xxShyPrincessxx Posted June 16, 2020 Report Posted June 16, 2020 Hi friends! I've known about ddlg for years now, and immediately felt connected to the title of being a little. Why then do I find it difficult to fully delve into my little space? I can snap out if it very quickly, and I feel like I've never even seen my true little side at its entirety. Any thoughts on this? Is this normal to experience? Maybe it's just because I've never had a proper Daddy to help bring out that side of me...? I'm really not sure, and I'm starting to feel like maybe I'm not little enough 2
The RealDaddyCat Posted June 16, 2020 Report Posted June 16, 2020 The big thing about being little is are you in a comfortable enough place to let yourself go. Sometimes at first if there is distraction around you may be gaurded. 2
The RealDaddyCat Posted June 16, 2020 Report Posted June 16, 2020 The big thing about being little is are you in a comfortable enough place to let yourself go. Sometimes at first if there is distraction around you may be gaurded. 1
MasterPhotog Posted June 16, 2020 Report Posted June 16, 2020 Shy Princess, Considering your situation, it may possibly be a combination of one or more of the following: 1. While sliding into little space is mainly litte's own will and desire, however having a supportive/encouraging Daddy, in real time or online definitely helps. 2. Many littles find the current COVID-19 situation challenging or unhelpful to say the least. 3. You may want to look at your health and well being; if you're eating and sleeping well or if there's anything at work or in your personal life may be stressing you causing you to deal with things a 'big', therefore, your little side is taking a break. Hope it helps, feel free to DM me if I can be of any help. MP 5
Alaskan Daddy Posted June 17, 2020 Report Posted June 17, 2020 you are perfect the way you are. There are many great thoughts that MasterPhotog shared. You also raised a good point about having the right daddy for who you are. Someone who can love and nurture you and allow you to feel safe enough to open up your little side more. I know your feelings about being 'little enough' are real. Every little is different but all of them are just the perfect for who they are inside their heart. 1
Guest DaddysSweetpea16 Posted June 17, 2020 Report Posted June 17, 2020 I found DDlg years ago, I’ve been involved with it since. I’ve had the same Daddy the entire time who also happens to be my husband and who is very supportive. Nonetheless I couldn’t fully slip into space until a couple of months ago. What changed? I honestly have no idea, it just started happening. It’s really okay. Each of us are different, and that’s what makes life beautiful. There is no such thing as not little enough or too little, we’re all perfectly perfect just the way we are. 1
Guest clumsy_little Posted June 17, 2020 Report Posted June 17, 2020 It can be because you are staying with someone who doesn't know about your little side? I had the same problem before and still have it now. I can't slip into little space knowing that anyone (who doesn't know about it and will surely look down at it) can barge into your room, you can't lock the doors because your parents don't allow you to. So I can only slip into little space completely if they are in deep sleep. 2
Guest clumsy_little Posted June 17, 2020 Report Posted June 17, 2020 It can be because you are staying with someone who doesn't know about your little side? I had the same problem before and still have it now. I can't slip into little space knowing that anyone (who doesn't know about it and will surely look down at it) can barge into your room, you can't lock the doors because your parents don't allow you to. So I can only slip into little space completely if they are in deep sleep. 1
princessfreckles Posted June 17, 2020 Report Posted June 17, 2020 The cool thing about being a little is that you can make it suit you, so you are little enough. Never doubt that. There isn't one set way to be a little or explore your little side. I think it's great that you can get into little space on your own without a Daddy (it took me close to a year to get to that point after the heartbreak from my first Daddy abandoning me). I'm sure a future Caregiver will appreciate that. There are a lot of reasons why you haven't been able to dive in and explore your little-ness completely. Depending on your living situation, it could stifle that side of you. People being around you who don't know you're a little, or know anything about ddlg. Worse, if you live with people who are judgmental. I know being around certain people will pull me out of little space in a heartbeat. Also, if you have a lot of stress that can be overwhelming and difficult to get into little space because the stress is occupying your thoughts as you try to be little. And if you're pressuring yourself to go further and be more little like you assume you should, that could be counter intuitive. Maybe try some new little activities and see if it helps? For me dressing up in a little outfit has great influence and helps me feel like my middle self. Maybe put on an outfit while you do your little activities? Do you have any little friends? I've been without a caregiver for quite some time, and being with them in person or in a group online (like kik, discord, etc) can help me get into little space. So maybe explore friendships with other littles if you haven't, or find some online groups/chats to help you. Simply talking to them is enough to bring out my little side. We're swapping little ideas, talking about our favorite stuff, etc. The presence of littles has helped me get into little space more than any caregiver of mine ever has. At the end of the day, just be patient with yourself. Allow yourself time to learn and grow. Try new things. Mix it up. Most of all never think you aren't little enough. If you feel little, than you are little. I hope this was helpful! 3
princessfreckles Posted June 17, 2020 Report Posted June 17, 2020 (edited) For some reason it posted twice. So I deleted it in this one. Sorry about that! Edited June 17, 2020 by princessfreckles
xxShyPrincessxx Posted June 17, 2020 Author Report Posted June 17, 2020 Wowie! So many wonderful comments, thanks everybody!! What I gather is that one, I live with a roommate, she is very supportive and actually likes that I'm a little, but I don't wanna be little around her because she isn't one.. also, yes stress is probably a big one. Maybe I just need some proper alone time so I can give my little self the full attention that I need. And I think having little friends would be super duper helpful! Again thank you everyone, it's so nice to know I'm being heard
xxShyPrincessxx Posted June 17, 2020 Author Report Posted June 17, 2020 Wowie! So many wonderful comments, thanks everybody!! What I gather is that one, I live with a roommate, she is very supportive and actually likes that I'm a little, but I don't wanna be little around her because she isn't one.. also, yes stress is probably a big one. Maybe I just need some proper alone time so I can give my little self the full attention that I need. And I think having little friends would be super duper helpful! Again thank you everyone, it's so nice to know I'm being heard
SquishyBaby97 Posted August 2, 2020 Report Posted August 2, 2020 Hi friend! I feel this way sometimes, in fact, I was feeling this a little bit today. That's totally normal, I think. I was introduced to Ddlg not too terribly long ago, about 8 months ago. While I have fully embraced the lifestyle, I have struggled to find my place in the community and as a little. I have the support of a wonderful and supportive Daddy , who has some background in the community. I STILL struggle occasionally to fully embrace my little side. But I have finally begun to be my little self, to do the little things that make me happy and make my Daddy happy. It takes time and it takes experimenting and challenging yourself, imo. Try things. Play, imagine, be silly and outrageous. It'll come to you. You'll eventually reach a place where you don't feel silly... But you feel free. You feel open and true. I hope you find your way. I'm here to chat. I don't know any other littles, so.. I'm looking for friends Good Luck!
SquishyBaby97 Posted August 2, 2020 Report Posted August 2, 2020 Hi friend! I feel this way sometimes, in fact, I was feeling this a little bit today. That's totally normal, I think. I was introduced to Ddlg not too terribly long ago, about 8 months ago. While I have fully embraced the lifestyle, I have struggled to find my place in the community and as a little. I have the support of a wonderful and supportive Daddy , who has some background in the community. I STILL struggle occasionally to fully embrace my little side. But I have finally begun to be my little self, to do the little things that make me happy and make my Daddy happy. It takes time and it takes experimenting and challenging yourself, imo. Try things. Play, imagine, be silly and outrageous. It'll come to you. You'll eventually reach a place where you don't feel silly... But you feel free. You feel open and true. I hope you find your way. I'm here to chat. I don't know any other littles, so.. I'm looking for friends Good Luck!
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