Relationship Issue with Daddy: Help needed

[Guest EnchantedDream_Sam]

I think I may have to end my relationship with my Daddy. It's long distance. I've told him, I totally understand if he has things to do or if he has work to do. I'm very patient when he has to get back to me and contact me. He will e-mail me, chat with me for awhile, until next time. The one thing that bothers me is when it goes a few days without hearing from him. I don't get no e-mails from him. There's no effort. I don't mind if it's just one small text to let me know he's thinking of him. There's simply no word from him and I begin to worry. The first time I let it go and we talked things over properly. This has been the second time of this happening, and now it's going on the third day here. Don't think I can do this anymore, I'm not trying to be selfish here, I feel unhappy. The moment I realized how unhappy I was, I knew I had to do what was best for me. I'm feeling crushed here. He may have an explanation, I just feel he should have given me a text or a message. It doesn't take that long to do that. Give me advice and your thoughts on this, if you've been in a similar experience. Thank you.

[SmolAetherr]

i have been in a situation like this with a past little who had a habit of not responding for periods of upto a week and one time a few months

 

i absolutely hated it and we didnt last past 6 months for other reasons but i would say now after experiancing that i wouldnt go through it again because like you said, it doesent take long to write even a small message out and people who make an arguement that there is more effort involved in taking 30 seconds out of your day to let your partner know you are alive are mostly people i wouldnt chose to interact with since i believe they are making excuses or are just not the type of people i would want to have in my life even as friends

 

you should just go with your gut here if you are not getting something that you need that you value despite making it clear that you need it then there is an incompatibility there and neither of you will be happy with the situation as a result

[Jolene]

We accept the love we feel we deserve. You deserve more and you see that. Don't settle for less.

[MissPattch]

If you've already had the "adult" talk about how the lack of communication is bothering you, and its still happening, then that would raise concerns for me also. Its not unreasonable to be selfish in your needs, and if you need that level of communication (which is something i understand entirely), you  will only ever be unhappy being made to go without for how ever long. We all deserve to be with somebody that wants to be with us, and yeah, sometimes people really do get that busy, but there is almost always one point in the day where you can just pick up the phone and check in, even if its just to say they're busy and cant stay to chat. Its about setting expectations too. If you made it clear that you need him to be pro active in his communication, especially as its an LDR, and he just isn't being, then letting him carry on making you wait is telling him that its ok to keep doing that to you. If you aren't really feeling good about how things are, and you have done what you reasonably can to talk about and fix any issues, but its just not happening, maybe its time to do what you feel you need to do. 

[AsleepAndDreaming]

You know it shouldn't really matter what kind of relationship you're in, whether it's a normal bf/gf or a DD/lg relationship, it's not really acceptable for you not to hear from a partner for days on end. Any honest, committed, thoughtful, responsible Daddy would realise that communication is vital, and that the whole reason for most littles wanting a Daddy in the first place is because they're looking for someone to make them feel loved and valued and important. Someone who can be relied on and trusted and who will be there when their little needs him.

 

It doesn't really matter how "busy" he is, it takes a few seconds to text. I'm not sure why you need to email when there's things like WhatsApp and Kik. It almost makes me wonder if there's someone at his end who might have access to his phone? One of the most important things I can do in a DD/lg relationship is to reply and communicate with my little as quickly and as honestly as possible. It's something I want to do because that feeling of security that the little gets as a result cements the relationship and helps the little realise how important they are in my life. The fact that he doesn't do that means either he's ill or he's not too bothered. If he's ill, he must be very ill to be unable to send you a quick text.

 

So if you have someone who has failed to contact you for a number of days, I would have to question how invested they are in you and the relationship. It makes me wonder whether they have other commitments, whether they are involved in another relationship, or whether they just don't care. In any event, I'm sorry to say that I don't much see a way forward for your relationship. To end something like this is one of the hardest things you can do, but you deserve better.

[Alaskan Daddy]

Your feelings matter and want you want from ANY relationship matters. You are not being selfish. You have certain needs and desires that you expect and want from your daddy. It sounds like you have voiced these needs and desires to him and he has not changed his behavior. He has shown you what he is willing or not willing to do to meet your needs and desires.

This does not mean he is a bad person (I am not here to judge him)  or that you are a selfish person. It just means that you and your daddy have different expectations and desires to keep the relationship going. It appears the you and your daddy are not compatible with what you want and what he is willing to give you. I don't see things changing with him.

I know all of what is going on in your heart is very hard for you. But I feel you know what you must do to help yourself to have a chance at happiness. 

I hope this gives you a clearer picture of what you have to do. Good luck.

[Vampiress]

If someone can't be bothered to take a few seconds out of their day to reassure you with a, "Hey I'm thinking of you, can't wait to talk to you again soon," then there's something wrong there. It shouldn't be treated like some extra effort or inconvenience. If you really care about someone it should just be something you enjoy and want to do. I always find it very strange when someone claims to care about another but puts very little time and consideration into making sure they have an open line of communication with their significant other.

[Guest sanwiooaf]

My ex was exactly like this. No matter how many times I asked for a simple 'hi, I'm gonna be busy today, talk to you when I can!' texts so I knew not to bother him/he wouldn't respond to me for the day, he wouldn't do it. At all. The only time I'd ever be able to talk to him was at stupid hours of the night when he would play games (and even then ignore my messages) so I was stupid enough to make myself ill by staying up until 3am everyday just to be able to talk to him. It caused a lot of arguments between us because he felt that he shouldn't have to tell me that he was busy and never ever entertained the idea of sending me a quick 'hi, I'm gonna be busy' text, yet, he had time to talk to his other friends. I would've understood a lot more if he had said that or needed a day away from me, but he left me constantly wondering when I would be able to talk to him or if he actually did wanna talk to me. And yes, he classified him as a Daddy and knew I could be clingy as a Little if not told otherwise. I was left feeling unwanted, abandoned and wondering where I was going wrong as a person. You know exactly what you want and deserve as a person and from a relationship, so take a moment to have a talk to yourself and wonder where you want to go from there <3

Edited May 12, 2020 by uwuoaf

[Dangerously_Well]

I would give the relationship some serious thought,

 

I understand that life can get busy, and in my case, when I am with a little they always get and deserve at absolute minimum a good morning text.

 

Anything less is neglect.

[Little kaiya]

My Wife, Daddy and I are all very busy people with different work schedules but we all still manage to find time to stay connected with one another. Whether it's a quick text in the morning, at lunch or before bed. It doesn't take much effort to send a text to let someone you love know you're thinking about them.

 

Stand your ground and find someone who will treat you like you deserve.

[Guest EnchantedDream_Sam]

Thank you for everyone's replies. I appreciate it.

 

I'm very happy I became a member on this Forum.