Not sure what to think

[Guest daddy'ssweetpea]

So I'm not sure if I should be concerned or not, I had been talking to a potential daddy and yesterday we decided that he would be my daddy. Everything thing was going great we set up rules and an app for chores with a reward system. He even purchased me items from my wish list (his idea not mine) and he helped pick out clothes for the next day and bedtime. All and all it felt like everything was going well.

But when we were talking on the phone before bed the phone call ended abruptly I called back and it went straight to voicemail, so I just assumed his phone died no big deal it happens. I reached out by Kik and asked what happened and then went to sleep.

I woke up this morning and never heard back from him, so I messaged him again and nothing. Then I noticed his profile here had been deleted. And then I tried to call him but still got straight to voicemail. And I noticed all the items he bought were back on my Amazon wishlist.

I'm really confused, why would he put all the time in yesterday to set everything up if he was just going to ghost me? And I really thought things were going great so I don't understand why he'd do this? Am I being over sensitive maybe there's a reasonable answer for everything? If it wasn't all of the things happening together I would just assume there was a reasonable answer. But all them happening together seems fishy to me. But I just don't understand why he would spend all the time setting things up just to ghost it doesn't make sense?

I feel like everytime I find a daddy I get ghosted and I don't really understand why I don't think it's anything I'm doing. I just don't understand and I'm tierd of getting my hopes up.

[PapaMax]

My guess is, he was married or something and just got busted.

 

Don't get too sad, there's a lot of douchebags out there, I got ghosted dozens of times on here but I also met some great friends and my current little I'm sure you will get someone great if you keep trying x

[Guest daddy'ssweetpea]

I never even thought of that, I tend to be a little on the trusting side, witch is good for a relationship but not always great for meeting people online. Thanks for the input.

[Nymph]

Yup, married and busted

[Punographer]

Take the time to get to know someone and if they really like you, they most definitely will put in the work to become your daddy. Make them work to earn the responsibility and love of a precious little!

[Guest daddy'ssweetpea]

Well I thought I had is the thing.

[shygirl99507]

I completely understand how you feel.  Thought I was solid with what was built in trust, and then ghosted.  Happened twice.  The first ghost daddy came back eventually and said he had a girlfriend and just freaked out and backed out.    The second one...........I still haven't heard from and now I don't know whether to be concerned or if it was just a hidden secret that came out.

 

The hardest part is placing so much trust in a daddy - and then being ghosted.  I feel for you.  I didn't realize it happens as often as it does. 

[Guest daddy'ssweetpea]

Thanks yeah it seems to happen a lot Wich is sad because the trust between a little and a daddy is such a beautiful thing that should be protected not taken advantage of.

[SmolAetherr]

defo busted, sorry

[little*luck*]

Honestly it sounds suspicious to me. He should at least have sent you a text afterwards, or at least in the morning, to reassure you everything was alright with him for ending the call. This behavior makes me think this was his little secret outside his relationship (marriage).

 

It is hard to find someone online who is genuine and honest. I'm sorry this happened to you.

[Vampiress]

Unfortunately I get the impression that ghosting is VERY common here... on all sides, not just from Daddies. With the internet it's just too easy and convenient and lots of people will bail for all kinds of reasons that aren't your fault. I'm sorry he got you so excited and hopeful only to disappear and disappoint you. I hope that you find someone else who is a lot more considerate and honest.

[Guest daddy'ssweetpea]

Thanks

[Guest ProfessorDaddy33]

I’ve been ghosted several times too and it was from people that I was in a similar situation to you. Other people have provided cogent reasons why he bailed, and some have explained people will just ghost you for a variety of reasons. I wasn’t having a nice platonic conversation with someone and thought we were establishing a friendship and I went on the forum next morning because she said she would reply in the morning and when I opened the message the person deleted their account without giving me an explanation. It’s so hard because there is no closure. I hope you find someone genuine and you get the happiness you deserve ! Good luck !

[JustALittlePrincess]

It sounds really dodgy, whatever if he's going to act like that then he wouldnt be worth your time anyway
But it definitley sounds like a 'busted' situation which is just icky

[jaredstone363]

Sorry for your experience, unfortunately this happens a lot to both Daddy's and Littles. You may never know the reason why and you just have to accept that. Don't let it get you down.

[Guest Teasing Tink]

Yeah, it sounds like a case of him being in a relationship and covering his tracks. As for suggestions for future people, I'm not sure how long y'all had been talking before it was decided something more official would start, but I would just encourage you to take your time getting to know someone and testing them before committing to anything. Don't rush it. But either way, at least now you know. On the bright side, it could've been dragged out longer when you were even more invested. So at least he's weeded out now.

[Guest daddy'ssweetpea]

Yeah that's how I feel, we had talked for a little bit, but obviously not long enough.

[MysticSand]

I strongly agree with what Teasing Tink said. Take your time! At least a month. At least!

 

I think it's very likely that like others have said, he was in a relationship and things went south.

Alternatively, that's a lot to do in one day to go through with so it's possible that he was just afraid to really go that deep in to something so far.

And instead of talking it through with you and backtracking some of those things, he decided it was easier to just ghost.

 

It's unfortunate and hard to take not personal, but it most typically isn't because ghosting is more a sign of something going on in the ghoster's life rather than the ghosted.

Wishing you the best to get over him!

[Guest daddy'ssweetpea]

I'm not really hung up on him, I was just confused as to what happened.He was the one who acted like he wanted to set everything up, we had been talking for a while but it probably wasn't long enough but I'm really ok was just surprised.

[DomnixG]

On 4/27/2020 at 3:07 PM, shygirl99507 said:

I completely understand how you feel.  Thought I was solid with what was built in trust, and then ghosted.  Happened twice.  The first ghost daddy came back eventually and said he had a girlfriend and just freaked out and backed out.    The second one...........I still haven't heard from and now I don't know whether to be concerned or if it was just a hidden secret that came out.

 

The hardest part is placing so much trust in a daddy - and then being ghosted.  I feel for you.  I didn't realize it happens as often as it does. 

So sorry you had to go through that.. *sending love to you*

[beanbean]

Could be a few things like posted above he could be married.or it got real to fast or he was talking to more than one little at a time 

 

[shygirl99507]

On 10/28/2023 at 6:47 AM, DomnixG said:

So sorry you had to go through that.. *sending love to you*

That is so sweet of you.  Thank you ❤️

 

On 10/28/2023 at 6:47 AM, DomnixG said:

So sorry you had to go through that.. *sending love to you*