Is it normal to have a hard time being little during stressful phases of life?

[Train]

I’m relatively new to even knowing I’m a little. Less than 6 months. Ever since October I’ve been going through some major life changes: psychologically, physically, and emotionally. I fluctuate between being stable for a short while to spiraling into insecurity, fear, and regressing into unhealthy habits. It’s... really hard to say the least. Not to mention, I’ve found a Daddy who is good for me, knowledgeable of my difficulties, and is willing to hang on for the ride.

 

I want to open my little side up to him. I crave for him to read me bedtime stories, sing me lullabies, have me suck his thumb... even to suck my own thumb while around him! I want to watch cartoons with him, have him wash me in the bathtub, and be my truly tiny, little self with him. When I’m not around him, I want it so badly that it hurts.

 

But... I struggle with little space. I struggle to reach it even while alone. And I certainly can’t maintain it while with Daddy. Once, he met me at a playground. I was in full-blown little space but when he arrived, it quickly evaporated. I have all kinds of tools to help me get into little space that have all previously worked. Little clothes, bathtub toys, bubble baths, kiddie snacks, kiddie game apps, listening to Disney music, pacifiers, a sippy cup, stuffies, coloring books... and the list goes on! I feel so sad when I try to get into little space but recurrently fail to... I AM a little, but my little side seems to hide from both me and Daddy!

 

I go through brief phases when it seems easy as ever to fall into the headspace, but mostly it’s difficult for me. I feel like I’m failing Daddy, and failing myself. He and I have been learning each other for 6 months, and he has only ever seen me in full-on little space only twice...

 

Is this normal?

[Tasherz]

Hi there! 

 

The number one thing to remember that your normal will always be different from everyone else's normal! you can't compare how anyone else reacts to how you do. Some people find that being little can help with stress where as others may not feel that way. Honestly I would just go with the flow and keep adding things that could bring out your littleness to your day, but don't expect it or push for it. I think that once you stop trying for it, it will happen naturally. 

 

Hope this helps some!!

 

Tasha 

[Guest Lavendar Bunni Wubbins]

I think it's very normal! I also have a hard time fully being in little space even with my boyfriend sometimes (who I have been with for 3+ years and he literally knows everything about me). Somedays I feel like a burden to be in little space if he is stressed & wants alone time, and on those days I notice I slip in & out of little space a lot but when I do slip in I feel bad & slip back out because somedays I know he just needs me to be an adult, etc. Other days I am feeling stressed or have a lot on my mind & want to be in little space (and he wants me to be too) but it just won't happen because my brain is going too much...

 

It's so different for everyone! The big thing is that sometimes you just need extra space & time to fully feel comfortable, and that is totally fine! I like what Natashers said, keep adding things that could bring out your littleness in the day but don't try to push it a lot either. Sometimes it just takes some extra time, so be patient & kind with yourself (like you would a child) and just take things slowly & see how it goes.

 

I know this probably feels like an annoying answer. I know how it feels to want to be in little space with someone  but you get kinda stuck and you just wanna be there NOW...but trust me...it will come with time with the right person. ♥ Best of luck to you!

Edited March 10, 2020 by Lavendar Bunni Wubbins

[littlelooner32]

Hi!

 

From what I've experienced yes it is. I'm going through a tough financial situation and I'm having a hard time staying in little space most of the time. I think its cuz you're so focused and alert that your little can't handle it and just isn't there.

I hope you can go back into little space and you are happy. We all deserve to be happy! <3 <3 <3

 

Good luck to you.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

i just wanted to reiterate the above information.

your normal is what is normal.

normal is a state of mind; i firmly feel that.

 

but you also aren't alone.

 

for a lot of folks, being little is a stress reliever. 

but it's also difficult to get to that vulnerable place when you are already stressed out.

our adult minds can't always just turn off, even if we want them to. 

 

[princesshima]

Hecc, sometimes my mind is still doing adulty stuff on the back burners while I'm in littlespace. It's totally normal. I hope your little side feels comfortable to come out again when the time is right!