Your experiences with online relationships? Could I have one?!

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I'm looking for advice, suggestions and stories of your own experiences if you're willing to share!

 

I've always looked ONLY for a "real life" relationship. Something online or even long-distance was tricky, because I'm emotionally clingy and enjoy physical affection. Plus I'm a sexual person including as a little and frankly, online sex doesn't do it for me.

 

Obviously this isn't the time to meet anyone in person, and so I'm wondering about an online relationship. 

 

Have any other littles found it difficult to cope with being physically apart BUT found it manageable and enjoyable to have an online relationship despite that? Or was it too stressful for you?

 

Have any Daddy's or CGs helped littles to overcome this difficulty (of being apart) and have you gone on to have a satisfying relationship?

 

I'd so much love to have the DDlg interaction with someone, but I'm scared that I'll upset someone if I'm struggling to cope with being apart.  I wouldn't want to hurt anyone. I'd really like to know what experienced DD's might think about this.

 

What would I be looking for? Guidance, nurturing, some rules, lots of messages, phone calls/video calls ... and hopefully at the same time making him happier and more fulfilled in return with playfulness, obedience & chat about ordinary things (not just DDlg).

Could this be possible with a girl who usually craves real-life contact?

 

Open to all feedback!

 

ETA: This isn't a thinly disguised Personal Ad! Please reply here and not via Friend Requests, thank you.

 

Looby

Edited May 4, 2020 by Looby-Lou

[baby_k]

I love physical stuff too but also love the mental, so forming a base for relationship online works for me well: I get to know them and bond mentally which I anyhow need before physical relationship. I also believe that first just talking tons is good way to form rel as then you know each other and it is not just lust and the physical gravings. -> try to maybe consider this just as bit longer dating phase where there just is no touching?

 

There are people who really don't like to chat online, or who somehow are unable to see the other person as living breathing humanbeing unless they are physically present. Not sure one can do anything then... Otherwise I still think if there is one thing where people are good at, it is adaptability. If you have no other choice than date online, well, you will eventually adapt to it.

 

In normal dating world men often want to meet fast to see "if there is spark" which I really dislike as I know with high/full probability that I will not be attracted to them no matter who they are as I don't have enough time to start liking them ( I'm bit slow ). Often people reason that if you just talk online, you don't really see the person as who they are and you make your own fantasies which is true. However, I believe this is mostly avoided by ( manymany ) video calls and so on, just texting doesn't tell everything about the person.

 

Like I once had texted some while with pretty amazing guy and finally we went on a date. I learned that he was very mousey and skittish which made him go directly to friendzone... I think I would have spotted that had I been in calls and in videocalls with him but we mainly texted and just once talked on phone.

 

Anyhowwwwww, I think you can START as online thing. Have it be like slow dating even if you were talking a lot all the time. It could be even good thing as you learn more of the person in mental level. Think how we always say to kids/teens that they should wait before having sex and how much better it feels when you really love the other person and know them. Sometimes us adults should do what we tell others to do

BUTbut make sure there is plan to meet and have real physical rel. At least I find that crusial for my mental sanity. It gives you something to expect and makes the rel a lot more real, and also helps you to talk about practical things, so you don't just wander in some fantasy land where you both are totally perfect people -who will crash hugely when you really meet ( if you even will meet as some people also prefer to keep things only online even they may claim something else ).

 

Soo, best of luck, I think you should try this and see how it works for you. This experiment can benefit your rel, as I'm sure you would learn about yourself, your like and ways of communication this way even if the online thing doesn't work for you at all.

 

Edit: start online thing only with someone closeby, someone you could in normal situation meet. I doubt this situation lasts as super strict for eternity, so if you start to really struggle without physical stuff, you probably can arrange it quite fast still -> no one will really get hurt even if it would be bit nastier phase.

Edited May 4, 2020 by baby_k

[Nymph]

Daddy and I started online, I sometimes miss that connection because it can be pretty special bond, however that is all it is, a different kind of bond.

 

I did end up with "online only" situations while I was single but not by choice, a lot of guys out there will say they want to meet and then put up excuses and what they really want is the fantasy of having someone perfect... or having someone think they are... because you can choose to interpret whatever they do in the best way possible due wishful thinking, problems start when you get a bit too enamored with that fantasy, but some people yearn for it. And then you have the married guys who are trying to be sneaky under a romantic veil, these guys will not be interested in dating you if you say you are willing to date a married man for example! they want their perfect girl to keep as their dirty little secret.

 

I have tried to find an online only platonic partner, Daddy gave me the ok ages ago. But a lot of people out there are not comfortable with "dating" a married woman even if there is no drama, hell even just finding a friend can be difficult if you are married. So you being single gives you a great advantage.

 

Like you, I am pretty sexual and online doesn't do it for me, not into roleplaying either, I need touch and warmth. I wouldn't consider an online relationship if I was single unless it was an open one, needs should be met and it's up to you to decide if you are ok in fulfilling them elsewhere, you already know your needs.

 

I think baby k's advice is a good one, it is realistic to communicate with someone close by to make meeting easier. However I must admit I did not follow that rule, in fact I avoided it.

 

In my case it was mostly because I prefer to date outside my culture, but also because if a guy is willing to jump on a plane or take a long drive to meet you he is very interested and is willing to make time and effort for the relationship, it also shows he is not afraid of adventure and that is a good match for my personality. If you go this route I do suggest you put a time limit on how long you are willing to talk before meeting for the first time to not waste your time.

Edited May 4, 2020 by Nymph

[LittleBunnyCici]

So, my little and I have been together for a very long time.  We've physically lived together for about four, five years now?  But before that we were exclusively long distance - I lived in Ohio, and she lived in New York.

 

Online relationships are like any other relationship - they take communication, trust, and respect to work.  What makes them tricky is that because you cannot be with your partner, physically, it becomes infinitely more important that you make sure your communication with your partner(s) is open, clear, and direct.  Especially over text, where tone and intent are often easy to lose or misread.

 

Another important aspect to maintaining a healthy online relationship is recognizing that, just because you live in different areas, it's still very important that you set up dates and other bonding experiences!  This could be as simple as one of you sharing your screen in a video call to watch a movie together, or both of you making dinner at the same time and eating together over the phone.  A lot of people fall into the trap of thinking that, because the relationship is long distance and they can't physically go anywhere with their partner anyway, than the relationship only has to be something they think about or work on when they're online and talking to their partner.  I've noticed this happening less and less for people with the rise of social media, and the blurring of the lines that used to exist between "The Internet" and "In-Real-LIfe," but it still trips some people up.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Thanks everyone for sharing your suggestions and your own experiences.

 

I know that for me it's really important to validate the connection by meeting in person. And that's not just about a sexual attraction at all, it's about "clicking" with the person as a whole person.

Video calls do really help with that, but nothing beats IRL

 

I think I'll just take it one step at a time and see how things go. So much is uncertain right now, for everyone. 

If I connect with someone online and it's going well, then great. I'm always up front from the start that I struggle without real-life meet ups.

I wondered if a Daddy who was experienced with online/distance relationships might have been able to help.

 

Thanks again!

 

Looby