Daddy Trouble

[BabyPrincess246]

I’ve been with my daddy/bf for 9 months and at the beginning we had sex pretty much everyday sometimes multiple times a day and now I’m lucky if I get it once a week and it’s pretty much becoming a scheduled thing and it’s driving me crazy, I can tease on purpose and he will ignore it and keep watching his YouTube shows, it all started when he started taking his meds again after he cheated

[RomanticAussieDaddyDom]

Hi, I hope you’re doing well!

 

I’m unsure exactly as the to the reason, however, it’s important to note that there’s a possibility that his medication may be affecting him physically (depending on the medication of course). A lot of medication for example, anti-depressants, can unfortunately cause not only a decrease in sexual feelings emotionally and physical want for sexual activity but they can also cause sexual (physical and emotional) numbness, i.e. erectile problems and disinterest.

 

Please remember to communicate with him. Communicating with your partner in a healthy manner (I.e. talking and discussing rather than arguing) is very important. Tell him you’ve noticed and ask why he’s become disinterested. If he doesn’t give a reason then politely and sensitively ask him if he medication is affecting him. Please be gentle when asking this as it can be a sensitive topic and if he’s struggling physically due to the medication he may be insecure about it which is completely naturally. He may be unaware of the emotional numbness that can come from such medications and might not have noticed the change.

 

I hope this could help you and your partner. Please remember that if he is experiencing these problems to please be sensitive to the topic and try to support him.

 

Sincerely,

Lion-King

[LittleCoffeeMug]

Have you tried talking to him about how you're feeling?

 

Depending on what sort of meds he is taking it could have lowered his sex drive. Maybe you could talk to him about your needs and what you are wanting.

 

I wish I could give better advice and help but I don't think I can say anything to help. I can listen if you need to vent sorry BabyPrincess

[daddymind]

Yeh it's probably the meds. Just talk to him when he's receptive and be gentle. Don't come on to him if he's not in the mood as it might just make him feel worse. But I will say that even if he doesn't want sex he should at least be giving you attention and "helping you out". Maybe doing that will help to get his appetite back!

[Kitten&Spice]

I agree as what was mentioned before. It could have to do with the medicine. I know some medication decreases the sex drive in people and depending on what it is for the medicine can also make them a bit glazed over or like detached for awhile.

 

I have had some antidepressants that just make me extremely numb and like detached in a sense. Like I was there but it seemed some heavy to even mutter a word or do anything. So I would definitely check for some side effects on his medication and maybe consult with his doctor about the affects it is possibly having on him. Just so you can eliminate the medication as a possibility.

 

Another thing I did see that wasn’t mentioned by anyone else was when you mentioned that he cheated. I don’t know in which way you are mentioning but I am assuming that he had got with another person. I won’t say much else on this aspect because I am not for certain and it is nothing I want to poke my noise into. So I would just go about the medicine part! Good luck and hope things start working out!

[BabyPrincess246]

When I say cheating I found sexting messages and pics that he sent/received from his ex gf/ past little, she was calling him daddy and he was calling her little one and princess and after that I was devastated and didn’t like going into little space anymore cuz every time he’d call me princess or little one I’d see the messages in my head and the names felt dirty and tarnished. He moved across the country to be with me but then see him messaging her saying he hates it here and her saying things that made it seem like she thought he’d move her out here and start a life out here with her. He started taking his meds again cuz he said they help him tell people no, and ive been trying to accept that, but he barely even looks at me and it makes me feel like I’m not good enough and with the body issues I have I get in my own head.

[Kitten&Spice]

Oh I am really sorry to hear that. I am not to good at giving advice regarding how to deal with cheating or even incorporating that into the life style. However I think talking to him and telling him how you feel and what is going on in your head is the only solution I can see. I am sure he would be willing to listen.

 

I would definitely try and check out some side effects of the medication. That way you can see if it is affecting him or not. By the looks of it I can’t really say rather he is doing this based on the medication or the fact that he has a lot to think about regarding you and this other little. It is tough to say. But do not be discouraged! I mean not many people would go the extra miles to be with their little. And that should bring you some comfort knowing that.

 

And my advice as well is that you should love yourself! Don’t allow your insecurities to cover up what an amazing and exceptionally beautiful person you are! I know it is easier said then done but you need to love yourself! I myself am working on that and I know that it can actually affect not only you but the person you are with as well. Try not to worry so much ok? I hope everything works out for the best and that he can get back to normal soon!

[Guest QueenJellybean]

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