Breaking up with daddy

[Yuna247]

[Lollipox]

Diapers are usually an AB/DL thing, not specifically a Little thing. AB/DL goers can also be Littles, but not all Littles are AB/DL. 

Not all Littles like Pacifiers, that's also verging more on the Adult Baby side of things- but they're hella cute.

 

It's my personal opinion that Littles are just who they are themselves, and a partner shouldn't be able to remove that from you as it's your personality and natural mannerisms that make you one. You might definitely feel less chirpy and bubbly, because breakups are hard and stressful situations in life will normally zap the life out of anyone. So I'd say revisit that question in a few months time when you've had more time to heal and feel more like yourself again. 

 

Nobody needs a Daddy. As previously mentioned, being Little is just a part of your being (if you are one). If you desperately want someone who will value your babytalking and cuteness, then I would say you'd be better paired with someone familiar with the DDlg dynamic. 

It sure is a sad feeling not to have one though, I get that. They're precious and few.

 

I as a Little don't really love colouring, I have to make myself do it. It's on par with completing a task lol

I like pacifiers, I think they're cute. I don't care for diapers myself.

 

My personal opinion is that you sound like a Little. But that's not really something other people should/can label others as. Same as telling someone they're a Dom, when they might not feel that way themselves. 

 

Tldr; Breakups suck. And it'll take some time to heal, because it seems it was a very long term relationship. And you've got to adjust to all the things that are now gone with the end of the relationship. But you will be okay. Take some more time before you question your very being. It's going to feel weird for a while, and of course it's gonna be hurting. But it wouldn't be fair to you, nor the person you might get involved with, to jump to a new person so fast just because you miss babytalking and being told you're cute. Give yourself time first. A week is only a droplet in the ocean compared to the time you were together. It takes longer than that to learn how to be alone again- and it's not all bad to be so. 

 

Hopefully you'll gradually be able to enjoy the things you used to enjoy, but by yourself. 

Anyways, I hope you feel better soon.  

[Princesspunzie21]

loosing this can be extremely hard but it does sound like you have little tendencies, thats nothing to be ashamed of all littles are unique and different and not all of them like everything other littles or abdl's may enjoy, doesnt mean you are any less valid as a little. take this time to heal and grow yourself lovelie and its not easy by any means but i think you will get through this and possibly look for someone who understands you as a person and understands this community as you wouldnt be asking these questions if you didnt think you were little-like you will find someone who is perfect for you one day and each experience along the way is a new experience, your still discovering who you are and thats perfectly okayy. im sending lots of love and i hope the sun shines through soon but its okay to be sad and never forget that xoxoxox 

[daddymind]

This broke my heart to read. I'm so sorry this happened. You sound adorable and you deserve to be loved for who you are. I'm sure there is someone out there for you.

 

As for going into a vanilla relationship. The problem with this is you might not feel content suppressing the baby in you and that will ultimately leave you feeling unhappy. Ideally you should be with someone with whom you can express yourself 100% (or at least close to it). It will be worth waiting for. Don't rush into a relationship because a lot of guys sadly will never accept the baby talk and bratty behaviour, or know how to deal with it. I would hate for you to invest time in another relationship only to be disappointed again.

 

Take some time to reflect on things and be on your own terms. If after a while on your own you still feel that burning desire/need to be babied then you'll know it's more of a deal breaker and will be willing to wait/search for the right person.

 

And yes, there are littles who aren't into diapers, pacifiers and coloring. The blanket term "little" is just for convenience really. But everyone, little or not, has different needs and traits.

Be strong, try to enjoy and make the most of your own space, spend time understanding and loving yourself. Good luck poppet.

[Vampiress]

You can still be a little or a baby without being into it during sexual things, there's lots of non-sexual littles out there. It definitely sounds like you fit into being a little or ABDL based on how you talk and the things you like to do.

 

I know this is very hard to feel it suppressed so much by losing the person you were able to be yourself with, but you can still try to explore your littleness on your own or make friends in the community that maybe you can come to be comfortable enough with to express your little side with them. There's quite a few discord servers here with different things you can partake in with other littles and Caregivers.

 

If being a little/baby is that important to you, you may very well struggle in a vanilla relationship. The likeliness of them being into what you are is a lot lower of a chance, though sometimes people are "vanilla" just don't even know what it is and might be intrigued after finding out but it's basically like gambling at that point on whether or not they'll accept it, take interest, or at least indulge you. There's quite a few people who really hate it and find it weird though, so you run the risk of rejection, and sometimes really harsh rejection. If you find someone who is int Cg/l or ABDL then you are much more likely to find yourself a partner that is compatible with you, though be patient with this because there will be a lot of Daddies who prefer the sexual side of it, but there are definitely Daddies who will respect you not wanting to be sexual in little space.

 

I agree with what was said before... since this just happened, I know you are devastated and hurting and things feel all wrong but you would be doing yourself a disservice to rush into something else with someone. You need to give yourself some time to get over your previous relationship and maybe to explore your interests a little bit on your own since you seem kind of unsure where you fit. It's also only fair to your next partner that you give yourself the time to get over the last relationship so you aren't hung up on it or thinking about it while with someone new.

[miahoutx]

Not all DDoms are the same.  Sometimes things happen that mess things up.  I am sorry you had to go through that.  I am here if you ever need to talk. 

 

 

 

 

Hi ^^
I'm super new to all this - I don't even know if i'm a little 100%. I do have some tendencies, i always have but I'm definitely not into sexual age-play. But I do love acting like a baby, i am baby
In my last on and off relationship of 5 years, it became more and more prominent throughout the years.
I did the baby talk excessively, almost 80-90% when I talked to him. I started calling him daddy 4 years into the relationship, at first it was dada, then turned to daddy. He wasn't a daddy dom in a traditional sense but he provided what i needed. He baby talked to me, called me his little baby, little egg and other cute names. He provided me with advice on everything, and cuddled me and tickled me all the time, he let me watch cartoons while he did his own thing and called me cute when I acted like a little.
But we had to break things off last week, I don't want to talk about why it had to happen.
Now I don't have anyone to baby talk to and it's driving me insane. I'm so used to going "daddyyy, i miss my daddy, whak do dada?, daddy i need kishies and huggies" Etc etc. I'm so used to acting bratty and little and over-all just being a spoiled little brat. This is hitting me so hard. And I don't know what to do with myself, or how i'm going to live on without my baby talks and other cute stuff. I literally feel like i cant live without it.
Am i even a little?
Where do I go from here?
Do i need a daddy or go into a vanilla relationship in the future?
Are there littles that aren't into pacifiers, diapers or coloring?
I have so many questions and i'm in distress... any advice would be so much appreciated.
I'm sorry if this was messy

[Yuna247]

[Yuna247]

Having a care giver is such a blissful thing. Just to know that there's someone who accepts me for who I am, bares with me when I act like a total brat, cares for me when i'm crying which I often do.

And just to have someone I call daddy... i can't even say the word daddy without sounding like a little baby.

It's so devastating to not have that anymore. I imagine this is how lost pets feel like.

I love being a little so much, it truly makes me happy. Imagining I won't be able to do that is scaring the shit out of me. The world is too big for me and i'm scared.

But i guess i have to be strong