Is daddy punishing me?

[XxPeachesxX]

So today was a rough day for me and I had been bratty towards my daddy saying what if I don’t do as I was told ... but Ended up telling him I was sorry and I understood that I was going to do what I was told to but then I had forgotten to do so. I told him I was sorry I had forgotten to do what I was told (which I’d forgotten because of things to do with what made my day rough) I wasn’t intentionally disobeying him an now he’s Been ignoring me but reading my messages and idk if this is him punishing me or what... but I don’t like it

[Guest gekki]

that would be ghosting. it is't okay

[Lollipox]

It's not ghosting. Ghosting is being ignored for a longer period of time than that.

 

He might be mad because you told him you were sorry and that you'd do whatever the thing was, but then didn't do it.

Give him some space, and just recognize that he might be disappointed and see things from his POV too.

 

If he hasn't spoken to you in a week, that's negligent to both you and his relationship with you.

If he hasn't spoken to you in a month or more, and never does again- that's ghosting.

But I think maybe he's just feeling a little mad.

 

Did you already ask him if he's okay?

Has he ever mentioned using "the silent treatment" as a punishment before?

Some Daddies use it for punishment- because it's effective. But normally it's consensual due to the discussion of rules, punishments etc earlier on.

[Alaskan Daddy]

I would say he is punishing you in a very immature way. It sounds like he is being 'passive aggressive'.  If he is punishing you at least he should say as much, by tell you he is giving you a 'time-out'. I am going to add two things. I don't believe that rules should be more important than the relationship and it also sounds like your rough day is more important needing to do what your daddy needed you to do. It sounds like you communicated what happened with your daddy and if it was me I would have put you on my lap and listened to your excuse. I am sorry if I am preaching.

[MissPattch]

If you apologised for being "bratty" and for not doing as you were asked, his reaction of ignoring you is not an acceptable form of punishment, especially seeing as he did not tell you thats what was going to happen. Every body is entitled to bad days, and being punished for not being on top of your game because of it isn't very fair. If he is reading your messages, maybe try letting him know how his lack of communication and empathy towards you having a hard time is making you feel. Yes, as Poxie said, he might be upset that you didn't do as you were asked, but as a CG, he should be willing and able to talk to you through his frustration to be able to come back to some sort of suitable and reasonable situation <3

[Barney048]

That's not a punishment, that's emotional abusse

[MysticSand]

I agree strongly with what poxie above said.

 

I think it honestly depends. If it were me ten years ago, it'd be me trying to emotionally manipulate you.

If it were me now, it'd be because I'm really upset and don't want to talk for awhile because it'd be bad for both of us if I did - but I'd at least tell you I'd need some time for myself.

 

No one can know his reasons except for him. It's been less than a day, give him some time for himself and wait for his response.

Continuing to message him might be making him more upset and pushing him further away.

My advice would be just to give one message saying you're concerned and upset but understand that he may need time and that you'll wait for his response.

[The RealDaddyCat]

No matter what it is this is not ok. Be very careful.

[princessfreckles]

That's not a punishment, that's emotional abusse

Exactly. Let me say I'm sorry this happened to you. It's extremely hurtful and stressful. Unless you two had discussed ignoring you as a punishment (which I don't know a single little who has ever agreed to it), ignoring you as a consequence for misbehaving is NOT okay. That's manipulative and as stated emotionally abusive. It doesn't teach you anything or help you learn your lesson of being bratty. When negotiating with your Daddy, deciding rules, and punishments I'm assuming you never agreed to being ignored. 

 

I come from the mindset of, ignoring as a punishment is never acceptable. When your Daddy comes to his senses (ie is talking to you again), you need to have a serious grownup talk with him when you're not in little space and when he's not in Daddy space about his actions. Be clear on how they made you feel. Be clear on how that's not an acceptable form of punishment to you, and that you never consented to such treatment. It seems like you may need to redefine/renegotiate your rules and punishments so this doesn't happen again. Discuss alternative punishments such as no dessert, washing your mouth out with soap, a spanking, writing lines, corner time, etc. Those are more effective, and don't involve your Daddy not speaking to you. 

 

Good luck, and again I'm sorry this happened to you.