When do I make it official?

[Stopxmove]

Just to be clear I will be taking this slowly as we just met and I'm allowing my little to open up when she is comfortable. Me and her have had rough relationships in the past and I am new to being a Daddy so just trying to learn so I can prepare for our future. We have a strong connection and on our first date I found lut her love of being a little.

 

I have no experience being a Daddy but I seem to be a natural. I am caring, extremely loving, stand up for what I believe in, protective of loved ones and patient. I have been able to answer most of my questions through conversations with her and also researching how to be a caregiver online and through videos. I however can't seem to find a guideline on how to take the relationship to the next level (boyfriend and girlfriend) in a DDLG relationship. Of course we are new and I will give it time to make sure we are compatible but I also care for her and would like to prepare for our future.

 

So DDs or LGs what are your experiences? I am her daddy right now but do I ask her to be my girlfriend once we've seen eachother for awhile? Should I let my little take it to the next level instead so she can open up at her own pace?

 

Thanks for your advice!

 

EDIT: I connected with her outside of her little space. We have already have had sex. I like her company and personality and would like to get to know her and her little space and grow together as a couple. Looking for a LTR and potentially marriage if we are truly compatible and healthy.

 

I appreciate all the insight! I have to treat this like a regular relationship with a mix of learning something new. Thanks for the advice.

Edited June 10, 2020 by Stopxmove

[littlekami]

I think that if you are her Daddy she is already more than your girlfriend. 

 

You can also have more than one title. 

 

I refer to my daddy as my husband when we are speaking with most people, he's only my daddy in private. Maybe you could ask her how she feels about you referring to her as your girlfriend to friends and family?

 

As for getting to the next level, whatever that is to you both; communicate your wants/needs, listen to her wants/needs, don't focus too much on titles, spend quality time together, have fun, be safe.  

[Guest sshyguy123]

I don't think there is any hard and fast idicators of if or when to 'take it to the next level' as you say... Littlekami is correct; talk to your little, let her know how you feel and find out how she feels about it. It's a natural progression and should be a comfortable idea for both of you.

 

Treat it as you would any other relationship with a woman... you just have the added bonus of another dynamic! Discuss it with her when you think she would be receptive to the idea.

Edited June 10, 2020 by sshyguy123

[Drillbit46]

It comes down to the dynamic you two wish to have as well. Something to also ask is if you two are going to be Monogamous or Polygamous. There is no set timeline for when things are to happen. The important thing is to be open with communication, honest with feelings, and discuss things.

 

Me personally, I am monogamous, and when I am in a relationship with a little she is also my girlfriend with long-term in mind. In private I am her daddy and she is my little, in public, I am her boyfriend and she is my girlfriend. We will do the "normal" relationship things, dates, trips, family gatherings, hangout with each other friends, and things along those lines with the DDLG lifestyle mixed in to it as well, just not fully. Then in private that's when she can go fully into little space. When I start talking to a little and discussing the relationship I make these things clear at the start, and she makes her wants and desires clear as well.

 

Every relationship is different and it comes down to how the parties involved feel. Best advice, is to sit down, talk to her, and be open and honest, and work together to figure out the next step in your relationship.

[Alaskan Daddy]

My advice is to take things one day at a time and let the relationship evolve naturally. You and your little will know when to take the next step. My very first little was also my girlfriend. She was my girlfriend before she was my little or I was her daddy. Every relationship is different. Try not to over think things. You and your little are on your way to a great life together

[baby_k]

Define your "next level".

 

One can have bf/gf rel, just ddlg rel, both those combined or for example friends with benefits kinda rel.

It's always important to talk of the expectations both have about relationship and where you want/hope it to go eventually ( or at least both know how the other one thinks as you might also just not know ).

 

Good to know if someone is hoping for marriage and other just some fun time until they move out of the country. Also, at least imo relationship isn't there nor there is any commitment about monogamy or not seeing other's unless it is agreed together: all those things need to be disgussed. And it's always fine to say "atm I'm not wanting to commit to xxxx but we can see where this goes, I have not ruled out yyy with you, just that were are not yet on that level". So, there should be no pressure to date or anything even if you talk about it for it is only talk, nothing more.