Looking for ideas on how to lift my Daddy's mood while he is deployed

[klittle]

Hi all. : ) 

 

I'm K and I am relatively new to the dd/lg dynamic. My current Daddy is my first, and he and I bonded very quickly, but unfortunately he was deployed shortly after we began our relationship. Thankfully, he has everything overseas that he needs in terms of supplies, but he's lacking the comfort and familiarity of home over there. He has a very nice room he gets to spend a lot of time in by himself. It isn't super busy where he is, and they've taken away a lot of the amenities and activities due to the virus, so there's a lot of lonely time he has.

 

He misses me a lot, so I've been trying to stay cheery and positive for him and not excessively state how much I miss him as well. I asked him what would help further, and he said he would appreciate some photos of me as well as my virtual company, but he seems reluctant to ask for anything else, even though I can tell he wants a little more to cheer him up! I think he wants to see what ideas I'll come up with. I lead a very busy schedule and I think he doesn't want to burden me with specific requests, but I really do want to send him little bits of cheer in any way I can! 

 

Does anyone have any cute ideas for things I can do over messaging/photos that might cheer him up? I recently sent him some cute racy photos of me with my favorite ribbons in my hair, and he said he loved that and said it was just what he needed in his day to give him a little smile. I'm already out of cute photo ideas, though, lol! I'm not sure how else I can incorporate my little self into this for him, so any ideas are appreciated! I'm usually an older little/middle.

 

Thank you if you've got any ideas

 

~klittle

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I was dating someone long-distance and I found the same thing - it was hard to keep coming up with ideas of what to send him and I was almost rationing it to make things last LOL. Like sometimes I'd have an idea, but if I'd already sent something that day I'd keep my idea for the next day.

 

• keep the photos going. Even if you feel like they're all too similar, he probably loves them (but ask him)
• videos. Short n sweet or funny or ... something where he gets to see you in motion/hear your voice and he can watch as often or when he wants
• Pinterest! Save pins which are meaningful to you/him, or funny, inspirational etc. Intersperse some of these with the selfies to change things up
• write him a story. DDlg fiction maybe, about the two of you, with content specific to him & you.
• draw him a picture, take a photo and send it.
• ask his advice (but not stuff which requires an immediate reply if you think he's stressed/busy) It could be about something important or something really minor but it shows his opinion is important to you
• send him mini updates during the day to let him know what you're doing, or to make him laugh.
• can he watch films etc e.g. on his phone? Watch the same film or tv programme - if you want little stuff it could be age-appropriate viewing. If you can't watch together in real-time, just share comments about what you've seen so far, each of you watching in your own time
• take daily photos of what you're wearing, and/or ask him what to wear (depends on your dynamic)
• tease him about what you are ... or are not wearing! (depends if your dynamic is sexual)

That's off the top of my head. Hope some of it might spark an idea for you maybe.

 

Looby

[princesshima]

Send him cute cheerful pictures, maybe of things that you have done together or are looking forward to doing together?

[klittle]

I was dating someone long-distance and I found the same thing - it was hard to keep coming up with ideas of what to send him and I was almost rationing it to make things last LOL. Like sometimes I'd have an idea, but if I'd already sent something that day I'd keep my idea for the next day.

 

• keep the photos going. Even if you feel like they're all too similar, he probably loves them (but ask him)
• videos. Short n sweet or funny or ... something where he gets to see you in motion/hear your voice and he can watch as often or when he wants
• Pinterest! Save pins which are meaningful to you/him, or funny, inspirational etc. Intersperse some of these with the selfies to change things up
• write him a story. DDlg fiction maybe, about the two of you, with content specific to him & you.
• draw him a picture, take a photo and send it.
• ask his advice (but not stuff which requires an immediate reply if you think he's stressed/busy) It could be about something important or something really minor but it shows his opinion is important to you
• send him mini updates during the day to let him know what you're doing, or to make him laugh.
• can he watch films etc e.g. on his phone? Watch the same film or tv programme - if you want little stuff it could be age-appropriate viewing. If you can't watch together in real-time, just share comments about what you've seen so far, each of you watching in your own time
• take daily photos of what you're wearing, and/or ask him what to wear (depends on your dynamic)
• tease him about what you are ... or are not wearing! (depends if your dynamic is sexual)

That's off the top of my head. Hope some of it might spark an idea for you maybe.

 

Looby

Thank you so much! These are all adorable and I'll definitely be doing this. I totally get the rationing thing LOL. He's like, "more! more!" and I'm like, "Not until tomorrow!! Two a day!!" Lol. So these should help me have more to send than just teasing pics haha Thanks again!

[klittle]

Send him cute cheerful pictures, maybe of things that you have done together or are looking forward to doing together?

Yes! I love this, thank you I'll definitely try this. He loves golf so I might find some photos relating to that around here. 

[Guest CuteYetOriginalUsername]

Hmm... What about writing a poem for him?

Or find a song which says exactly what you feel towards him and send him.

You can also send him wholesome relationship memes. Find them or create your own with some personalized stuff.

If you can play an instrument and sing, you can write a song and record yourself singing it OR sing a song which you found.

Maybe draw something for him? Draw him?

But you said you lead very busy schedule. Drawing him might take too much time.

I don't know if you're gamers but if yes, then maybe online gaming together? If you aren't then what about trying something new?

Watch a movie together while talking on Skype.

Sleep together "throught Skype" if you wanna.

Write to him "good morning" when you wake up and "good night" when you go to sleep (if you aren't sleeping together through Skype).

Leave voice messages.

Watch his favourite movie with him.

I said about sending one song, but what about making a whole playlist for him with your favourite love songs?

Take your favourite book (warning!! If you're a book lover this might disturb you if you don't like personalizing books) decor it, use colorful highlighters to mark those lines which make you feel something, write comments on the bottom of marked pages, send it to him by post, let him read it "with you".

You can send him gifts. Game? Book? Manga?

Also letters! Omg yesss! Write him a love letter and send him by post!

Or do you know maybe those "open when..." letters? Like "Open when...you miss me/you wanna kiss me/you're mad at me/you're glad at me etc. etc.

Go on Pinterest and browse "gift ideas for boyfriend ldr" and welcome to the jungle of possibilities! ^w^

I know it was more than ideas only for messages and pictures. Sorry about that, I kinda forgot and then reread your post after I wrote them, haha... But I hope it could help!

[klittle]

Hmm... What about writing a poem for him?

Or find a song which says exactly what you feel towards him and send him.

You can also send him wholesome relationship memes. Find them or create your own with some personalized stuff.

If you can play an instrument and sing, you can write a song and record yourself singing it OR sing a song which you found.

Maybe draw something for him? Draw him?

But you said you lead very busy schedule. Drawing him might take too much time.

I don't know if you're gamers but if yes, then maybe online gaming together? If you aren't then what about trying something new?

Watch a movie together while talking on Skype.

Sleep together "throught Skype" if you wanna.

Write to him "good morning" when you wake up and "good night" when you go to sleep (if you aren't sleeping together through Skype).

Leave voice messages.

Watch his favourite movie with him.

I said about sending one song, but what about making a whole playlist for him with your favourite love songs?

Take your favourite book (warning!! If you're a book lover this might disturb you if you don't like personalizing books) decor it, use colorful highlighters to mark those lines which make you feel something, write comments on the bottom of marked pages, send it to him by post, let him read it "with you".

You can send him gifts. Game? Book? Manga?

Also letters! Omg yesss! Write him a love letter and send him by post!

Or do you know maybe those "open when..." letters? Like "Open when...you miss me/you wanna kiss me/you're mad at me/you're glad at me etc. etc.

Go on Pinterest and browse "gift ideas for boyfriend ldr" and welcome to the jungle of possibilities! ^w^

I know it was more than ideas only for messages and pictures. Sorry about that, I kinda forgot and then reread your post after I wrote them, haha... But I hope it could help!

 

I adore all of these! Thank you so much

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Take your favourite book (warning!! If you're a book lover this might disturb you if you don't like personalizing books) decor it, use colorful highlighters to mark those lines which make you feel something, write comments on the bottom of marked pages, send it to him by post, let him read it "with you".

 

 

Well I'm a book lover and I love your idea! That would make a special birthday present too (if someone did that for me it would be so special)

 

Looby  

[Guest CuteYetOriginalUsername]

Well I'm a book lover and I love your idea! That would make a special birthday present too (if someone did that for me it would be so special)

 

Looby

 

Thank you so much, Looby-Lou! <3 But I'm gonna be honest and tell you that this idea is something which I found on Pinterest... It's not mine, but I really wanted to share it because it seemed lovely and is one of my favourites hehe... Anyway, I feel now like I want to thank you, girls, for your kindness. This forum is like one of the sweetest places on Earth. Hope your gifts will melt their hearts!! <33 And your ideas were wonderful. Will definetely use them one day!

And I found one more idea for you - scrapbooking! *♡* You can find many tutorials on youtube, make a diary about you and your Daddy with many photos and stuff like that If you want, you can even make a coptic stitch sketchbook for it (there are also yt tutorials for this. Tried doing it and it worked greatly! You can make it as thick as you wish:)).

Also you know about this description on facebook which showes under your profile picture? - You can put there his name decorated with hearts if you want. That would be cute c:

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Thank you so much, Looby-Lou! <3 But I'm gonna be honest and tell you that this idea is something which I found on Pinterest... It's not mine, but I really wanted to share it because it seemed lovely and is one of my favourites hehe... 

 

Sharing ideas and opinions is what this forum is all about! 

 

Looby