Having Trouble Admitting

[OddLittle]

I've known that I've had a little side of me for more than a year now. I had a daddy but things didn't end up working out. So now I'm in a new place with new friends and a new person of interest and I don't know if I want to express this side of me to this person. He's already said candidly that being called Daddy is something that makes him uncomfortable. I really enjoy spending time with this person but I have a growing interest in having a caregiver and I'm not sure how he'd feel about everything.. and, quite frankly, I'm not sure I'd even want this particular person to have the role of caregiver. Maybe I'm just afraid that he wouldn't have the right experience or wouldn't understand what this was.. sorry, I know I'm new to everything and I just needed to vent to people who'd understand. If anyone as any advice for me, I'd appreciate it. Thanks 

[Guest NonServiam]

So, I am on kind of the other end of this issue.  My girlfriend, whom I started dating in November, has told me in no uncertain terms that me being Daddy would be a giant issue, and totally untenable due to some issues in her past.  For awhile I wasn't really sure what to do with this side of myself.  Fortunately, she and I began our relationship as polyamorous, so when I met an amazing woman who eventually wanted to be my Little, I was able to begin that relationship without worry, since I knew it wasn't taking up space that my other girlfriend wanted for herself.  I won't say the poly angle is without issue, because there's certainly potential problems to navigate, but it has allowed me to have two awesome girlfriends who are into very different kinks, and it's been, so far, extremely rewarding and life-affirming.  I don't know if that's an option for you, but for me, it has been great.  Just some food for thought.

If poly isn't a thing, you're going to have to decide just how big (heh) a part of you being Little is.  If it's something you can put aside, then there's that.  But if it's something you need fulfilled, and will be unhappy without, it might be worth waiting until you find someone who can be who you need them to be.

Just my $0.02