Moving on?

[Guest Peaches1226]

[Guest Carson_Daddy]

Hello Peaches. I am sure you are going through a lot right now and please remember, it is totally normal. Feeling sad and confused is exactly what happens when something so drastic happens in anyone's life, especially when this action involves something so precious to you. Before I go on, I would really like to answer your question on if we only get one of these relationships. The beauty of DDlg is that there are no set rules, there is only an idea that we must then mold to our liking. Using this logic, no, there is nothing that tells you that you must only have one DDlg relationship, nothing at all. You decide whether you continue this practice or not. Never feel afraid to try new things and make your own decisions. I think I speak for almost all, if not all of this community when I say that we are here to help you. You can feel safe here, you will not be judged and the only thing you should get, and will get, is support from us. Emotions, however strong they may be, are temporary and this of course includes your somber mood at this moment. But emotions being temporary does not mean they are unimportant, I suggest you express and let out all the feelings you have locked up away in your heart; in my opinion that is the best way to move on from such a moment. Let everything out and don't hold back, seek help whenever you want and do the things you love.

 

Whatever happens, know that we are here to help and that includes me. If you ever want to talk in private and want someone to help, I am always here. I truly hope this has helped and I would love to hear back from you on how you are coping and feeling now. Best regards and have a splendid day Peaches. Much love your way.

[MysticSand]

Yeah, what the above poster said. ^

I'll comment on something else though:

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I don’t think I will ever have another daddy again - I think part of that is because I feel like it would mean my previous daddy relationship wasn’t as special as I thought it was .

Of course it really was as special as you know it to be! Every single relationship we have with another person is special, no matter what the nature of the relationship.

With all the millions of people there are in the world, having a connection to another human is special. Being able to be open, honest, silly, angry, upset, and vulnerable with anyone is a big deal and not having that same person for support anymore is going to hurt. Which is exactly what you're going through now, but time will help and you focusing on making yourself happy will help.

No one and nothing will ever take away from the special relationship that you had with him.

Eventually you'll be able to move on and take from the experience all the wonderful things and be all the stronger and wholer for it.

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How have you moved on from a special ddlg relationship? Do we only get one?

I don't have much credibility in this area yet as I'm still on my own first and only CGL relationship.

However, having been helping my Little through his own lingering feelings regarding his previous CG's, some advice I would give to you when moving forward is to not compare.

Engage and meet new people and have expectations of only being great friends, and if it goes on from there, then hooray!

When you do eventually find yourself chatting up someone who's getting closer than just a friend, remember not to compare them to your previous daddy.

Always keep in mind that everyone is different and unique. Everyone has some great things to offer and you will find someone who will be equally as special, if not more so.

In the meanwhile, take time to focus on yourself, to heal, and to be whole again. 

Edited September 1, 2023 by MysticSand
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[Nymph]

You don't only get one, you get as many as you allow yourself to have. Some people (poly, open relationships) might get to have more than one at the same time, cherish it but don't glorify it!! it is special but nothing that can't be found elsewhere if things don't work out. Some people stay in abusive relationships because they think they won't have the same connection and in those cases I sure hope they don't... it should be better than that.

 

I find that for us that find it in our nature and get connected to our little side before learning the labels is something that we cannot help. You will probably continue to be attracted to daddy kind of personalities and your playfulness and sweetness will probably attract them too

 

I think it's healthy you don't want to contact other daddies yet because you need to heal, if you did you would probably be doing it out of hurt or spite and that is not fair for serious daddies out there who are investing their time and attention in you.

 

Perhaps you can focus on learning how to enjoy being little on your own and make friends, you won't have someone to tell you what to do but you could set a list of rules for yourself in the meantime, for example:

 

Taking vitamins every day (there are yummy gummie ones!)

Increasing water intake (you can use a cute cup for this, sippy or straw)

Color one page a day (there are "grown up" coloring books now but anything you like will do)

 

Etc. Things that will benefit you in the long run and don't require a partner. You could also play with other littles if you like online games, maybe join a kik group or discord server and make friends without pressure. I am sure you will find being a little is super fun and the community is pretty open and friendly so reach out if you are feeling lonely!