How do I leave my current daddy

[Disobedient_Baby Girl]

Im needing to leave my current daddy because hes been refusing to punish me for misbehaving and even refuses to give me rules I haven't heard from him in almost a week as well I've seen him and his truck around town but he ignores me and pretends he don't know me

[Guest BigDaddyDominant]

Lay down your reasons why and explain you don't think it will work. Be specific why this may be a difference in styles  of Dom or it may just be hes ghosting you and wants out as well.

[DaddyDom3238]

Hi, based upon his behavior I don't think you really need to give him a reason, his actions speak volumes and I think he is just being childish by treating you that way. You do not owe him an explanation and Big Daddy Dominant is right, he probably wants out of the relationship as well. Find a Daddy/Dom that respects and treats you as you deserve to be treated and cherished. 

[Little kaiya]

Not all Daddies want to give out rules punishments, that could just be a case of poor compatibility between the two of you.

 

The rest of it though, the no communication, ignoring you and pretending he doesn't know you . . . Well that's just deliberately ignorant behaviour.

 

Call him up and try to tell him you're ending the relationship and if he refuses to take your call then leave a message. He honestly doesn't sound like leaving him requires more than minimum courtesy,which is more than he's showing you.

[Disobedient_Baby Girl]

I've tried ending it before but he refused to let me leave he's putting the blame on me

[Disobedient_Baby Girl]

I've been through to many and just can't find one I know I have behavior problems and stuff but they all leave

[Disobedient_Baby Girl]

Not all Daddies want to give out rules punishments, that could just be a case of poor compatibility between the two of you.

 

The rest of it though, the no communication, ignoring you and pretending he doesn't know you . . . Well that's just deliberately ignorant behaviour.

 

Call him up and try to tell him you're ending the relationship and if he refuses to take your call then leave a message. He honestly doesn't sound like leaving him requires more than minimum courtesy,which is more than he's showing you.

[Disobedient_Baby Girl]

I've text him and he responded back with this relationship isn't over till I say you don't get to call it off I even told him I was just going g to find a Dom that would appreciate me

[Little kaiya]

You're an adult,he can't "refuse to let you leave". Once you end the relationship he has no say in your life, period. If you leave and he doesn't respect that then involve the police if he doesn't leave you alone.

 

As for him trying to put the blame on you, ignore him. You decide whether you accept his guilt trip or not. If you don't choose to accept the blame there is nothing g he can do to put it on your shoulders as his efforts would be meaningless.

[LittleCelticLass]

I'm just going to echo Kaiya. You have the ultimate control over your life.

[Disobedient_Baby Girl]

He said I signed a contract that I don't remember signing

[minty☆]

alright, to be completely honest, this guy just sounds like an abusive asshole.  it is ILLEGAL to force anyone to be with you.  We're not in the days of slavery.  You have literally no reason to even bother talking to him again.  You don't even need to give him an excuse - just drop contact.  He doesn't deserve to talk to you anymore.

 

If he keeps it up and makes you feel trapped, then you need to talk to someone. That's some serious abuse, and if it escalates you have every right to get law enforcement involved for your own safety.

 

He's lucky I don't live there, 'cause I'd punch him in the face.  >:|

 

 

Stay strong and safe!  We're all here for you!

Edited May 11, 2020 by minty☆

[Disobedient_Baby Girl]

He drives by my house all the time he gets mad whenever I have someone over

[Alaskan Daddy]

It doesn't matter if you signed a contract or not. He is not holding up his end of the relationship. I would just send him a message that you don't want to be with him anymore and I would not give an excuse. Then I would block him with out telling him from all of your accounts. The worst thing you can do at this point is to try to have a conversation with him. You need to be strong for yourself and walk away.

[minty☆]

He drives by my house all the time he gets mad whenever I have someone over

 

yeah, that's definitely not okay.  you're allowed to have other friends; he just sounds like an insecure jerk.  nothing about him sounds like what a legitimate caretaker would be, it's borderline abuse that's being mislabeled as something else.

 

pleaaaase, please don't even bother with him anymore.  send him a final message like Alaskan Daddy suggested, or don't even bother.  He's not worth any more thought.

Edited May 11, 2020 by minty☆

[Disobedient_Baby Girl]

Thanks y'all if you know any care takers looking please let me know

[minty☆]

i'm sure you'd find plenty of people around here (try posting an ad in the friends or personals section here.)

HOWEVER.  my advice would be to give it time.  let things happen organically instead of rushing into things - that often can put you into bad situations, where people like the guy you mentioned will try to take advantage of you.

 

please stay safe out there!

Edited May 11, 2020 by minty☆

[Dangerously_Well]

A relationship is an agreement between all the parties involved, if you want out, then be out. cut all your ties, and carry on with what is right for you.

 

If he can't take no for an answer, and continues his abuse, (I agree with Minty that it is abuse,) then maybe you need to involve your local authorities.

 

Sometimes It just takes time to find the right match. 

 

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[Vampiress]

Wow he sounds very scary and toxic. Like major yikes. Don't listen to him if he says you can't leave. You CAN whenever you want to. If you feel like giving him the courtesy of letting him know it's over just text him or whatever and then ignore him. But since he's ghosting you, I wouldn't feel bad if you decided to ghost him, too. Whatever you do to end it, just end it. Don't let him try to force you to stay. Block his number, don't allow him contact. If he tries to come to your house or do something in public involve the police. This isn't normal behavior for ANY Daddy. That is crossing so many boundaries and he doesn't deserve you.

[Guest sanwiooaf]

For a start, he's abusive and controlling. If you want out, you're allowed to get out and he has no say in that whatsoever. I would get out right now with how many red flags you've listed in this short thread. If he starts threatening that 'you can't leave until he says so' I would phone the police and try to get a restraining order because I've heard of stories that escalate too far with those kinds of words. Also, I agree with Minty. You need time to vet first before you jump head start into another relationship or dynamic. You need to find someone compatible with you and someone who meets your needs and you theirs. You need time to heal, figure out what you want and then start the vetting process and a​always always ALWAYS vet a potential Daddy for at least a few months before you jump into anything. Yes, I know not having a caregiver is hard but getting into a dynamic with just anyone is when problems begin starting because you don't know them, their morals on DDLG and whether they'll be a good match for you. Dynamics like this that take a lot of trust (well, that's BDSM as a whole) require time and patience. Delicate time and patience. Jumping head first into things is how people get hurt and to protect you and your heart and mind, please please please take time and vet. You're still young and you have your whole life ahead of you, take the time to enjoy it by yourself and enjoy being little, life doesn't have a time frame of when you have to do things by

[The RealDaddyCat]

Please tell me he is gone?

[Big_Boppa]

I do not know if you are still reading this but I strongly recommend:

 

1 - Block his number - completely do not just send his calls to voicemail. If you have a landline and cannot block him, use voicemail to screen your calls.

 

2 - Change the locks on your house, even if you never gave him a key.

 

3- Have a garage door with a key code? Change the code.

 

4 - Block his email address. He should have no way to reach you

 

5 - Let the police know what is going on. They may not be able to do anything - but by telling them, you are on record.

 

6 - Tell your friends, your family, and everyone else that your ex-boyfriend is stalking and threatening you.

 

7 - If he shows up at your door, do not answer. If he does not leave, call the police and tell them you are being harassed by a trespasser.

 

8- Keep written notes of everything he does and after two or three incidents, seek a restraining order.

 

This is no time for courtesy. It is Daddy's job to make you feel safe, not terrified. Contracts in these situations are not legal instruments. They are a way to clarify expectations and nothing more. We put language in them about lifetime commitments, but those terms are not enforceable. Slavery is illegal.