Should I just do it?

[YoongiLover]

I recently just became a mommy and it’s been really fun until now. Me and my little have a LDR so we just text, we actually met online, today he asked me if we could talk on the phone but the thing is that I’m really awkward on the phone. When it’s texting I’m all friendly and talkative but on the phone I’m quiet and just don’t know what to say. So back to the topic should I just talk to her on the phone and get it over with even if I’m not comfortable?

[Babesbunny]

Well if the relationship ever does become super serious you will have to talk to her over the phone eventually. I say give it a shot even if it does make you uncomfortable. The worst that happens is a few quiet moments but I’m sure that your little can fill the gaps in for you. You guys can video chat too! I always find seeing a face makes conversation a lot easier!

[Little_Bite]

Yes! Its always a little awkward at first, there's nothing wrong with that. She'll probably be a little shy too. But it'll be super great for your relationship together. If he cares for you she'll understand you're a little uncomfortable.

Edited March 22, 2020 by Little_Bite

[Vampiress]

A lot of us are really awkward and weird on the phone, but if you're serious about the relationship then it's a great dynamic to add because text misses so much emotion and expression. The first one will always be the most awkward, but the more you get used to talking to each other the better it will get. You might find that in talking with each other for a while he brings out a side of you that you didn't realize you had. It's just a totally different dynamic once you get comfortable with each other. Give it a chance, you might end up enjoying it a lot more than you think!

Edited July 8, 2020 by Batgirl

[Guest QueenJellybean]

be honest & upfront about the fact that you are feeling awkward & uncomfortable -- it doesn't make you less of a CG, it makes you a human being with feelings -- 

but yes, 

eventually, you're going to need to call with your little. 

 

[Guest Minister Judas]

Always make sure you express how doing so makes you uncomfortable. When met with such a barrier, it's not always best to simply rip it off like a bandaid. Discuss ways that would make it easier, prepare topics to discuss beforehand that won't be too taxing, keep the calls brief in the beginning to work yourself up to longer calls over time, etc. I'm pissed terrified of being on the phone most times, so I get it. It takes a lot to go through with it, and you have to be ready. I'm NOT saying don't talk on the phone, I'm saying make sure it's understood implicitly how it will be and that this is something that is going to take some work to become a normal thing for you.

[Guest]

You're the Mommy just remember that, let your inhibitions go.

(I know that's hard, I'm learning myself as a little)

 

It may not be the same for all littles, but I'm finding out that most of us are more shy of you then you are of them.

 

But your Little probably won't care what you say as long as they hear your voice.

 

Ask them how their day was. If they were following their rules, and taking care of themselves..they just wanna know you care that's all. No matter how awkward. It's the first call, once it's out of the way it'll be better.

 

I hope you two have a good first call comin!

[MysticSand]

What the above posters said.

 

To add to this, I would also encourage to jump straight to video call instead of just voice calling.

I can be pretty quiet/awkward on calls as well but I let my Little (who at the time wasn't my Little) know that I'm a creeper and love just watching people so he was well aware and prepared for if I was quiet.

And actually, he's pretty fond of just letting me watch him and says that it makes him feel more Little and comfortable. I think for him it emulates how an adult can just watch their kid at play and give them such pure attention.

So, there can be positives for you being quiet! ^^