I'm currently dating someone but they really don't like anything to do with ddlg

[Okashi-no-uta]

so i really love the person i'm with right now but they tend to make fun or be put off by ddlg, so i can't really bring it up that i am a little... they don't really satisfy me but i can't bring up why because it would bring up the ddlg topic.

I'm really conflicted, they tend to tease me a lot so i can't really tell them what i'm into

Has anyone else had this happen?

[Nymph]

Their jokes might be a way to test the waters so you need to own it. If they enjoy teasing you they probably find your cutesy side endearing and to add a blush to it it just makes it more innocent looking and sweet. So he might be more into this than you think.

 

There is also the chance he is still in denial so he "looks down" of it because he is ashamed, if that is the case you will need to give him time.

 

May I ask what are you into? depending on the kind of stuff you like perhaps you can take the initiative and just try some mild stuff without planning or labels and if he enjoys it then you can talk about it and go from there.

 

How exactly does he make fun or gets put off by DDlg if you have not even brought it up?

[Guest SpaceGhost]

As with most advice, the real answer is to be blunt, honest, and decisive.

 

If ddlg is something you need to be happy, can you be happy long term without it if your partner doesn't want it? If not you need to find out or possibly move on.

 

If your partner is embarrassed and just trying to bring it up in a dumb way like Nymph said above. Then you need to be blunt about it, say it's something you like, and ask if they'll quit being mean about it because you want it with them.

 

Either way you'll have to talk to them and be prepared to make some kind of action.

[daddymind]

I see this causing a major problem down the road. If being little is a part of you, how are you going to express and explore that openly if he's not into it, or teases you about it? You can't hide it forever. It's difficult because you say you love the guy, but at some point I guess you're going to want meaningful involvement from him. If he can give you that, great. If not, and you need it from a partner, then you have to make a decision about whether or not this person is right for you.

[Drillbit46]

The main things have already been stated and asked, If you feel comfortable sharing the information, it would help us give a better response if we knew how they make fun of you and DDLG and the kind of things they are saying. Especially if you have not brought up DDLG and that you are a little yet. A lot of individuals are put off by DDLG and look down upon it because they don't understand it. Perhaps if you sat down, and had a serious conversation with them about it and explained to your partner what it is, what it's about, and what your needs are they'd be more open to learning about the DDLG lifestyle.

 

I've always been open about being a Daddy-Dom and the DDLG lifestyle with my vanilla friends, at first they are very judgemental and jump to the awful stigma about how DDLG, age play, or even pet play must mean the individuals want ***Highlight the next text after this - Possible Trigger Warning* to do things to their daughter, a child, or an animal. *** When in reality the participants do NOT want that. It's hard to work past the initial shock when someone is first learning about DDLG because so many instantly go to that awful stigma.

 

Another thing you need to think about and figure out for your own well-being is if you are okay with not being fully satisfied in the relationship or if they are worth changing who you are for. It's a very difficult thing and requires a lot of thought. If you are comfortable with giving us more details and information about the situation we might be able to help you better.

 

I hope you find the best solution that will make you the happiest!!

Edited June 7, 2020 by Drillbit46

[Okashi-no-uta]

Ahh thank you everyone for replying! I think you're all right, i'll nee to have a proper chat with them about it instead of just going by what they have said about ddlg before. They haven't said it grossed them out but they did say they found it weird. Their friends also make fun of ddlg a lot so its like a big inside joke with their friends i think. I hope everytjing goes well with the chat and they accept me.

Please be sending positive vibes my way!

And thank you guys again for taking time to read this!

[Drillbit46]

I wish for the absolute best for you and I hope it goes well!! May i suggest trying to find some links for them to look at you can share as well, something with a bit of information about the lifestyle. If you need anything else, please don't be shy to ask us! We're here to lend advice and help with what we can!