Incredibly depressed

[Guest Rye_Curiousity]

Do you ever just suddenly realize, that ur alone, and probably always will be. Then become incredibly depressed? Bc I do...

[MissPattch]

Yep.. 

[Guest xxmixesgirlxx]

Yup, all the time

[LittleCoffeeMug]

All the time and sorry you're feeling that way

[SmolAetherr]

everyone does at one point or another you just have to let yourself feel your pain, then you get up and make a life you are happy with, its much easier said than done but what is the alternative?

Edited July 4, 2020 by Aetherr

[Guest mariposa]

All the time, but what really helps is just to stop thinking about it and enjoy ones company. Being alone all the time doesn't always have to be a bad thing. I think spending time on your own can really help figure out your emotions and what you truly want. I hope you feel better. 

[Punographer]

For a long time, I craved the attention of another person. To have some sort of relationship that was constantly feeding me energy, you know the happy go lucky kind. I'm finding that as I'm taking my time to work on me, I don't crave or need attention like that. 

 

It's a hard step to get towards and frankly, you'll know when you're ready to really be there. People tend to give advice like this over and over again but experience is the best teacher. 

 

I would highly suggest seeking professional help as they may equip you with the tools and guide you through tribulations. 

[Vampiress]

Always. I very seldom ever feel understood or heard.

[MasterPhotog]

Start by getting to fully know, accept and love this person called yourself.
Next, genuinely become interested in others' issues, you would be surprised how fast you will forget your own issues. Good luck. 

[Frost Evergarden]

more times than I care to recall. 

[Vampiress]

Start by getting to fully know, accept and love this person called yourself.

Next, genuinely become interested in others' issues, you would be surprised how fast you will forget your own issues. Good luck. 

 

Be careful with this. Sometimes focusing too much on the issues of others can also make you depressed and feel overwhelming. It's also not always a great idea to set aside your own feelings. Sometimes it's a better option to just let yourself feel them and work on finding a solution to what can be solved, and improving your inner dialogue. Changing your perspective can help a lot. You can also channel your emotions into things that you are passionate about and give you a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. Cognitive behavior therapy can be a great way to learn to change how you think about things and move forward in a positive direction.

[Guest Dandy Blob]

Honestly, most of my life. But I realized that dwelling on that feeling & ruminating on it made it SO MUCH WORSE. I would do bad things for attention with bad people, or binge eat, drugs/alcohol...anything to get away from that feeling, even for a little while. Then it would come back even worse later. No good!

 

Now I am trying to acknowledge when those feelings arise, and instead of letting them take over like I have always done in the past, I think, "What can I do about this?". I do try to distract myself a bit, usually with something productive (even just housework, or making a phone call I have been avoiding, a episode of a tv show...just something). And each time I find my mind trying to go back to those feelings, I go, "Alright, I see you & hear you, but you aren't being very helpful right now so I am not going to give you this attention." and go back to whatever distraction thing I was doing. I also try to set a time limit for my distractions, otherwise I might spend the whole day in 'distraction mode', which doesn't help either.

Other times I make myself a cup of tea and just focus on breathing, or sit outside and listen to the birds & sounds, take my dog in the yard to play, just something other than letting myself swim in those negative feelings because I know if I let that happen it's even harder to crawl back out.

 

When I am feeling better later (not better as in "YAY I AM SO HAPPY I AM FARTING RAINBOWS AND SUNSHINE" but just somewhat better than I was previously), I try to write down what I was feeling & why, and things I can do for the next time to help me get out of it better instead of dwelling on it and feel even worse. Addressing those thoughts & feelings can be super tough, so don't push it too much, as it could make you feel worse. 

 

(This was stuff my therapist has been helping me with, and it works for me but it's taken some time to remember to do it when I am feeling rough. 100% just a suggestion! If you are able to it would totally help to have someone you can talk to about this stuff now & then, just having someone to air things out to can make a huge difference. And be patient with yourself, it's not easy to change the little things that our brains automatically do!)

[Guest Prettybloodyroses]

Constantly I have abandonment issues so I constantly feel like I'll all be alone no matter what

[Guest Vampire]

Regarding loneliness, a lot of people struggle with this, people who don't, just found lots of ways to distract their mind from thinking about it. But once the distractions are gone or become uninteresting and they look around them and have nobody to lean on. Loneliness hits. If loneliness really gets to you at some points, make more friends or try to have more positive human interactions. All easier said than done. I know. I wish you good luck and I hope I was of some help.

[Bluepandavideos]

im incredibly lonely. If it wasn't for my boyfriend, I would be alone.

 

Im not close with my family and I have no friends IRL.

 

I've been feeling really upset, more than usual these past couple of days.

 

I had a confrontation with someone at work because they didn't like how something was done. But it wasn't my fault and I couldnt fix the situation. So they kept getting mad at me. And then I tried to get help, and my managers just didn't see the problem.

 

I find out the next day, the person who was mad at me had also been spreading lies about me to other staff members. Which explains why other staff members don't talk to me much.

 

I got upset and angry because this always seems to happen to me.

 

Every job I've had, ive had had staff members sexually harrass me, be little me, spread lies about me, insult me and why? Why me? What's so wrong with me that this keeps happening?? What did I do to deserve this??

 

Im a nice person. Im always considering other people's feelings. I try and help people whenever I can. I always encourage people. Im polite. I try and have a positive attitude at work.

 

Is that why they do this? Because im a nice person? Why am I just not good enough? I don't understand.

Edited July 25, 2020 by Bluepandavideos

[WADaddy]

I hope everyone remembers that it's okay to be sad sometimes. All we can do is make time for some things that make us happy and try to improve ourselves.

Relationships and friends are great, but you always have yourself!