Long Distance DDlg Advice During Covid 19

[Guest friendlygirly]

Thank you all for your advice. Everything is better now, so I'm removing my post. I'm not sure how to delete it though...If anyone can let me know how to delete it, that would be helpful! Thanks

Edited May 7, 2020 by me123__

[Alaskan Daddy]

It is great that you shared your heart like this.  First it sounds like your daddy has been honest with what he wants in the relationship. What I want to tell you that his feelings matter just as much as yours do. I can see that you are looking at things from both sides which is good. I feel your daddy wants more from the relationship right now than you can give him. Even though you feel like he might be a little 'short sighted' he has expressed his feelings and people can not help how they feel. You might ask him this: 'in a perfect world what would you (your daddy) want from our relationship?' You might also ask him if he can give the relationship a few more weeks and tell you how feels in a couple of weeks when this virus thing has calmed down.

From a couple of things you have said I feel like that a lot of the relationship is about what your daddy wants and feels and less about your desires and needs. Even if you and your daddy stay together I feel those are some things you and him may need to work on. 

If you and your daddy break up there are no easy ways to get over someone that you love deeply and means so much to your happiness. I have always looked inward and became grateful to have met someone who gave me so much joy and showed me how to love some one very deeply. I would always try to take that experience into my next relationship. As far as getting support if you may need it, there are some wonderful people on this site that would gladly give you an ear for you to express your feelings with lots of emotional support. 

I hope this helps and good luck

[Guest friendlygirly]

Hi Alaskan Daddy,

 

Thank you so much for your response to my long post. Thank you so much for your input and advice. I don't know if I love my Daddy, but I do care deeply for him. I understand that it's harder for him because he cares deeply about physical touch, and being in a long-distance relationship, we can't have that. He's also a first time Daddy, so he's figuring things out just like I am, but it really seems like I'm doing most of the research and putting in the most effort to make this work. I think he's even more concerned about how corona is going to effect us. He read online that an expert said it could take up to three years until social distancing measures are fully lifted, so that definitely effected how he's looking at our situation. He hasn't spoken to me in almost 12 hours now. I'm definitely going to ask him to try to give it a little more time, but I'm also trying really hard to see things from his point of view, no matter how hard it may be. I really like and care for him and I love what we have. I don't want corona to take away anything else from me. It's already taken so much.

 

Thanks again,

me123__

[baby_k]

Let him go: he just is not that into you. Or move on, be happy, do things you love and see if he changes his mind in the end (as maybe he is just in panic/anxiety mode and needs time): if not, at least you are being happy and enjoying your life.

 

If you had long rel behind you, then maybe try to make him see that he is just panicking and overreacting but as you don't have years of relationship behind you.... it's easier to move on as might be that he "just isn't feeling it" anymore but either doesn't realise it himself or doesn't want to say it so directly to you.

 

Relationship needs to two people working for it, not just one. :/