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[gentlelittlelamb]

Sorry, just need a place to rant about this because its making me really upset.  And i apologize if this is all over the place, theres alot.

 

My daddy doesn't make time for me anymore and he ignores my texts. He chooses his friends and weed over me. At first it didn't bother me too much because i figured guys need time with their friends so i never nagged him to spend time with me as i didnt want to be that one controlling girlfriend. But its really been getting to me. He spends every single day with them, driving around, going to dinner, getting high, crossfaded, drunk, whatever. And yet whenever i get the rare treat of seeing him (like, once a month or once every other month) its spent with me going to his place, fucking, sometimes he'll pack a bowl for us, then ends with cuddling and him falling asleep. Dont get me wrong, i love it. But it rarely ever happens and when it does, im sometimes thrown out early because one of his friends wants him over or vice versa.

 

He also knows i have no friends and im lonely all the time but he'll send me pictures of him and his buddies at the movies, bowling alley, mall, etc. And i told him it makes me upset and jealous when he does that because id love to have some time with him like that and he told me to have some fucking self respect and not envy him and that he sends those pictures to "brighten up my day". I know i cant expect him to take me with him and his friends as i would be intruding, but they do so many fun things together that id love to be apart of, and im always at home, alone, smoking myself out to the point of not feeling anything. He tells me to just make friends and have a social life, but as a girl with severe anxiety and barely any friends that want to do anything with her, its extremely difficult... and he knows this. Even after that talk he still continued to send pictures and boast about how much fun theyre having and how amazing it is and that he would take me but his friend wouldnt like it.

 

And finally, i feel as if im not a priority to him anymore... his friends come before me no matter what, and he's blown me off for my birthday and didnt show up for Valentine's. One night he told me he wasnt doing anything the next day and i could come over, well the next morning i asked if i can still come and he said his friend was coming over in the morning but wouldnt stay long. Fast forward to 5 pm and he finally messages me "ugh everyone finally left, uh your grandma probably wont let you over now will she?" when i said yes he went "Yeah but my grandma may not like it" so he said we can do it another time but idk when that will be.. For my birthday he told me he would take me to the movies for a date. We had the time set and everything, then two days before my birthday he tells me just going to get me a cart instead of taking me out. Im crying my eyes out because we havent been on an actual date in two years. I ask him if ill still be able to see him at least and he said yes. Day before rolls around and he tells me he wont be able to see me because his dog is sick, which i understand. After i spent my day alone, i find out that he was spending all day smoking with his friends... 

 

Sorry for the long read...just had to get it off my chest.. as im typing this hes telling me all of his plans with his friends for today. we love being discarded...

[freekittyx3]

I’m so sorry to hear about your struggles boo! It’s very difficult, heartbreaking, when the one you care for puts everything else before you. Unfortunately I know this feeling all too well. It’s horribly unfair and selfish. I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way, but know you are entitled to feel however you feel! I don’t want to give advice or anything unless you ask specifically, but just know that your feelings are valid. You should never feel lonely in a relationship, that’s a problem and worth thinking deeply on when you’re ready. Message me anytime!

[Little kaiya]

He sounds like a seriously selfish, disrespectful, uncaring person. It sounds like he treats you like a last resort for when he doesn't have plans or is bored. Absolutely NOBODY deserves the way he treats you. It is ignorant at best and down right intentionally mentally abusive at best.

 

Honestly, dump his ass and find someone who loves you, cares about you, wants to be with you and isn't an abusive and disrespectful asshole.

Edited April 24, 2020 by Little kaiya

[Nymph]

Honey, it doesn't sounds like you were never a priority to start with.

 

I suggest you follow his advice, have some self respect and dump that narcissistic jerk.

 

Also how is he doing all this in the middle of a worldwide quarantine?! honestly I kind of hope he gets a big scare out of it and learns his lesson.

[SmolAetherr]

sounds like you already know what to do, from my perspective you arent his girlfriend, just a booty call.

 

you are also someone that apparently needs the blessing of selfies of him and his friends, thats kind of funny in a pathetic way

 

im pretty sure you are worth more than that.

[Guest Teasing Tink]

He sounds really immature and self-absorbed to say the least. You can't expect anything more from a person who has chosen to be that way. Being alone is better than being with someone who makes you feel all alone, in my opinion. I know it's harder when you have social anxiety, but there are actually kind people in the world who will treat you like a priority, like you're important -- because you are, and you deserve to be treated as such. You just have to learn how to weed out the people who aren't what you're looking for. My unsolicited advice: don't waste any more of your tears or time on someone who wouldn't do the same for you.

Edited April 24, 2020 by Teasing Tink

[Alaskan Daddy]

I am not making a judgement about what kind of person your daddy is, but he has shown to you where he is in his life right now. He has showed you who he is right now. It is obvious that he is not giving you the kind of love and care that you desire. It does not make him a bad person or you a needy little it only may mean is that he is not the right daddy for you,

You will have to decide if you feel he will change. You will also have to decide if this relationship is worth your time. One thing I will tell you is that your feelings matter and there is nothing wrong with you wanting to feel more loved and cared for then you feel from your daddy right now. You also don't owe him anything more that honesty. There is nothing wrong with you taking a look at things with your daddy and deciding that you want more than he is able or willing to give you. I personally don't feel things with him will change any time soon. I hope this helps and I wish all the luck in the world.

[gentlelittlelamb]

Honey, it doesn't sounds like you were never a priority to start with.

 

I suggest you follow his advice, have some self respect and dump that narcissistic jerk.

 

Also how is he doing all this in the middle of a worldwide quarantine?! honestly I kind of hope he gets a big scare out of it and learns his lesson.

Some of this was before the virus came about, but he still goes out with them now. We were all in a Playstation party, his friends who actually care if he spends time with me, and I. And one of his friends called him and invited him out and they kept bugging him until he said yes. The whole party got so pissed off at him, telling him he needs to learn to stay in and that hes part of the reason quarantine is going on for so long. He said he can go out if he wants to because he doesnt like being shut up in the house doing nothing.

[SmolAetherr]

Some of this was before the virus came about, but he still goes out with them now. We were all in a Playstation party, his friends who actually care if he spends time with me, and I. And one of his friends called him and invited him out and they kept bugging him until he said yes. The whole party got so pissed off at him, telling him he needs to learn to stay in and that hes part of the reason quarantine is going on for so long. He said he can go out if he wants to because he doesnt like being shut up in the house doing nothing.

you should report him to the local police for breaking the lockdown, nothing may come of it but that sort of thing puts lives at risk (no i'm not joking i wish i were)

[Vampiress]

Wow... all I can start with is WOW. He sounds like a real piece of work. The only "self respect" you should work on is leaving this guy behind and moving on towards bigger, better, happier things. It's clear in your words how much he means to you and how much you care about him. You sound very sweet and devoted, and he's taking advantage of this to the extremes. Honestly, if you cut him off you'll be without all the heartache of his stupid selfies with friends and hearing all about his plans while he leaves you behind. I feel like it'd be a vast improvement to your day to day life to have all of that worry and non-sense gone. He's way too immature, self-centered, and possibly narcissistic. He clearly doesn't care about your feelings, so no matter how devoted you are to him there will be no reward or anything positive coming from you trying to be the best girlfriend and little you can possibly be. He'll just never appreciate it. I promise eventually, if you give yourself this chance, that you'll find someone else that will cherish and love the heck out of you and make you feel like the most precious little girl in the world. You deserve SO much better than this.

Also the fact that he doesn't give a care in the world about quarantine just shows even further how little he cares about others. Some people may not care if they get themselves sick, but we're all in lockdown for the benefit of EVERYONE. Not just ourselves. That's a really sad and disgusting personality trait he has right there, in my opinion. This illness is killing so many people and keeping people out of their jobs. He's part of the problem, not the solution.