Daddy Looking for advice on introducing littles to each other (poly family)

[ryankinder1275]

Hi! Ive recently started my first poly ddlg family, and Ive created a gc for the three of us to talk. Im noticing the two littles arent really talking to each other, probably cause they are shy and they are new to poly families as well. I am wondering if anyone has any advice on how to get them talking? I tried some icebreakers like favorite animals and such, but didnt really work. I was wondering if maybe there were some rules I could implement that might get them interacting? If anyone has some advice, please comment or PM it to me, thanks so much!

[RavenclawPrincess]

If it were me, I would have wanted to be comfortable with the other little before entering an actual partnership. It honestly does help A LOT to know everyone well enough before partnering. Maybe try a little playdate or something?

[ryankinder1275]

If it were me, I would have wanted to be comfortable with the other little before entering an actual partnership. It honestly does help A LOT to know everyone well enough before partnering. Maybe try a little playdate or something?

Yea thats probably the right way to do it... but well here we are haha! I started ddlg relationships with them first so i kinda know each other. And ideas for online playdates? 

[PrincessAurora]

so basically your trying to get them into a triad it sounds?

you can't really force it though, if there's no chemistry there is no chemistry and you will have to figure out a solution.

like i'm in a poly,  my girlfriend has two boyfriends, we don't interact outside of just chatting casually. 

but also to be honest, you shouldn't of started any kind of relationship with out speaking to the girls first and even seeing if it was ok with them for you to start this kind of relationship up

[GlitterMonster]

I agree with everyones advice here. Poly is a lot of work, trust, and of course poly individuals. Since you have already attempted to force the triad, I would suggest having a conversation with them, explain what you would like. How you want them to interact, set up play dates for the two of them, maybe get a playdate with the two of them plus a friend little.

 

Also talk to them separately about what they want in a relationship, and in a poly relationship.

 

Don't create a rule to force them to talk it has potential to make it worse.

 

As for an online play date, it may depend in what you use to communicate. They could play an online game together, you could roleplay an outing together.

[tomcatmk]

How long have you know each little? Did you have one little longer then the other or did you hide them from eachother? You need to create a bond with only one an then talk about bringing in another little. Also think if the little wanted to bring in another dom how would you feel about that. It takes alot to overcome the feeling of not being enough for your partner.

[Kitten&Spice]

I agree that it would have been best for the littles to get to know each other first before entering a relationship with a second little! I am not to knowledgeable on poly relationships so you can take this advice with a grain of salt. I had an instance where I was brought into the idea of a poly relationship and it was actually me talking to the Little first! If it was me I think it would be best to allow it to be a little who not only gets along with your little but you as well! That way it is a shared effort and attraction! I don’t really know the whole situation but I hope this helps give a good idea on things! Good luck!