Help! Does anyone know how to help my little space feel more natural?

[Lavender_Bunbun]

Hai~ 

 

So I have a problem, sometimes I feel like I'm just faking little space; as if it's not even real. I get deep into it and then all the sudden I'll think "I could literally just pull myself out right now" or "I can speak totally normal." It's like I can only get into little space if I  t r y. I see so many littles out there who just fall and struggle to get out, even in public. I want the ability to do that, I feel like I am and my daddy thinks I am too, but sometimes I just feel like I shouldn't have to try this hard. I sometimes feel really guilty about being in little space because I feel like I'm not a real little and I'm offending the DDlg community in some way. I promise I'm a little, it's just that sometimes I feel like I'm just...not?

 

Does anyone know how to help my little space feel more natural?

[Alaskan Daddy]

Every Little is different. I understand your feelings and I know they are real.  There is nobody who can tell you that you are not a little. You should not be ashamed about how you get into little space and don't let anyone shame you in the way you get into little space. There are lots of littles like you that have a harder times than others to experience little space. My advice to you is be yourself and how ever you experience little space is perfect for who you are. There may be some different things you can change to make it easier for you to get into that space. Do some research and see if there are things you have not tried. The worst thing you can do is to have 'little envy'. Be the best you that you can be with the love of your daddy and everything will be wonderful. I hope this helps.

[Emillia]

I don't have any tips, but know that you are not alone. I experience the same thing often and honestly for me that's just a fact of life. Instead of fighting it, I would suggest accepting that you can switch up this state of being more easily than others. It does not have to be a negative thing at all!

 

It was only when I accepted feeling that way and started feeling more comfortable doing so that I could explore more of my little side. And think about it; maybe there's a reason for it too. In my case, I have many real life responsibilities and have to do grown-up things pretty much all day. So even when I get  10 minutes off and get to color or play, I might still be worrying about these things. That's perfectly normal. You are not a bad little or "pretending" at all. Sometimes, reality just comes knocking down your door, like it or not.

[MrWrongUk]

I think it’s overthinking I think we all do it. The mind never shuts up. Ever you probably have noticed.i suggest meditation. It stops u thinking for a little. Also u don’t need to be any place other than where u want to be..little or large..I would suggest don’t worry just be how u feel when u feel it.

[Guest daddy'ssweetpea]

So I wanna say I go in and out of little space easily, the wrong question will pull me right back into my adult world. But that doesn't take away from my little space or make me less of a little. It's ok if you don't go super deep, nothing wrong with wanting to and trying to, but it's also ok if it doesn't happen. There is no right or wrong to be little just go with it and have fun.

[BB-Lizzie]

My little space tends not to be very "deep" either. I'm able to slip out of it with only a little effort, but it's harder for me to get "into it". It takes a lot of focus and situational cues (like colouring or playing dress up, brushing my hair or talking to my stuffs) to help me "settle" into my little space and even then It's easy for me to slip out of it again. The only times that I fall in deep are when I'm: 1. very very tired 2. taking heavy painkillers or codeine 3. in a very heightened emotional state. If it's one of those situations then I literally have to take a nap to get out of it.