Daddy has his princess but needs advice please.

[RawrGoesTheBandit]

[Mr. Grinch]

I am on my way out the door right know but just quickly scanning through what you said the one thing that caught me was you want it to be perfect for her.  Nothing is ever perfect.  By having that mindset you're going to put a lot of pressure on yourself.  We all make mistakes no one is perfect.  Expect bump along the way until you find what work best for your dynamic.  As for the budgeting stuff there are bajillions of ideas that are cheap or free.  Next time she is good ask her if she likes picnics and when she say YES just reply Alpaca Lunch.  I am sure she will love it.  Gotta run gotta go rig my kayak.

[Guest clumsy_little]

So I just skimmed through your problem. It'll take time to adjust to this lifestyle so give it as much time as possible, even little improvement can be a huge step. About rules and punishments, it's like setting rules for kindergarten kids. Punishments like spanking, timeout, sitting in the corner for some time, no candy/chocolate days are some of the simple punishments. As for rewards, a movie night or bake day. But don't forget the aftercare after the punishment, it'll make her feel more comfortable in her little space and one of the signs that you still love her and forgive her for her mistake. Hope I helped you n some way 

 

[zanderandspike]

Ok, so:

 

rules ideas: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/2210-what-are-your-rules/

 

punishments: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/23277-punishments/

 

general advice: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/51-general-advice-for-new-daddies/ and https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5454-lets-discuss-healthy-caregiving/

 

rewards: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/27958-rewards-and-punishmentsfunishments-ideas-charts-etc/

 

That's just some of the super helpful stuff on this website!

 

As fro rules feeling controlling/abusive they can at first, but typically if you do a check in every once and a wile it will get easier. Sometimes society tells us we're bad for engaging in this or wanting this, but so long as it's consenting adults that's ok, which can be kinda hard to learn, to like switch off the part of you that tells you this is wrong, just remember th bdsm three thing: safe, sane, consensual. Also don't do any rules you yourself are not comfortable with, it's not just about the little's enjoyment you also have to like this.

 

and that's my thoughts

~Drea/zander

 

edit: it would probably help to make a budget, there's some apps I know of and some websites, but you can also used googles' excel sheets and just ut in how much you're going to spend a month on little space things. I know for me budgeting is kinda hard, and I I shop to feel better, so... anyway, there's plenty of little space thigs to get, but you don't have to get it all at once!

Edited April 4, 2020 by zanderandspike