Help with starting

[Burritosaur]

I’ve told my boyfriend about my interest in Ddlg and he understands and has interest as well, but we haven’t moved any further then just the cute names really. I want to tell him that I want more and I’d like him to become my Dom/Caregiver but I don’t know how to explain what exactly a Dom/Caregiver does and how the relationship works. Any advice on how to get my Ddlg life started?

[PigtailPrincess]

It may seem like a simple solution but I started by showing him cutsie things I was interested in like stuffies and so on. I also sent him some links to videos (Nothing super heavy just light and fun with some info). But honestly all this started from a loving honest relationship where I first felt comfortable enough to say

 

"Hey I am thinking I am into something new and I am really interested in these aspects and I am going to show you at my own pace ok?"

 

Anyways just be honest and keep your mind ready for the possibility that it may or may not be his thing. Good luck!

[junebug0325]

It may seem like a simple solution but I started by showing him cutsie things I was interested in like stuffies and so on. I also sent him some links to videos (Nothing super heavy just light and fun with some info). But honestly all this started from a loving honest relationship where I first felt comfortable enough to say

 

"Hey I am thinking I am into something new and I am really interested in these aspects and I am going to show you at my own pace ok?"

 

Anyways just be honest and keep your mind ready for the possibility that it may or may not be his thing. Good luck!

 

Totally agree with this. Even though when my Daddy and I started into a relationship and we both knew we were into DDLG, there is still kind of a learning curve when it comes to learning about your significant other, whether it be their kinks, their interests, etc. I started off by showing my Daddy things I saw that I liked, like cute onesies and pacis and went from there. Up to that point, I didn't own anything so I was also exploring more into the lifestyle myself. 

 

Once you are able to feel comfortable showing him stuff, really sit down and talk about the things you've shown him and why you're interested in it. Are you interested in a sippy cup because you think it will make you feel small? Tell him. Then you guys can go online shopping together and pick out some things that you like. This way, he is kind of understanding what you like and why you like it and he's not being left in the dark.

 

I would also encourage him to research stuff, or send him some videos on youtube about caregiving or articles about how to be a good caregiver. You might also want to recommend this forum to him so he is able to explore what DDLG and being a caregiver means on his own time, rather than feeling rushed or pressured to please you. Remember that people need to be able to explore things on their own. If you are doing too much of the work sometimes it can make them feel like this is being pushed down their throat, which is obviously not what you want.

 

Good luck to you and I wish you the best!

 

 

 

Junebug x