Balancing attention and titles

[Guest NonServiam]

Hey, all, so I've got a little bit of an issue.  I have a Little, who is my delight, and I've collared her.  I'm her Daddy, and we're both pretty clear that she's the only one who gets to call me that.  However, there is another Little who wants my guidance and oversight, and my collared Little is aware of them, but we're trying to figure out how to balance the attention I pay to them both, and what this second Little would be allowed to call me, since I'm already someone's dedicated Daddy.  Just not really sure how to proceed.  Any thoughts from anyone?

[Little kaiya]

If your current little aware and ok with the situation then they are really in the best position to help establish clear boundaries. They should know what their boundaries are, what terms and titles they are ok with the other little using, etc.

 

I would encourage a meta talk as adults vs trying to have that conversation with them in little space.

[Tasherz]

I tend to use Sir or Mr whatever the person's name is... When referring to a daddy that isn't My daddy so that it's still someone who is respected but not daddy if that makes sense... As for the attention, that's something that maybe the three of you should discuss and figure out together! Hope that helps!!

[chateautal]

You could go for "Uncle" if you're taking a mentorship role? But best to discuss also with your own Little.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

sit down with the three of them, and talk about this with them.

 

not to be brass, but you should be communicating this with them. 

they are the only ones whose opinions truly matter here.

what are their comfort levels?

what does everyone in this situation want?

what are the priorities?

 

communicate.

[Little_Twinkle]

Preferably Sir/Mr... also boundaries must be established and set in place and understood on both sides.