Is age ever an issue?

[Guest EnchantedDream_Sam]

I decided to make this post to just see what others would think, is age ever an issue? I'm 37 years old and I feel like maybe I'm too old to be on this Forum. I've seen a lot of little's and middle's younger than I am, so it made me feel that maybe age could be an issue with me. Is age ever an issue with anyone? If they are older than you or younger than you are? This is simply just a question and I'm curious. Just feel that maybe I may not belong here, due to how old I am.

[minty☆]

you definitely belong!  there was actually a thread recently about littles over 25 if you're interested in meeting other people around your age. 
 
the most important thing:  you can't put an age on being a little! 

 

 

there are some littles on here that are over 50, so PLEASE never feel discouraged or like you don't belong.  You do!  I can't possibly stress this enough.  it's a way of being, a state of mind, even - not a number.  :>  that being said, if you're looking to find people around your age, it doesn't hurt to post in the 25+ thread, or make your own and specify.

 

I've noticed there are a decent amount of younger people on here, but a good number of caretakers tend to be older - I think the oldest I've seen so far was like 65.  While each caretaker/little has their own personal preference on age (as I'm sure you might, too!) - the community accepts everyone.   

Edited May 15, 2020 by minty☆

[Little kaiya]

The majority of members on the forum do seem to be on the younger side biologically speaking but there are definitely older littles and caregivers as well.

 

I'm 42 and my Daddy will be 21 this Summer. Age really has never been an issue for us in the two and a half years that we've been together.

 

That said, neither Daddy or I are looking for someone or even play partners so maybe that's part of the reason age really hasn't been an issue for us here. In the end age is as much or as little a barrier as you let it become.

[LittleCelticLass]

I'm 37 years old and I feel like maybe I'm too old to be on this Forum.

I totally understand where you are coming from. I'm 48, and I struggle a lot to feel like I fit in. It's hard, when the majority of people are 20+ years younger than you. We are at different stages in our adult lives, and for me at least, have very little in common as far as music, tv, games, and social activities.

That said, you most defintely belong. Seeking out older friends helps, as does active participation in chat room and forum topics. Feel free to say hi if you see me around!

[Guest DaddySadist_39]

39, almost forty here

 

I find older littles have a better chance than older Daddies/Mommies in finding a partner at this site.

 

Made obvious by looking at personals by older Daddies and the responses they get versus the younger Daddies.

 

It's odd to me actually because in the BDSM world often older is seen as better for stability and experience.

 

*shrugs*

 

To each their own

Edited May 15, 2020 by DaddySadist_39

[Guest Luvvgemma]

I’m 49. I feel connected because of like minded DDLG friends vs vanilla sites, where they brush me off as a weirdo. I don’t care if I get the brush off because of age. Lol. I feel most people don’t care about age difference, and everybody comes together somehow. 

[Nymph]

I'm 37 and been here for 4 years now, I have come across many older users. But I have felt that way too, it's very different to be a little at 22 than at 42, it's hard to relate when you get nostalgic and feel like playing that cute game you had growing up and younger folks have never heard about.

 

Also sometimes the younger ones are so active that it does make you wonder if you are the only adult around, even if you are a little. The forum moves a bit slow and that doesn't help. I think we just get a bit more quiet because we have a busier life, longer hiatus too usually.

 

A lot of us know ourselves better and what we want and seek less help, recently I joined a discord group from here and was shocked I had not met people who joined the same year I did and they are close to my age!! so there is that, sometimes people are active when you are not, sometimes you don't notice their real age.

[Guest EnchantedDream_Sam]

Thank you for all of your responses, they have helped me a lot. For awhile, I was thinking that maybe I didn't belong here and it discouraged me. I'm glad I ended up creating this thread because I was feeling pretty low a few hours ago about it. So thank you once again. I haven't joined any discord groups as of yet. Sometimes I have a hard time finding a decent one. I'll have to check a few of them out when I get a chance.

[pvtdaddy]

Age isn't an issue for me but I'm older too (47). I realize it's not that big of a thing for a daddy but still. I have no problem with an older or younger middle as it's about letting that part of yourself flourish. 

 

And thank you for posting this... it's actually been something I've wondered about from both sides.

[Lollipox]

You're not too old.

Most people are "too young", and wanna pretend they have experience and knowledge when they don't.

 

A lot of us would love for older community members to stay. We need backup. lol

[Triskelion]

A lot have been said and I have not much to add about what all been said. 

 

You are definately in the right place, the community in general might be a bit younger. But plenty of older caregivers and littles around too!

 

Welcome and great to have you here with us! 

[MissPattch]

I'm a little (!! XD) late to the party on this thread, but at 39, i get where you're coming from. I've only been here since January, but i already feel like part of the furniture. I've made some amazing friends, both my age and a lot younger, who i talk to outside of here on a regular basis, and i also found my Daddy on here. 

 

My mum always told me, when i was growing up, that age is just a number, and the 13 year gap between my parents proved it. She also said growing older was mandatory, but growing up was optional, which is something i live by ^^ Peter Pan syndrome is actually a thing  

 

The family i found here are priceless, and even though i don't know them all, they all made me feel welcome, despite my age, and i'm sure they will do the same for you <3

[Daddyprof]

“You’re never too old to be young.”

 

- Happy, from Snow White & The Seven Dwarves

[Guest Fleur-Angelique]

It’s all about situation in life for me - if I love you I don’t care if you’re 80 but if you are my age and have 2 kids I’m not interested because I’d have to take on your life. Nothing wrong with kids it’s just that we could only live where they were close to them and I don’t want to be anyone’s stepmom. So yeah

[MasterPhotog]

Here's the bottom line: Age is simply a number, among other things, you're always able to contribute and make a difference in someone's life at any age. 

[Vampiress]

I often get a bit self-conscious about this being 31. The majority of littles do seem to be of the younger ages. It makes me wonder if some littles just grow out of it by the time they get to my age and older, or if most of us older littles are just more reserved and less active? I just remind myself that being little isn't reserved only for the younger adults and some littles have younger Daddies than them. There isn't a rule or a restriction on it. We also aren't hurting anyone by being into this lifestyle, so there's nothing wrong with it if you're older.

[Little kaiya]

You may also find that older littles have already found what they're looking for so aren't posting so much. I'm an older little, 42, but I'm certainly not a reserved person, I'm actually pretty outgoing and active, just beyond the "everyone should be friends" because of a shared DDlg interest. To me it takes more in common than that and I think a lot of older littles may be looking for more in common when making friends.

[minty☆]

all great points!
 
in my opinion, being an older little, I have a career, I'm working on a PHD, I FEEL like I have life kinda sorta figured out (at least to the point where free time is a struggle  ) and can otherwise support myself.  I feel like all of us that are older are pretty similar in that; we're here mostly to have a good time, express ourselves, and make friends.  we've been around for awhile, and have probably all made mistakes we learned from and can help others to avoid.  I'll make friends with anyone of all ages, of course, but that being said..

 
the biggest thing I see coming from younger littles is this overwhelming desire to find a daddy NO MATTER WHAT, as soon as possible ... which is a very dangerous mindset to have, and some of them seem so desperate.. it's like a life or death matter, and they end up getting really, genuinely depressed.  I see it just about every day on here, one of them is stressing or lamenting about not having someone, and I'm just like ... hey.  enjoy those years while you have 'em.      lol  as soon as you hit 30, everything starts getting sore all the time!

[junebug0325]

Heya!

 

I have said it once and I will say it again, age is just a number! I started regressing before I was "of age" and I have known that I was into child like things long before I even knew what DDLG and what "being a little" was. I joined this forum when I was 19 (I'm 20 now) and had trouble connecting to other littles because I was so unexperienced at the time, and even now I look to others to be a guidance for me.

 

That's what forums like these aim to do! I have made so many friends here, and even met my Daddy. And guess what? I didn't add them or message them or talk to them because they were a little, I talk to people because they watch the same cartoons as me, they are in a similar situation to me, or they connected to me on a different level other than just being a little.

 

Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that your age does not invalidate things you like, things you want to try or even who you are. Being little is soooo much more than just a silly number.

 

 

 

 

Junebug xxx

[Guest sanwiooaf]

I know I'm apart of the younger crowd being nearly 23, but I thought I'd give a comment as a younger person! To me, being a Little doesn't have an age limit as it's apart of who you are, apart of your mind, your personality, your day to day life etc. Being a Little is apart of who you are and that shouldn't matter what age you are. I saw someone comment that older folk tend to be the most experienced, however I have met/spoke to many older folks who have only recently discovered their little side so being older definitely doesn't equal being experienced and neither does being young mean that you're inexperienced. Being experienced comes with how many years you've been within the community and how much you've learned. And hey, no one is perfect, we all have more to learn! As the saying going, you learn something new everyday. I'm always open for friends of any age so try not to feel too disheartened by he amount of younger folk on here, I'm sure many of us don't care about age either! After all, we're all here because we have something in common and that's the love of our headspace :3 it's the same within the BDSM community as a whole, I find a lot of older folk more than I do younger folk but that's just the community as a whole ^^ all that matters it hat you enjoy being little and your headspace!

 

I hope that you're staying safe with what's happening right now and that you're enjoying your little space! <33

[babycakes13]

I decided to make this post to just see what others would think, is age ever an issue? I'm 37 years old and I feel like maybe I'm too old to be on this Forum. I've seen a lot of little's and middle's younger than I am, so it made me feel that maybe age could be an issue with me. Is age ever an issue with anyone? If they are older than you or younger than you are? This is simply just a question and I'm curious. Just feel that maybe I may not belong here, due to how old I am.

I relate to this so hard. I'm 38. I just recently joined this forum and have never been active in the cgl community before. One of my biggest hang ups was that I felt like I was just too old to even try. It wasn't until a few (fivish?) years ago that I really learned about cgl and had a name for how I sometimes feel (little). My other hang up is my size. Everywhere I'd look, I saw all these cute little 20-something littles and would immediately think there's no place for me here. And I still kinda feel that way. *shrug* I have decided to take the leap to explore anyway.

 

This was my rambley way to say that I can relate, and you're not alone.

[baby_k]

I always find it kinda strange that older people wonder if they belong to ddlg as they are the ones who really do if you ask me.

 

If we talk of kids, they are maybe just trying stuff out, scared to really grow up to be mature responsible adults or something else, so ddlg is often just a phase for them. Where as the older folks are more likely to stay as they already know their own mind ( somewhat, we are all learning obviously ) and it's who they are, and it's not about some random selfsearch which younger people go through ( like teenagers who one week are goths, next week hippies and so on ).

 

Also, imo person can't be a little untill they have truly grown up as otherwise they are just immature kids being kids. Defination of little is not "a child" but more along the lines of "ADULT who acts like younger person or plays role of a child". And the older one is, the more likely it is that the person is a 'true' adult, hence able to be actual little instead of just a real kid

[Guest SweetnessBaby75]

I am happy to have stumbled across this thread. I will soon be 45 and I was beginning to think I was one of the oldest littles on here. I never even made a post because I was feeling self conscious. I'm very happy to know that I'm not weird for being a little at my age. So thank you to whoever started this thread!

[princessfreckles]

I decided to make this post to just see what others would think, is age ever an issue? I'm 37 years old and I feel like maybe I'm too old to be on this Forum. I've seen a lot of little's and middle's younger than I am, so it made me feel that maybe age could be an issue with me. Is age ever an issue with anyone? If they are older than you or younger than you are? This is simply just a question and I'm curious. Just feel that maybe I may not belong here, due to how old I am.

You're not too old to be on this forum! I'm 32, and a middle. I have friends who are littles in their 40s and 50s. It's not about your age, it's about how you feel. If you feel little, you're a little! Your birth year doesn't matter. On here specifically? I've met other littles who are in their 30s and 40s as well. We may not be as vocal and active as the ones who are younger, but we're here. I promise. 

 

Is age an issue? Only as I look for a Daddy Dom does age become an issue since I want an older Daddy who is 40-55ish. The ones who reach out to me are mostly younger, and I don't have an interest in them. 

 

In closing...YOU BELONG HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Eversky]

Soo soooo much of me relates to what you feel (which I think is a general sentiment of what I have read in others replies), even though I know full well that I belong within the dhynamic just as much as the 20-somethings or 50-somethings.  I am glad to read that it's not just a feeling of my own.