scared of making friends

[caitfae]

[peachprince]

I'm in a similar situation, but I don't have a boyfriend! I only have like 5 close friends I talk to regularly and they're fine with kink, but really anti-cgl, despite me trying to teach them the ways it helps people and is more than just kink [without "outing" myself as being into it] so I know I can't tell them! I don't even have any social media besides Tumblr that I can feel comfortable posting little space things on because I know my friends would be able to find it.

 

Maybe you could make some little specific friends tho? Ones that you can go to when you wanna be in the headspace and then your friends for everyday grown up you? It's not a great solution but it's a compromise until you feel more comfy!!

[LittleCoffeeMug]

I can really relate to this. I have friends in the BDSM community but none in the little community. All my irl friends don't know anything about my lifestyle so I can't talk to them or get advice

 

My bf isn't really into the little/middle scene so it's a very slow process with him and trying to get him comfortable.

 

I'm sure you can find people on here to talk to and get advice from. I've talked to a few people on here and it helps me get into middle space and have that in my life. I can be your friend too!

[Guest mariposa]

I actually understand this because I also have a very small group of friends and none of them know that I'm a little. I also feel as well that they would have that misconception of ddlg which is why I've always kept that part of my life private. But you aren't alone! I think if you're feeling lonely you should try to reach out towards people who are the same way whether it's in an online community (like this one) or any local ones irl. It can be kind of intimidating not gonna lie, but you get over it after a little while. Best of luck! 

[caitfae]

thank you everyone!!

i've been feeling low about this all day so it was nice to see all these replies with suppirt and empathy and suggestions

thank you

[ScarletBaby]

I have only a couple of friend I really hang out with and my boyfriend who I met on here. I’m not in too similar of a situation but I used to be at one time and I still live with my parents so there’s that aspect of things. None of my friends are in the cgl scene but most who know are completely okay with it. Only one is somewhat uncomfortable. I get not telling your friends if you think it’s uncomfortable to tell them or you don’t think they’re going to be accepting. Making more friends for the sake of that Little side and connection is never a bad thing. And you can find plenty here. I’m more than willing to be friends with anyone who wants to be friends. Fair warning, I’ve always been called intense but I’m also very loyal