heart.

[venusmoon]

[RainDoeSprinkles]

I have been married for 23 years and it was only 7 months ago that I told my hubby about me being little. Like you, I feel very blessed that he not only accepts little me, but really enjoys and nurtures this part of me! Likr you, I was hesitant and afraid of rejection too.

There are so many ways that I express my littleness, I found it easier to not show him everything all at once. For example, I let him see me cuddling my stuffie, and noticed his response. It was good! So that gave me courage to let him see me using my toddler fork and spoon. That was good too! Another time, he got to see me watching cartoons with my stuffie and using my little unicorn cup. Still good! Then the biggie was when he happened to find me holding my paci! He just laughed and made a cute remark. So now I know I don't need to hide it anymore! There are more, but you get the idea! Just go slowly and open up your little side gradually. Then your comfort zone will expand and your confidence will grow!

[Vampiress]

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Edited December 24, 2020 by Vampiress