Help!

[YoongiLover]

I have two things I actually need held with. The first is that, well I love my little very much and also we have a LDR and I want to spend every second with them and while that’s good it’s also bad because when I give her a punishment like no using your phone, I end up missing them after like 10 or 20 minutes and I break and I end up contacting them.

 

The second is that I rarely give my little punishments because I’m too much of a softie for her. The times I do end up giving her punishments for what she’s done she just gives me her cute little sorry eyes and I break and I end up giving her praises and compliments and giving her little kisses through the screen. What do I do for both these problems, please help me.

Edited March 22, 2020 by YoongiLover

[LittleTeacup]

Well the first problem can be solved by not taking away phone time as a punishment. It's clearly not gonna work for you two.

 

But for the second, maybe you just don't enjoy handing out punishments? Have a serious talk with your little, find out if she really wants/needs punishments, and then if the answer is yes discuss together what those punishments should be. Maybe your little will just need to give you a sincere apology. And if your little doesn't find punishments very important to her, then there's no requirement to have them. 

[Guest QueenJellybean]

i second the wonderful suggestions given above.

 

punishments aren't for everyone, and contrary to popular belief, aren't a necessary or required part of the dynamic. 

sit down & talk to your little.

find something that works for the two of you & no one else. 

we have a really great punishment thread here with a lot of suggestions with things that might work for you.

clearly, limiting phone access doesn't work for a long distance relationship.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/27958-rewards-and-punishmentsfunishments-ideas-charts-etc/