What is it with “Daddy’s or CGs” thinking they can call you pet names..

[Littlepipsqueak]

I’ve been recently looking for a DD or a CG, and 75% of people who have reached out or I’ve messaged instantly call me pet names or tell me “you need to call me Sir, always address all caregivers as Sir even if they’re not yours.”

 

Like unpopular opinion here but I don’t think so. I don’t owe you anything as far as I’m concerned. I’m just tired of having to weed through fake Daddy’s ):

[Guest Kaori]

First of all, the doms that are saying that you must always call caregivers Sir even if they're not your caregiver are dead fucking wrong. Period, end of story. Sir and other titles of the sort are reserved for your dom/caregiver only and always. Obviously in a non-ddlg/bdsm setting its respectful to call people sir and ma'am but in this setting that's not the case. 

 

I don't think its an unpopular opinion at all and you're 100% right when you say you don't owe these people anything. My personal opinion is that unless we're friendly towards each other or you're my actual partner you have no business calling me by any pet name that I haven't previously consented to. Just my two cents. 

[Guest SparklesLove]

Still fairly new to this but my opinion would be we are respectful to everyone regardless of their role. I have a few cg friends and none have asked me to call them sir. We are friends and im respectful.

 

Maybe tell these ones your opinion or unfriend them. Just my opinion. Others may have differing opinions.

[minty☆]

I've seen it a few times here, and several times in private messages from people on Discord through some of the groups that have been posted up here. It's incredibly uncomfortable. I don't even bother replying, I just block them.

[daddymind]

Well, think of it this way - the bad/fake ones will be more obvious, which is good. You don't want to waste time.

[Guest clumsy_little]

Stay away from these people, it's a clear red flag. 

[baby_k]

Just punch of idiots, laugh them off. That stuff makes zero sense.

 

Bonus points if you tell them that you are caregiver too and they just were super rude for not calling you sir or whatever.

[Guest clumsy_little]

First of all, the doms that are saying that you must always call caregivers Sir even if they're not your caregiver are dead fucking wrong. Period, end of story. Sir and other titles of the sort are reserved for your dom/caregiver only and always. Obviously in a non-ddlg/bdsm setting its respectful to call people sir and ma'am but in this setting that's not the case. 

 

I don't think its an unpopular opinion at all and you're 100% right when you say you don't owe these people anything. My personal opinion is that unless we're friendly towards each other or you're my actual partner you have no business calling me by any pet name that I haven't previously consented to. Just my two cents. 

Kaori...

 

*nibbles on fingers*

 

You used the f word...

[Guest clumsy_little]

Just punch of idiots, laugh them off. That stuff makes zero sense.

 

Bonus points if you tell them that you are caregiver too and they just were super rude for not calling you sir or whatever.

*bounces in her seat*

 

Oh! Oh! Like in a big voice?!

[junebug0325]

Heya,

 

I still get people like these even though I make it clear that I have a Daddy. On the bright side, you know to stay away from the people that demand something of you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Junebug xx

[Satan]

There is a rule against people calling you pet names if you've not given them permission to do so. You can report it. (Make sure you have a screen shot as proof) and let the staff know.

 

Some of the guys around here think they can dom over with out being your caregiver and it's just gross. Block and report them.

[Triskelion]

I don't think you should call any caregiver sir, ofcourse you can do so if they earned your respect and you want to do so, but respect is earned.

 

As for the pet names, they shouldn't do that at all, its not polite and even against the direct rules of the forum.

 

The forum rules (https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/33419-community-rules-and-guidelines/) even state the following:

Do not use pet names or nicknames with people without their consent. This includes but is not limited to nicknames such as “babygirl”, “princess”, “sir”, “daddy”, “sweetheart”, or “honey”. Refer to members by their Username if you don’t know them.

[Guest clumsy_little]

There is a rule against people calling you pet names if you've not given them permission to do so. You can report it. (Make sure you have a screen shot as proof) and let the staff know.

 

Some of the guys around here think they can dom over with out being your caregiver and it's just gross. Block and report them.

But what if you have a PC? Most of the time, I log in the website through my PC. Having a PC which is like 6 years old, it doesn't have a screenshot option. Most of the time, these people will quickly edit their msg

[Triskelion]

But what if you have a PC? Most of the time, I log in the website through my PC. Having a PC which is like 6 years old, it doesn't have a screenshot option. Most of the time, these people will quickly edit their msg

Press the printscreen button on the PC, it will make a copy of the active screen.

Copy it into MSPaint or any other picture editing program with Control+V and it will put the picture in the program.

 

Save the screenshot and you are done

Edited May 19, 2020 by Triskelion

[SmolAetherr]

But what if you have a PC? Most of the time, I log in the website through my PC. Having a PC which is like 6 years old, it doesn't have a screenshot option. Most of the time, these people will quickly edit their msg

there is software out there that lets you capture your screen, i use Gyazo but there are alot of others, also the print screen button exists on every modern windows pc's keyboard, you can then paste that screenshot into ms paint, save it and then post it as a .jpg image

Edited May 19, 2020 by Aetherr

[Satan]

But what if you have a PC? Most of the time, I log in the website through my PC. Having a PC which is like 6 years old, it doesn't have a screenshot option. Most of the time, these people will quickly edit their msg

Google is your friend when needing to look up how to do things on your computer.

 

Sfw https://www.webwise.ie/parents/take-screenshot/

[Guest clumsy_little]

Ohhhhhh.....

 

*smiles*

 

Thanks Tris and Aetherr for this information!

[SmolAetherr]

I’ve been recently looking for a DD or a CG, and 75% of people who have reached out or I’ve messaged instantly call me pet names or tell me “you need to call me Sir, always address all caregivers as Sir even if they’re not yours.”

 

Like unpopular opinion here but I don’t think so. I don’t owe you anything as far as I’m concerned. I’m just tired of having to weed through fake Daddy’s ):

and yeah i've been seeing it alot recently also, i may just go ahead and report them regardless of it affecting me or not because to be honest its pretty objectifying to the people its directed to and this whole "fake daddy" thing is coming back and i personally dont want people calling anyone fake regardless of if they in reality are just fucking thirsty or whatever, i dont want arseholes creeping in and ruining it for all the genuine and respectful people who call themselves daddy

Edited May 19, 2020 by Aetherr

[Guest Kaori]

and yeah i've been seeing it alot recently also, i may just go ahead and report them regardless of it affecting me or not because to be honest its pretty objectifying to the people its directed to and this whole "fake daddy" thing is coming back and i personally dont want people calling anyone fake regardless of if they in reality are just fucking thirsty or whatever, i dont want arseholes creeping in and ruining it for all the genuine and respectful people who call themselves daddy

Agreed and the staff does have a post about that as well

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/20071-fake-daddies/

[Guest DaddySadist_39]

When I walk up to a kid or baby or any real life aged person that within DDlg would be considered little age I don't go up to them and be all

 

"Well hello there today Walter, how are you this fine afternoon?"

 

No....I go up and my voice gets higher pitched I say things like sweetie or princess

 

So, naturally, when I'm in an environment like this my inclination is to say the same things if I'm approaching someone that's a little.

 

Now, yes you get to say don't do that, especially with the rule here about it.

 

Just because someone does something you don't like isn't a reason to call fake.

 

Fake Daddy/Mommy is a term thrown around FAR too often whenever the name caller gets upset.

 

They might not be fake....maybe they're just not for you!

Edited May 19, 2020 by DaddySadist_39

[Littlepipsqueak]

There is a rule against people calling you pet names if you've not given them permission to do so. You can report it. (Make sure you have a screen shot as proof) and let the staff know.

 

Some of the guys around here think they can dom over with out being your caregiver and it's just gross. Block and report them.

Oh thank you I didn’t know this!!

[Little kaiya]

If someone told me I had to call them "Sir" or "Daddy" they'd better hope my Daddy isn't with me as they would get VERY short thrift. It's not just inappropriate to do that to a little it's downright ignorant to any caregiver they may have as well.

 

Personally my Daddy and I instantly block those people.

 

On the flip side there are also littles who address caregivers as "Sir" or "Daddy" without checking or asking for permission and that is just as inappropriate and wrong.

[Littlepipsqueak]

Heya,

 

I still get people like these even though I make it clear that I have a Daddy. On the bright side, you know to stay away from the people that demand something of you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Junebug xx

That is true !! Thank you!

[Littlepipsqueak]

If someone told me I had to call them "Sir" or "Daddy" they'd better hope my Daddy isn't with me as they would get VERY short thrift. It's not just inappropriate to do that to a little it's downright ignorant to any caregiver they may have as well.

 

Personally my Daddy and I instantly block those people.

 

On the flip side there are also littles who address caregivers as "Sir" or "Daddy" without checking or asking for permission and that is just as inappropriate and wrong.

I agree, I think it goes both ways too!

[AsleepAndDreaming]

Personally if someone calls me "sir" I ask them to stop. If someone calls me "Daddy" I ask them to stop. I let them know very gently that I'm not the kind of person who likes that, and that even we end up in a long term relationship I still wouldn't expect them to call me that. They need to call me something that means both of us are comfortable, so that we have a relationship where one of us may have a dominant role, but it is still a partnership, with both parties being happy and safe. 

 

Unfortunately there seems to be a significant number of men who seem to think they can immediately be dominant. Or that they are the dominant gender, and that women (little or otherwise) should bow down to them. I hate that. Because there is then the possibility that some women will believe all men are like that. And we're not. 

 

The moral of the story here is that if a man says or does something that makes you uncomfortable, or makes you question his motives, then go with your gut and steer clear. That is what your gut is there for. And if you choose to act as I do, which is to politely ask the other person to change their behaviour, and they question this, or ignore it, then at least you know that you don't need to waste any more time with that person. 

 

I just hope that all the littles who read this don't think all Daddies and Caregivers are like this, because we're really not.