How to take roleplay relationship to a real one?

[MimikyuGhost]

Hello,

I'm a little. My daddy and I met online and we did a lot of roleplays. He assumed I didn't really like him. A few years later, I confessed and he was excited to find out how I feel.

It's been about a month since we started talking every day and trying to get to know each other on a non-sexual level.

We have a lot of differences. I've been homeless or in/out of abusive homes for many years (he is aware), whereas he works at a large company's corporate headquarters. There's a huge disparity in our lifestyles.

I almost got an apartment finally, but it fell through again. I felt heartbroken.

When I talk about how bad/scary/traumatic my life is, he often responds with things like: "I hope you figure it out," "Good luck, princess," or "I'm sorry, princess."

We were planning to meet next month in real life for the first time. But I feel really hurt that someone I feel so much affection for just wishes me good luck when my life is endangered.

We get along amazingly well in role plays and have begun to bond closely as people also. I'm just not sure... I feel like I shouldn't get attached to him in this way or call him daddy anymore when he has no responsibility for me.

I still want to meet, but I'm really struggling with my feelings being hurt. I enjoy the affectionate feelings we have, but he's not truly my daddy yet.

Does anyone else have experience with stopping a roleplay and starting a real relationship?

[Nymph]

I don't do or have ever done roleplay, I do not like it. It's important that if you still roleplay it's very clear what is indeed roleplaying and what is being said straight and honestly as yourselves.

 

That being said, I have plenty of experience with online relationships that transitioned from online, to long distance and then in person "normal" relationships. You are correct he is not your daddy yet, he is not your boyfriend yet, he is just a friendly person on the internet that thinks he might like you and you might like him back, time will tell.

 

He might be keeping some distance emotionally because he needs to know if things will work out in person, a lot of scammers out there trying to get people to send them money so maybe he is wary of that. Once you meet in person that is likely to change, so try to meet asap even if you won't be able to meet often or on regular basis.

 

Also you have to keep in mind, due your very different backgrounds, he might not realize what you are going through... or maybe he does and he is not willing to play the knight in shiny armor card... which honestly, that is a good thing since that would not be a healthy relationship. If your life in endangered you can't expect a stranger on the internet to come to your rescue.

[Satan]

I am sorry you are struggling.

As said above this person isn't your boyfriend or daddy etc. He is a strange.

 

What did you want him to say other than he is sorry?

 

You said "He has no responsibility for me."

What kind of "responsibility" are you expecting him to take on?

 

A Daddy isn't someone to run in and fix everything and give you a place to live.

 

Again I understand you are in a bad position with out a place to live currently but you don't even know this guy.

 

If your alluding that he should somehow how "take responsibility" and give you a place to stay cuz he works at a corporation, I think you already have very unhealthy and unrealistic expectations in this relationship.

 

You should definitely ask if he wants a relationship and to be more than just role play partners. If he does want a relationship should still should not expect someone you just got in a relationship to take responsibility for you.

 

 

I've never done a role-playing situation. I have had someone I met online become an irl partner for a time. I do think its very possible to met someone online and build a bond that can move into an in person relationship.

 

Just be honest and clear about your wants and needs and have realistic expectations of what will happen.

 

I do hope your living situation gets better and you are able to be safe.

[Kitten&Spice]

I am sorry to hear you are having such a hard time at the moment. It sounds like maybe he is in a way detached from his emotions or possibly has no idea how to respond to something he himself has no knowledge of.

 

I myself had experienced something similar with someone I thought to be very important to me. I would role play all the time with them and that seemed to be the only thing they ever wanted or talked about. They were completely detached from conversations and when I would say that I am not in the mood or that I just wanted to talk regularly it was like they malfunctioned. They would say generic responses and even stop talking. So out of fear of not having them I would force myself to suck it up.

 

My predicament was not health to begin with and they were not a good person. But one thing I can say is that communication is key. Let them know how you feel. Tell them that you want them to be open and that whatever they are feeling they can tell you. Not everyone knows what they are doing is affecting things. Some people just tend to lack a response. Even though they deeply want to understand and feel sympathy they lack the words to back it up.

 

I think that is the only thing I can give you as advice! Some people just prefer to stick to the role play aspect so just telling him that this is what you are expecting and that you have deeper feelings beyond just daddy and little will be where I would start! I hope this helps!

[MimikyuGhost]

Thank you for the comments. I appreciate the reality. It’s hard to come to terms with.

 

Our relationship is very complicated... because he is my longterm customer, he wants to date me, he wanted me to be his sugar baby, but he also already says “I love you” both in and out of roleplay. He was the one who said it first- not me!

 

I understand we’re strangers. I have to stay aware that he’s lying/fantasizing still when he says intimate things about love, living together, introducing me to friends, etc.

 

I let him know that I feel hurt by the fake things and questioned his status as “daddy.” I guess I’ll see how things turn out, although I’m ready to block him if I need to now.

 

Thanks again for your comments. I’ll be realistic. : )