Misunderstandings...

[MissPattch]

For those of us who are in an LDR, how do you deal with misunderstandings or mis-communication? When wires are crossed and uspet is caused, unintentionally? 

[Guest clumsy_little]

So one of my previous daddy thought that I was cheating on him, not only that but he also ghosted me. It was not only affecting my little space but also my mental health so I had no choice but to break up with him. It hurt a lot, still does but if I would have hold onto the hope any longer, it would have made more severe damage so I just let it go. This took place due to lack of communication. Have a big girl talk, let him know what's the matter or that it was all a misunderstanding. If he still doesn't wanna talk or acknowledge a problem, then he's not the right daddy for you.

[Satan]

I think something to remember is miscommunication happens in all relationships not just LDRs.

Its pretty unavoidable as we are all humans that make mistakes, have emotions and don't always listen very well.

I think something that's worked for me is having a "safe word". Safe words are not just for sexy time! When you start to feel a conversation is getting heated or something just isn't sinking in the way it should , use your safe word and call a time out. Everyone calms down and then once things are chill you have a conversation. Repeat if necessary.

Remember you care about the other person and they care about you. I know when tempers flair sometimes it doesn't feel that way, but once it calms you'll both remember.

If harsh words were said out of anger apologies need to be had.

I am not sure if this is helpful or not

But wishing you well regardless.

[daddymind]

Misunderstandings are inevitable. It's a sign of the strength of the relationship in how we come back from these. I've had many misunderstandings with my babs (LDR) and been told I said things I know I did not. It is frustrating. But we end up letting it go once it's clarified. As long as you're given the chance to clarify things then it shouldn't be too much of an issue.

 

I like Satan's point about having a safe word. I can totally see how this could cool things down in the moment.

[Guest ±«Thoma§M»±]

I fully agree when Satan stated "I think something to remember is miscommunication happens in all relationships not just LDRs." I have learned over time and have stressed it a lot to others about asking for clarification when something is said. If something is said to me and I possibly could take it the wrong way I always ask what they meant by what was said mainly because sometimes information in our head always comes out differently when we open our mouths.  It also keeps one of us from looking foolish for not listening. Just my thoughts.

[Cutie_cc]

I think it just depends on what the misunderstanding is. Now if u catch someone in a lie point blank and they try to claim it's a misunderstanding it's not. Don't be fooled.