Need Advice

[Clingy_PrincessErin2]

Hi everyone,

 

I am hoping I can get some advice from people about my current situation. My daddy and I just broke up, it was amicable, we both had to admit that things were not going great right now and that our relationship just wasn't going in a good or healthy direction and it wasn't making either of us happy at this moment in time. However, I truly do still love him with all of my heart and I don't think I will ever stop loving him. I honestly don't even want to imagine myself with anyone else and I can't even imagine any other person being my daddy, feels like he is the only person I could want to be my daddy. I want him to be happy more than anything and I want to be happy too. It just is really hard to have to feel like the person you love with all your heart doesn't make you 100% happy and not even fully understand why. I guess I am just second guessing my decision to break up with him. Part of me still hopes that we can get back together after some time apart, he is a really great guy and I know we could have been happy together we just couldn't make it work right now, but I also feel like he will never take me back after this. Just looking for some advice on whether I should be second guessing this or not.... Thank you in advance to anyone who reads this and reaches out 

[DD_UK_Fun_Guy]

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[Vmaxxx]

First of all sorry for what happened. If you still hope for good than go have a proper communication with him , see if you both are ready to work on this. If things seems not working and I recommend you to let it go for his happiness and for yourself. It's never gonna be easy to forget love of life. But if you stay in unhealthy relationship , you would collect sad memories than good memories that you already have. Many people comes in our life like angels ,gives us happiness and just vanishes. So take it positive ,take time to be yourself. Things will get better. So to sum up I would ask to go and talk to him ,if didn't work leave it for his and your happiness. Feel free to text if you wanna talk about anything. * Big bear hugs*

[littlekami]

Based on the post I'm not sure what the issues were in the relationship, however the issues could be possibly solved by both parties knowing themselves and communicating their wants and needs clearly. With time and communication you my be able to work things out. 

 

Whenever I am faced with unrequited love or a want of the heart that I can't have, I try to cherish the experience of loving. It really does hurt to love and want something you can't have at the moment, however having the capacity for love, and being able to experience true love that can hurt is such an amazing and lucky thing. It doesn't happen all the time. So in the middle of the hurt, do some deep breathing, and let the good things and the good memories warm you up. 

 

Also, even if you both are not in a relationship at this time, will you still be friends? If so, then that's great! Your love can still be expressed and received in friendly ways if the other person is comfortable with it. "A rose by any other name smells just as sweet" 

 

Lastly, the only thing you have full control over is your actions and reactions. Breakups are a fantastic time to reflect and level yourself up!  

[Alaskan Daddy]

I understand 100% what you are feeling. The very first relationship I had with a little/girl friend was so intense. I never loved anyone as deeply as I loved her and I don't think I ever will. I will always love her as deeply as I did when we were together. I have had other littles since we broke up and I loved every one of them but never as deeply as I love her. The hurt you are feeling is very fresh and it is very normal that you would have a big hole on your heart. It is also very normal that you would miss the love you and your daddy shared. Just as in my case there are reasons it did not work out at this place and time. 

It is also normal that you would second guess yourself but I feel in your heart you know this was the right decision for both you and your daddy at this time.

After my break-up I missed my baby girl so much. The agony felt like it would never stop.

But after some soul searching I realized that the hurt I was feeling was a positive thing. I looked into my heart and realized how much good she brought into my life. Being with her taught me how to love someone more deeply and unconditionally. At times it felt that I loved her the way God loves all of us. That kind of love does not go away. I look back at the relationship and realize how much emotional growth she brought into my life. I am a better daddy because of her. She still tells me as I do her that neither of us will ever love anyone in the way we loved each other.

My point is that we all go through hard times like this and you can either let it bring you down or you can take  the time to analyze all the good and positive things your daddy brought into your life and use those things to help you grow even more as a person. 

You may not be at a point where your heart will allow you to reflect but you have made the first step to moving on my making this posting. I truly hope that you and your daddy can find happiness again with each other sometime in the future, I hope my words help

[Guest SpaceGhost]

I'm going to give you some non sugar coated opinion, that isn't hoping to be a rebound like some others in the thread. So if you dont have thick skin skip this comment.

 

You broke up for a reason, whatever that reason was it was enough to cause a divide regardless of feelings. It may suck now, but the feelings will fade after the feeling of loss is gone.

 

In my opinion, it's not fair to look for a new relationship right now. If you're saying you don't think you'll ever stop loving someone, how is that fair to the next person? All it's going to do is cause drama and resentment as you flip flop on your feelings for your ex and the new person while you try to fill a void instead of working on loving yourself.

 

Make a reasonable list of what you want in your next relationship, and what will make you happy. What you need and won't budge on. Keep it in mind as you work to get over the past relationship. If it's really done done, you need to drop all contact and not stalk them online. If you keep checking up on them you can't heal.