Is my Little too needy/clingy??

[Guest]

Any other littles feel like they're too needy or clingy?

 

I love finding connections and new people to associate with!

 

My issue is I think I get too excited, or overwhelm others by how I am.

 

The big me is used to shutting people out. Little me is the one who constantly tries to reach people.

 

I shut her down all the time. I'm actually afraid to let her loose, only to get her feelers hurt! She's too much sometimes...at least that's what I'm feelin.

 

She's been comin out more since joining here, this is such a safe place. Even so its still scary to let her run wild with what she wants to say sometimes...

[Guest QueenJellybean]

administrator note:

moving this to Little Space.

[Tasherz]

Hi Toodles!

 

I completely get where you are coming from with this! I also get that feeling as both a bug and little as I like alot of attention and love talking to people. Just try to remember that most CG and littles alike love feeling like they are needed and wanted. Having someone be needy and clingy towards you helps you to feel needed and wanted! I hope this helps some!

 

If you ever need someone to talk to, my DMs are always open!!! Keep being you

 

-Tasha

[Little kaiya]

Some caregivers REALLY love clingy and needy littles to be honest. I've talked to my Daddy about this a few times and he reassures me he lives when I'm clingy and needy. It's not something I personally would direct or display to other people though as it doesn't fit with the dynamic I have with them. It also would feel a bit wrong for me to do with someone other than my Daddy.

 

That said, trust that other people will set boundaries if things feel too much for them.

[Guest]

Thank you all for responding

This is why I feel more myself here than I have in soooo long!

 

Glad to know no ones ever really alone here.

 

When you have questions that you never wanna voice... then, to not only get feedback but honest information... yeah that's pretty amazing.

 

Thank you again fellow Little hearts

[Vampiress]

I totally feel too needy and clingy all the time and it's a real struggle. 

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I look at this way: i'm too clingy for some people and not clingy enough for others.

 

It really is a case of just being yourself and finding people (or someone special) who is truly compatible with you.

There's no point pretending to be something or someone we're not, it will come out sooner or later in a bad way.

 

Having said that, I personally do believe we need to have some self-restraint! There's a time and place for being clingy and/or being little IMO. 

 

Looby

[Guest]

Yes there's a time and place for it, I get that.

Think I'm just having difficulty cause she doesn't get out much.

So when I'm talking to people here it's easy for her. But I'll make sure to keep my little self under better control.

[Guest Teasing Tink]

Sometimes, but I generally only feel that way if I'm barking up the wrong tree and expressing myself to a person who is easily overwhelmed or can't handle all of me cuz then I'll just feel bad because I feel like I'm annoying the other person. It's usually not personal though, just everyone has a limit for what they can handle. I think it takes courage to stay vulnerable though despite your fear. Your excitement/energy is a beautiful thing, don't allow your "little" self to get stifled out of fear or shame. Just keep on being you. Sure, you might repel some people with your energy but you'll simultaneously pull others towards you in the process. Both work in your favor. Just the way I see it though.