Is being little separate or a part of your sexual side?

[Littlenicole40]

I’m still super learning about myself but wanted to ask other littles...  when you find yourself in little space or feeling little, do you feel more or less sexual?  I am kind of struggling with the fact that while I really like certain little things, I’m also turned on/more sexual feeling when I feel myself feeling or getting in my younger or littler self, even though I want to do little things...  like maybe watch a Disney movie and snuggle or wear younger clothes  - does that even make sense?  

[Raphael]

Hi there,

You asked for other Littles advice so I'm not sure you want to hear a Daddy's opinion on this one, so I'll keep it short.

I think there's no cut and clear preference regarding this. Many littles like to regress and don't want any sexy stuff involved in it. They are more like agere. Then there's many many littles who include sex or sex games in their little space, for them this is part of the experience, and whether you call it a kink or otherwise, it's just how they enjoy it.

Personally I enjoy a Little capable of and wanting to sexually experience while in little space. I don't find wrong in it and if done well it can be very loving and nurturing for both the little and the daddy.

[Littlenicole40]

Hi there,

You asked for other Littles advice so I'm not sure you want to hear a Daddy's opinion on this one, so I'll keep it short.

I think there's no cut and clear preference regarding this. Many littles like to regress and don't want any sexy stuff involved in it. They are more like agere. Then there's many many littles who include sex or sex games in their little space, for them this is part of the experience, and whether you call it a kink or otherwise, it's just how they enjoy it.

Personally I enjoy a Little capable of and wanting to sexually experience while in little space. I don't find wrong in it and if done well it can be very loving and nurturing for both the little and the daddy.

 

Thanks for responding It’s ok if it’s not just littles...  It’s kind of nice to hear an opinion from he other side of the fence too I guess.   I think of it like a loving thing too.  It just seems really confusing because it doesn’t mean that it’s just about being naughty. I dunno if that makes sense.  It seems like most people think it’s all some perverted sex play thing but I don’t think that’s what everyone thinks.  I mean that’s not how I see this whole thing but I am still learning about it and my feelings...  I dunno now I am rambling.  

[Lollipox]

Henlo again.

 

i am a 24/7 little who doesn't ageplay or age regress.

So if I am sexual I am still Little, if that makes sense?

Sometimes I'm extra bubbly, playful or dorky. That doesn't magically disappear if I'm *cringe* getting sexual. (sry, genitals still gross me out )

 

Most people (if you mean the community as it currently stands) don't actually think of it as a perverted sexual thing- which btw, it isn't perverted to be sexual as a Little. That may be the wrong wording to use in future, especially in regards to yourself it may only further put you down.

DD/lg is a subcategory of BDSM. That's its origin.

 

Age Regression is its own thing, but can overlap with DD/lg. Age regression-only community members are often non-sexual.

People who misunderstand DD/lg, whether in the BDSM community or not, usually consider it "perverted" because they don't understand that it's between consenting a d u l t s and nothing more. It's about child-like qualities in adults, and those who find it endearing.

 

I think I've mentioned this before somewhere but-

It's acceptable in society to have the following fetishes and watch pornography based on:

Schoolgirl fetishes

Cheerleader fetishes

Babysitter fetishes

Girlscout fetishes

 

They're common themes (I don't watch porn, m just observational) and people openly dress up as sexy versions of cartoon characters and whatnot for roleplay purposes.

 

The fear comes from not understanding and the unknown, and fear can often be expressed as disdain for the cause.

Ergo, maybe your uncertainty is coming from others' misunderstandings, so you should focus more on your own feelings about it and ignore outside influences while you figure it out.

Either way, I hope you find a way to feel okay with yourself ^-^

[Guest Teasing Tink]

If I'm in a sexy mood then yes -- same as my adult side. Depends what mood I'm in. It's not really just one thing for me. The two are integrated for me since at the end of the day, I'm biologically an adult and those urges don't  just disappear for me while in little space though I can understand why others wouldn't want to engage in it while in little space. I don't see sex as some dirty thing though, it always just feels natural/loving to me because I believe that's the whole purpose of sex -- a bonding activity with your partner whom you love. But I haven't experienced sexual trauma of any kind or really internalized negative messages about sex so that could be part of why I don't feel shame surrounding being sexual while in little space. To me, it makes sense because I feel more vulnerable/open while in little space which translates to having an easier time surrendering/being submissive in the sexual realm as well which is important for good sex. Can't have my guard up. It makes me feel warm, fuzzy and safe during sex. It's a nice feeling. 

Edited June 19, 2020 by Teasing Tink

[Littlenicole40]

Henlo again.

 

i am a 24/7 little who doesn't ageplay or age regress.

So if I am sexual I am still Little, if that makes sense?

Sometimes I'm extra bubbly, playful or dorky. That doesn't magically disappear if I'm *cringe* getting sexual. (sry, genitals still gross me out )

 

Most people (if you mean the community as it currently stands) don't actually think of it as a perverted sexual thing- which btw, it isn't perverted to be sexual as a Little. That may be the wrong wording to use in future, especially in regards to yourself it may only further put you down.

DD/lg is a subcategory of BDSM. That's its origin.

 

Age Regression is its own thing, but can overlap with DD/lg. Age regression-only community members are often non-sexual.

People who misunderstand DD/lg, whether in the BDSM community or not, usually consider it "perverted" because they don't understand that it's between consenting a d u l t s and nothing more. It's about child-like qualities in adults, and those who find it endearing.

 

I think I've mentioned this before somewhere but-

It's acceptable in society to have the following fetishes and watch pornography based on:

Schoolgirl fetishes

Cheerleader fetishes

Babysitter fetishes

Girlscout fetishes

 

They're common themes (I don't watch porn, m just observational) and people openly dress up as sexy versions of cartoon characters and whatnot for roleplay purposes.

 

The fear comes from not understanding and the unknown, and fear can often be expressed as disdain for the cause.

Ergo, maybe your uncertainty is coming from others' misunderstandings, so you should focus more on your own feelings about it and ignore outside influences while you figure it out.

Either way, I hope you find a way to feel okay with yourself ^-^

 

 

Thanks for the responses and encouragement!   I think a lot of it is really me figuring it all out and not ignoring things about myself because society is like...  no that’s not ok.  You know?  And you are so right.  Like it’s ok a to be a naughty little school girl for Halloween, in porn, or even at home and it’s “all in good fun,” but throw around words like daddy or little and people wanna freak out.  

[Littlenicole40]

If I'm in a sexy mood then yes -- same as my adult side. Depends what mood I'm in. It's not really just one thing for me. The two are integrated for me since at the end of the day, I'm biologically an adult and those urges don't  just disappear for me while in little space though I can understand why others wouldn't want to engage in it while in little space. I don't see sex as some dirty thing though, it always just feels natural/loving to me because I believe that's the whole purpose of sex -- a bonding activity with your partner whom you love. But I haven't experienced sexual trauma of any kind or really internalized negative messages about sex so that could be part of why I don't feel shame surrounding being sexual while in little space. To me, it makes sense because I feel more vulnerable/open while in little space which translates to having an easier time surrendering/being submissive in the sexual realm as well which is important for good sex. Can't have my guard up. It makes me feel warm, fuzzy and safe during sex. It's a nice feeling. 

 

Wow that’s a great response and makes so much sense...  the bonding aspect and really that’s how I imagine it in my head - it’s an intimate, bonding and nurturing experience...  or I would imagine it would be as I’ve not had an official DDlg relationship before, but it’s the same things I am attracted to in relationships I’ve sought out...  I think there are just different names and social stigmas attached to DDlg stuff.  I do feel like the vulnerability of being able to be in little space with a real daddy would be pretty incredible for both people.  

[LittleTeacup]

I’ll say first that I’m shy and don’t fall in love easily and haven’t had sex yet. But being little is just part of my personality. I don’t regress and I don’t age play either. I’m more like a childlike adult who’s looking for someone who would appreciate that and not just tolerate it or *shudders* tells me to grow up. So when I find a partner I love very much and trust, I think I’d want to make love Probably want to cuddle a lot first and go slow, but sharing my body with my beloved is like the closest I can get to them. When I feel soft and little sometimes I daydream about “special cuddles”. But always super loving and sweet. I’m getting over years of believing sex was “naughty” and “dirty” although I wasn’t specifically told this by anyone. But I was taught in high school sex ed that abstinence is best and my family never really talked about it except the men made off color jokes sometimes which made me uncomfortable. I’m too much of a good girl and didn’t/don’t want to be “bad” in any way. So degradation or any hint of naughtiness is a hard limit for me. I have to be told expressing my sexuality is good and like physical love. And love is never wrong.

 

I hope I didn’t ramble on too much...

[Bearly]

Not sexual to me. I'm a teddy bear friend to littles, and in teddyspace I have nothing but fur between my legs.

[prince eefy]

Nope. I’m more of an age regressor. The thought of anything s*xual when I’m regressed makes me very uncomfortable.

[Novel]

Edit: Possible TW, not really sure but just in case ❤

 

 

 

 

 

For me, I tend to have both sides. I don't like going into detail, suffice to say that I went through some things in my childhood. Being little helps me regain innocence lost, while exploring the option to "lose it" again on my own terms; the darker, the better. So for me, it's a way to regain control if I'm sexual as a little. I hope that makes sense

Edited June 29, 2020 by Novel

[Littlenicole40]

Edit: Possible TW, not really sure but just in case ❤

For me, I tend to have both sides. I don't like going into detail, suffice to say that I went through some things in my childhood. Being little helps me regain innocence lost, while exploring the option to "lose it" again on my own terms; the darker, the better. So for me, it's a way to regain control if I'm sexual as a little. I hope that makes sense

Makes a ton of sense and relatable.