Scary lolitas

[Baby Bunny Boo]

Im not the only little interested in lolita fashion. But seeing popular lolitas trash talk cgl hurts. I know they hate being associated with us epically when its not an 18+ style. But i can't help but feel ashamed to want to join it knowing they don't want me.

[Guest clumsy_little]

Nu huh! They are meanie butts! Just because Lolita and CGL/DDLG/ABDL has some similarities doesn't give them any excuse to be mean. They are just being plain rude and insecure, that's all

[PrincessAurora]

As someone who use to be extremely active in the lolita fashion communities and even ran my local one for the time being, let me give a bit of insight for you.

because there are people who use lolita clothing for fetish shoots and videos, the rest of the community who 90% of the time are minors get approached when seen in their clothing and get harassed and propositioned.  We had to rescue our younger members many times from creepy guys who saw a porn or a lewd photo of some one wearing lolita clothing. 

it's not that they are being mean. they are trying to keep the fashion separated from the kinksters. That being said you are not obligated to tell them that you are part of the kink community, hell I'm part of it and still wear my outfits once in a while, but even though I'm in this community I still ask people myself to keep it separated mostly because the fashion community is mostly young ones and not adults, and associating it with the kink community puts the young ones in danger. 

[junebug0325]

As someone who use to be extremely active in the lolita fashion communities and even ran my local one for the time being, let me give a bit of insight for you.

 

because there are people who use lolita clothing for fetish shoots and videos, the rest of the community who 90% of the time are minors get approached when seen in their clothing and get harassed and propositioned.  We had to rescue our younger members many times from creepy guys who saw a porn or a lewd photo of some one wearing lolita clothing. 

 

it's not that they are being mean. they are trying to keep the fashion separated from the kinksters. That being said you are not obligated to tell them that you are part of the kink community, hell I'm part of it and still wear my outfits once in a while, but even though I'm in this community I still ask people myself to keep it separated mostly because the fashion community is mostly young ones and not adults, and associating it with the kink community puts the young ones in danger. 

 

Yes, yes, yes.. a million times yes! Most of them aren't trying to be mean, they are just trying to protect younger members from being exposed to kink. For us, it's consensual because we chose this lifestyle but for them it's not, and we should be respectful of that. 

 

Of course, there will always be people that are a little more rude than others but you aren't obligated to tell them you are into kink. As long as you are staying appropriate in the community and aren't doing anything distasteful around the younger members, you should be fine, and at that point just ignore any rude comments.

 

 

 

 

Junebug x

[Emillia]

I have to agree with janebug0325 and PrincessAurora here. I am also very much into lolita and larme kei, and I wear it almost daily. And while I do realize that wearing cutesy clothes and hair clippies is one of the most common ways to express your little side, you have to realize that if you want to part of a fashion community like that, there are a lot of other factors to be considered.

And yes, the younger members getting harassed is one of them. But there's way more to it than that. Think about it: the lolita community has tried to disassociate themselves from anything sexual or kinky for years because the name "lolita" itself earned them a bad rep (because of the book, you know the one). Openly endorsing dd/lg and wearing lolita fashion while doing that is obviously going to earn you some critique. You are confirming the (mostly negative, let's be real) lolita stereotype the outside world sees us as. If you look at the origins of kawaii fashion in general, you quickly start to realize why that is bad.

 

But - like I said, I'm little and I wear lolita fashion. And that's 100% ok. Just make sure that you are not equating the two - dd/lg and lolita fashion. You can be part of a lolita community if you want to of course!