Is this okay or not?

[Guest QuixoticCrybaby]

So, my daddy has been ignoring me for several hours(almost a day) and I don't know what to do. He knows that I need non-stop attention or I get sad. This isn't the first time this has happened, but I don't want to tell him it's wrong and hurts me because I don't want to lose him. If he leaves I know that I wouldn't be able to find a new daddy anytime soon. What should I do?

[MrBonesWildRide]

First question: Is he busy? Because I really question the need to have 'non-stop' attention unless it is something agreed upon with the both of you. Things come up. People have lives outside of their relationship. If he is busy, I think you're leading the question by saying he's "ignoring" you for several hours.

 

Second question: You say this has happened before. What was the situation last time that caused him to be away for hours? 

 

Third question: I see from your post history that one month ago you were looking for a Daddy. You are now in a relationship and are having these issues. What have the two of you talked about so far in terms of your wants and needs for a relationship?

 

You also mention the potential depression reemerging, and I feel like that is a serious conversation to be having with your partner. When he gets back, see if you can start a conversation with him. I feel like the way you have described things, your relationship has only just started so you have a LOT to work on in terms of communicating your feelings and what's going on with your life.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

If you daren't bring up concerns because you're scared of hum leaving you, that's a big problem in itself.

Without communication you have nothing. Talk to him with respect. He needs to know how it's making you feel. But you also need to accept that constant attention is unrealistic and pretty much impossible. You need to work on that.

[lilvioletcub]

Several hours is not "almost a day" and the only reason I bring this up is at one point my boyfreind was busy and didn't talk to me beyond a hello in the morning at 10:00am and didn't talk with me till the next morning. point is you are slightly exhagerating here Seven hours with out interacting with your daddy? thats anything from an avrage school day to work schdual and is something that should be expected since after all your both adults.

 

secondly I agree with everyone here. Have you talked with him? set up what you want and what can logically and realisticly be provided for you?

if him not talking with you for seven hours makes you sad then I think you need to talk with him but also understand that a relationship is not a band-aid for making yourself feel good all on its own. You need to learn how to be happy with yourself and your "you" time. setting aside time or planing time for when you know he will be busy in those seven hours will help you be more okay with being with yourself.

 

Also non stop attention is impossible for Real moms and fathers let alone the role of a "daddy" if all he is doing is giving you attention all the time non stop then what do you have to talk about? what new facts does he get to find about you? if other people giving you attention is the only thing that makes you feel good or you fall into sadness I think you need to talk with someone

[Lisa]

You can't expect him to read your mind... If you need more attention, you should tell him. Communication is key. It may be that he isn't in a position to give you that level of attention due to other things in his life. Better to find out now...