In need of advice...

[Little K]

I'm a bit nervous bringing this up, but it's something that has been bothering me for some time now and I don't know who else to talk to about, but you guys. Being apart of this community is honestly the most amazing thing. Finally feels like there are people out there that get me. Going off of that, maybe there's someone out there that can help me...

 

I'm currently in an open relationship with my daddy. I love him very very much and he adores me to pieces, however I have to share him. My daddy has another little girl too. Her and I both share him. She has him on certain days of the week and I have him on other days of the week. At the beginning, I was more than okay with this arrangement, but the more time I spend with my daddy, the more I want him to myself. I hate having to leave only knowing that some other little girl gets his snuggles and attention. It makes me sad.

 

I don't know how to bring it up to my daddy. I know he loves that little girl very much too. I don't want to make him choose between us, but at the same point I don't want to share him anymore. Is that selfish of me?

 

Should I be more considerate of my daddy's feelings? I want to make him super duper happy, but I want to be his only little girl.

 

All advice is highly appreciated!

 

 

[Guest Teasing Tink]

Would it be possible for you and the other "little" to become friends and/or for all three of you to sometimes spend time together? That might help ease feelings of jealousy and loneliness that rise up.

 

I don't think you're selfish, just aware of your own feelings. It's important to honor those and respect your own boundaries too. If you feel like what you want in terms of a relationship may be changing, that's okay, but its good to be open about your feelings and discuss them with your daddy.

[Little K]

Thank you for you advice, Bratty Pixie. That's what I suggested to my Daddy, I'm open to that, but he simply says that the other little and I are too different and he prefers us better apart than together. 

 

I'm trying to find a way to bring it about without bothering him.

[Vampiress]

I think Tink brings up a good point. Regardless of what he prefers and "likes" best, there's still what you also need/want, and maybe she'd be open to hanging out with you, too. There needs to be some compromise somewhere, especially if it helps ease your jealousy. Because who knows? You and her might get along really well and figure out a new dynamic between the three of you that you actually end up liking and her too. For this to continue between all three of you, there needs to be compromise and you shouldn't be the only one compromising. He needs to give a little too, even if that means letting you meet her or hang out around her. If he refuses to compromise then it's up to you to decide for yourself if you can handle sharing him and not meeting her. If you can't handle it then, well it might be best to move on, otherwise you're just going to get more jealous and possibly resentful and that's bad for a relationship. Your desires are completely valid. It's okay to feel jealous or want him more to yourself, your feelings are your feelings. The important part is figuring out a solution everyone can live with, or figuring out what you're going to do if something can't be figured out that everyone agrees with. I wish you the best of luck and hope you can figure something out with both of them that makes everyone happy.

[SmolAetherr]

Thank you for you advice, Bratty Pixie. That's what I suggested to my Daddy, I'm open to that, but he simply says that the other little and I are too different and he prefers us better apart than together. 

 

I'm trying to find a way to bring it about without bothering him.

i would say dont worry about bothering him keep pushing it and consider consequences for him if he ignores your needs, its not for him to decide if the two of you are "too different" or not.

Edited April 15, 2020 by Aetherr

[Alaskan Daddy]

First of all I want to tell you I don't feel you are being selfish. Those are you feelings and you can not help how you feel. I sense that you love your daddy very much and what you want in the relationship now is different then when it began. There is nothing wrong with you wanting the man you have  such deep feelings for all to your self. 

I feel you have a few options. First you could tell your daddy just what you posted and ask him to share his feelings about what you tell him and see what happens, knowing that this conversation could change everything. 

Another option is for you to have a selfish conversation with yourself about what you want and desire and decide if you can stay in the relationship without feeling so hurt. 

I feel your daddy has been honest about who he is and what he desires and I don't feel he will change. 

Only you can decide is this is going to work for you and your heart. There is nothing wrong with your feelings evolving into something more than when the relationship started. There is nothing wrong with you sharing your feelings with your daddy, as long as you don't ask him to choose. My advice is for you to be strong for yourself because no one else will be. There is also nothing wrong if you decide to walk away from this relationship as long as you are honest with your daddy. 

I hope this helps you in anyway and good luck.

[little*luck*]

Honest and open communication is essential. Don't hold in your feelings, they matter and you matter. Some advice I would give you is that it is okay to want more out of your relationship and its okay to be selfish. Being selfish doesn’t mean being mean, rather it means loving yourself first. If you know in your heart that you can't share your daddy anymore. That is okay, just be honest with him.

 

“Two things you will never have to chase: True friends & true love.”---Mandy Hale

[Little K]

Thank you, guys for your advice. It's incredibly helpful. The reassurance was definitely greatly needed. Thank youu 

[Jt_the_sadist]

I think a little playdate would be very helpful. If he thinks you two are very different, then meeting her might actually be good for you because you'll realize that each relationship is different and special. I think communication is really helpful for jealous tendencies. 

 

I would just bring this up to him; if it helps to write it instead of say it, try that. I personally have an easier time writing what I feel than saying what I feel.