Meeting a partner and doing it safely

[Littlenicole40]

Does anyone have tips for finding a partner but in a safe manner?  I’m a little and want to find a daddy, but I’m really struggling to find out where to look.  People don’t seem to meet in real life and just kick off chat about DDlg or a great DDlg friend they have to set you up with.  Online has been scary...  the couple people who reach out to me so far on other online venues are...  creepy for lack of a better word. DDlg seems to mean just hooking up for a “session” or something.  I’ve even had people try and offer me money or drugs to get together and act out some scenario but that’s not even close to what I’m looking for.  I want a quality relationship. Does anyone have tips on finding one in a safe manner?  How did you meet your little or daddy?

[The RealDaddyCat]

a lot of cities have munches out in restaurants to socialize and meet new people. I am down in southern Indiana and we have a pretty active group. Our city only has about 150,000 but we have several groups. I thought maybe your area had something like this.

[LittlePupRune]

Try looking for local groups, and once its safe, attend munches and gatherings.

[Guest Teasing Tink]

Does anyone have tips for finding a partner but in a safe manner?  I’m a little and want to find a daddy, but I’m really struggling to find out where to look.  People don’t seem to meet in real life and just kick off chat about DDlg or a great DDlg friend they have to set you up with.  Online has been scary...  the couple people who reach out to me so far on other online venues are...  creepy for lack of a better word. DDlg seems to mean just hooking up for a “session” or something.  I’ve even had people try and offer me money or drugs to get together and act out some scenario but that’s not even close to what I’m looking for.  I want a quality relationship. Does anyone have tips on finding one in a safe manner?  How did you meet your little or daddy?

 

 

 

I met my daddy on okcupid but it was rather unexpected/lucky the way it turned out because we were just supposed to be platonic friends originally for various reasons until we discovered how highly compatible we were and a romantic attraction just naturally blossomed from the friendship from there. As for online stuff, I made sure to emphasize in my profile that I wasn't interested in casual sex/play partners/fwb's etc. but an actual longterm, romantic relationship. I just happen to be very kinky and a little too. You'll still get shady characters messaging you but that at least lets people know where you stand. I avoided profiles/people that are sparse or that have what seem to be red flags to me. I didn't bother with people where it was obvious they didn't read my profile but were just attracted to me physically (cuz obviously that means they're only interested in one thing). I guess it's mostly just speed reading people or trusting your intuition which you kind of just develop after meeting one predator/narcissist. Once I've encountered one, I feel like I've met them all. They follow similar patterns which makes it easier for me to spot. But if you don't know what red flags to look for or where to start, I recommend just reading a guide on how to spot a narcissist on a dating site (and/or in person) cuz all predators are basically that. Sometimes I've doubted my instincts and still talked to the person and found out I was right and they were best to avoid. But at least I know and then can move on. No harm done. I also emphasized that I prefer to start off as friends so there isn't all this pressure/expectation for some romance to develop quickly. For me, the chemistry is either there or it's not. I filtered through a lot of people. There were a few daddies on okc who seemed like genuinely good people, I just felt we weren't compatible for other reasons or didn't feel a strong pull towards them (I'm very picky and I knew what I was looking for), so I didn't message them back.

 

People who are predators or just looking for casual sex are a dime a dozen (especially on Fetlife -- though I'm sure there's rare exceptions) so it mostly just comes down to weeding people out to find your diamond in the rough. But I guess that's just true in general when trying to fine your mate. You're not going to be compatible with just anyone even if they're a quality person. Just ignore any messages that seem shady. They're not entitled to a response if they're going to be gross/creepy. And avoid anyone who acts like they own you within only a few days of talking to you and attempts to order you around as if you're already in some DD/lg dynamic with them. Anyone who walks around with a sense of entitlement. Sometimes it's subtle but it's there. They're like wolves in sheep clothing. Other times it's blatantly obvious who to avoid. 

Edited June 19, 2020 by Teasing Tink