Grieving in littlespace (TW: death, losing a loved one)

[BabyBoop]

Hi guys.

 

Middle (age around 13-15) here (big girl age 31).

 

My father died recently and suddenly... a few days before fathers day (21 June in UK).

 

I also have a Daddy (together almost 6 months). I'm finding it hard to call my Daddy "Daddy" again. I posted him a daddys day card and everything and felt weird about it after. Finding it hard to be a middle with him and sexual etc.

 

Has anyone had this before?

 

Can anyone give me advice?

 

[LittleCoffeeMug]

I'm so so sorry for you lose *hugs* I can't image what you are going through.

I think you should talk to your Daddy and tell him what you are feeling.

You just lost your father you aren't expected to just jump back into everything.

Maybe you can call him something else till yove processed everything and just talk to him about the middle thing and being sexual.

You need to put your mental health about everything and take a breather.

 

I'm sorry again *hugs*

[RainDoeSprinkles]

I agree with LittleCoffeeMug. Grieving is kind of like a journey, and you will heal better if you allow yourself space and time to walk through it at your own pace. I was greatly helped by a grief counselor from our local hospital after my stepdad passed away suddenly. Listen to your heart, and you will discover what to do to help yourself process your loss. When I miscarried my first pregnancy, the grief did not come until later. After I recovered from my D and C, I just went on a massive cleaning binge. Then later, with so much pent up sorrow, I found great healing in writing a poem. Then the tears came. All of that is to say...every person and every situation is unique, and so is the grieving process. Take all the time you need. Maybe this is can be an opportunity to grow in your relationship with your Caregiver in a new way. There are also alternatives to the title Daddy.

Sending you big hugs and prayers.

[BabyBoop]

Thank you guys... really appreciate it.

 

yeah feeling super weird atm. I don’t think I’ll ever be the same person again. I told my DD this last night. We are so sexual, but right now my libido is just not there and I’m not in any rush for it to return to be honest.

 

its definitely a weird time. My little brother sent me a poem my dad wrote for me and it broke my heart. The pain is definitely great.
 

i have a counselling assessment on Monday, so hopefully I can get some counselling. And yeah I want to get back into art and channel my sorrow through that.

  

raindoesprinkles - I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your step dad and miscarriage... must be hard for sure! Does it ever get better?

[BenelSwen]

Sending you lots of strength and support during this challenging time.

[JannAce]

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Grieving can be a difficult journey, and it's important to take care of yourself during this time. Remember, it's okay to process your emotions in your own unique way, even in littlespace.