Too much sex in a relationship?

[little*girl*rosi]

Hey there,

I have a Daddy/boyfriend who I have been with for about 8 months and I really love him.

Our relationship is wonderful, we trust each other, we have fun, we love each other.

But sometimes I feel like we´re having to much sex (not just since we started a ddlg-relationship)?

Idk, we have sexytime everytime we meet (not the only thing we do, but like 50%) and I sometimes wonder what our relationship would be without that. Anyone with similar experiences who can give me some advice?

Bc, I´m feeling really...insecure and bad about this whole thing

[Guest Deleteplease]

Its really hard to say,

 

Firstly dont feel insecure, he obviously like what you have to offer if the majority of the time your having sex.

 

And I am not sure what exactly your feeling bad about? if its that you feel the relationship is lacking emotional content? 

 

You said you love him and everything great so have you tried expressing how you feel to him.

 

I.e sit down and express what else you or your little needs apart from sex in order to make you happy to?  just a thought.

 

For me I am nymph, (its not as great as people would let you believe)  So I am up front and honest form day 1 because its important.  but communication is always key, discuss how you feel and see if you kind find mutual ground.

 

Good luck

[Daddyprof]

Well, how much sex is "right" is really up to the two of you. There's nothing wrong or for you to feel bad about. Your Daddy is lucky to have you. That said, there is incredible intimacy and excitement that can be built up by passing on the sex from time to time and either engaging in play, or just being together, cuddling, etc. I have always made that part of my play and my relationships. You get to go a bit deeper mentally and emotionally, and study who it is you are with. It can bring more meaning, and even better sex. And of course, being a Dom, I enjoy the teasing element of it, and making my partner want me even more. Tension can be a beautiful thing.

 

You should consider talking to your Daddy about this. It is ok for our little ones to tell us their needs. It lets us be better daddies and take better care of them!

 

Good luck.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

If you are both happy with it then that's all that matters. Simple as that really.

[Guest Rainbow]

I feel like I have a lot of sex in my relationship too. Don't feel bad about it! It is a natural part of your relationship! I think that for me, I need that in my relationship. It keeps it exciting for me. And there's a good variety of reasons to do it. Whether you're just feeling horny, or you want to consummate the love, or just to let off stress, or to try some new move/toy. Don't feel bad! Be happy you've found such a great relationship

[nymphette]

Me and my daddy have an odd sex life sometimes. We will go about a month with no sex. It can be frustrating but also shows us we can do it. But then when we do start to have sex again, we have sex for like 1-2 weeks then back to a month of no sex... I just personally think we have an odd sex life.

 

Maybe try to talk to him and ask him if you guys can go a set amount of days with no sex. I feel like it helps my relationship... but that is my personal opinion.

[Daddys__kitten]

Hi sweetie!

When I met my ex husband it was something like that. For the first 2 years maybe, we had sex 5-10 every day. And when we didn't had sex, we where arguing, haha.

We had a lot of sex after that period too, but in some way I think that the crazy fucking filled some needs we both had. So in some way it just had to be done.

I can't say we had the best of marriage, but I still love him deeply and talk to him almost every day. It's not that I want to go back to him, hell no! 10 years was more than enough, but I think that all that sex made something with us, that we got a connection that is impossible to break.

Sooo, I don't think that a lot of sex is bad, you have it because you need it. It will come periods in your life when you can't have that much sex (like when you get kids or someone get sick) and you will deal with that too. It will be OK!

[MrBonesWildRide]

It's a big thing about communication. If you and your partners sex drives (or lack there of for some people) match up, you won't have to worry. If you're actually enjoying the physical aspect of the relationship while also having an actual connection to your partner then there will be much less issues going forward. 

[Tay212]

If you are happy and wanting to do it every time you do, then you are fine.  There is no such thing as too much or too little, it's a matter of what feels right for you.  The problem I had was that when I got with my ex husband I had been in a bad relationship for a really long time and being treated good and being happy turned me on so I wanted it all the time.  We were doing it every chance we got.  After a while I started to feel like that was all there really was to our relationship, though, and he had started to be a jerk sometimes and I had more babies and then I just didn't want it so much.  I kept doing it anyway, because I was afraid of upsetting him if I didn't.  The more we did it, the more it seemed like it was all he really cared about and the more resentful I felt.  There were a lot of other issues in our relationship, but doing it for his sake when I didn't want to ended up causing me a lot of emotional damage and has changed me from feeling like I was a highly sexual woman to someone who can usually take it or leave it. 

[JohnApple]

I think everyone else has wonderfully stated what I would say, but I'll reiterate anyway. As long as it's consensual, you love and trust each other, and you're happy, there's nothing wrong with a ton of sex. It's only an issue if you start getting irritated or sad about the amount of sex. There's no right or wrong answer for the amount of sex you have in a relationship— it's all about what makes you happy!

 

I had a little once who would only go into little space if I had sex with her. I do enjoy frequent sex in my relationships, but that made me uncomfortable. I wanted to be a daddy more than just in the bedroom. For her, DDLG was a purely sexual thing, and I didn't like that. Probably one of the major reasons we didn't work out. If you feel like your relationship has adequate non-sexual time, then there's nothing to feel insecure about! Have fun!