Guest Pipa_Brook Posted March 1, 2020 Report Posted March 1, 2020 Hellowww everrybuddyy, i got a question for all tha littles and caregivers out there. I have a lot of trouble with remembering rules. Even after getting a punishment for it, I just forget the whole situation like it ever happened. Does any other little has the same problem? If so, how did you manage to overcome it and be able to remember certain things better? we tried writing lines even up to 250 but for some reason that does not make the rules stick. we also tried more physical approaches but those only worked when they were very severe and we do not constanly wanne do that. so me and my daddy are hoping that anybody out there has an idea with how to handle this or have been in the same situation. thanlyou alreadddyyy tha pipa.
Guest Dinkielilangel Posted March 1, 2020 Report Posted March 1, 2020 I have a reward chart thing on the wall. Totally removable just hook it off (incase you need to hide it) we write the rules on there and if i do well each day i get a sticker (for each task). If you can, try it out! it helps me with remembering hope this helps! x
baby_k Posted March 1, 2020 Report Posted March 1, 2020 Changing one's behaviour and habits takes time. Not sure what sort of rules you are talking about but let's take example of: "put your jacket to coat hanger when you come home". If you have habit of just tossing your jacket to floor, it may take while before you get used to acting differently. And specially in the beginning you will forget it. ( Even some say that you can try to make it into N day challenge, as it is easier to commit to do something for little while and then just decide to have yet another N day challenge till it has formed into habit ). I wouldn't take more than 1-3 things one tries to change at a time. And they should be something you truly want to change. Depending on what sort of things those are, reminder on walls, notifications on phone etc. may help. Personaly I wrote things down, and every once in awhile check those, so I get reminder of what I wanted to change in my life. I don't think punisments really work compared to positive reinforsement. Changing things should be positive desirable thing, not done out of fear.
Alaskan Daddy Posted March 1, 2020 Report Posted March 1, 2020 I feel rules (or as I call them gentle reminders) are there to help you do the things you need to do to make your life more productive and less stressful. But the rules are not as important as the relationship. There are things you can do like having a daily list of the thing you need to do and keep it with you. It takes about 3 months to change habits. It is up to you to want to follow the rules and your daddy cannot force you. There have been times where I have given up on rules (except for disrespect of daddy). They were getting in the way of the relationship. As a daddy it takes a lot of emotional energy to push a little to follow agreed upon rules when she is fighting you all the time. It makes me want to give up and just not bring up the issue. You need to decide if you are willing to do your part, a little at a time to make this happen. Maybe take the four most important things you need to do and start from there. I hope this helps and good luck.
chateautal Posted March 1, 2020 Report Posted March 1, 2020 How many rules do you have - and how complicated are they written? If there are loads, perhaps your Daddy and you can work out together a simplified 'core rules' set (try writing them in childish language, too!) of just a few rules - and then the 'full rules' can be more the responsibility of your Daddy to enforce, than for you to completely memorise. It's more rewarding to have a few rules that can be well-enforced, than to have loads that overwhelm and leave you feeling like you're failing!
Guest Pipa_Brook Posted March 1, 2020 Report Posted March 1, 2020 (edited) Thankyou all for your repliess. We work with a digital sticker sheet where i can earn stickers and trade this for all sorts of thingies (stuffie, moovie night w/ daddy and other stuff like that) I have some rules: (SOME ARE NSFW) 1.Rules have to be discussed together and can be changed when both agree. 2.Daddy / Sir in private. 3.No touching myself without permission. 2.Daddy / Sir in private. 3.No touching myself without permission. 4.Brush your teeth twice everyday.. 5.Don't keep secrets, tell daddy everything. You can trust him. 6.I am loved and being cared for by daddy 7.No skipping school, unless discussed with daddy incase of illness. Sit in the front row(s). 8.When you are having problems or doubts, or want to talk about something, go to daddy. 9.Homework should be done on the day it was received unless discussed otherwise. 10.Treats or sweets after approval of daddy. 11.Medication / pills will be taken into consideration by daddy. 12.Bed time during school nights is 10:00pm in bed, ready to sleep. Lights out at 10:45PM. During weekends 01:00AM unless discussed otherwise. 13.Attempt to eat meals 3 times a day (Breakfast / lunch / dinner), keep a list of meals eaten or send pictures. 14.Eat fruit / veggies daily, atleast one piece of fruit or a spoonful of veggies everyday. 15.Clean room every other week. (vacuum, change bed sheets) 16.Do the dishes every other day. 17.No lying to daddy, especially not to make him “not” worry. 18.Not allowed to remove OurPactJR app. 19.If princess wants to send pictures or show pictures online, daddy has to approve first. 20.Breaking above mentioned rules will result in punishments listed below. 21.Following the above mentioned rules will result in rewards listed below. 22.Whenever daddy deems princess was good for a day, she gets a sticker in the sticker sheet on the next page. A certain amount of stickers can be exchanged for specific rewards. 23.No means no. the Sticker Sheet kinda works, but if I do my pusnishment i just completely forget about the broken rule and all that Edited March 1, 2020 by Pipa_Brook
RavenclawPrincess Posted March 2, 2020 Report Posted March 2, 2020 Okaaaaay so, I'm gonna say that this seems like a lot of rules to follow if you're having memorization issues. I have a few suggestions though! Condense your list so you have a chore chart (decorate it with stickers and everything!) so chores are written out accordingly for specific days. Then, as far as your rules list is concerned, simply replace all written rules about chores/assigned tasks with "Do your daily chores". This chart can include tasks like your homework assignments, times to take meds, etc. Little Moo Moo on Youtube makes a super cute chart every month if you want a starter idea to check out for your chore chart/schedule to follow. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DY9EdqjHKRM SFW Another option is to talk to your daddy about going through your rules list and focusing on getting 5 or so perfect for a set period of time. Once you've mastered those 5, maintain following them without forgetting and add another 5 rules to your "extra focus" list. Eventually, you'll have worked through memorizing your whole list together. I would ask that punishment be reserved for breaking rules that you should have already memorized, or the new set of rules you're working to memorize. A little slack on rules that you haven't gotten down pat yet will help keep things from getting frustrating. Zoning in on memorizing just a few rules at once can make a really big difference! 1
Quirkygrl16 Posted March 4, 2020 Report Posted March 4, 2020 That's a lotttt of rules! I would need reminders in my phone and stuff... i always write my rules down and sometimes that helps me remember.
redheadprincess98 Posted March 4, 2020 Report Posted March 4, 2020 You could make a google drive and keep your rules on a written document (maybe an excel). Keep it on your phone so if you forget a rule or arent sure, you can go there an see. Then, at the end of the day, you two should go through the list together and put a X on the ones you broke and a star or something on the ones you followed. Or maybe get points and then decide how many points equals something, for example, if you get 10 points, you can have ice cream, stuff like that. Maybe points could add up and if you get to a larger number, lets say 150 points or 200, you get a stuffie or whatever is you like. Also, start with fewer rules, and then add up later in time. I cant remember more than 5 rules tbh with you, my daddy knows that and we make it work. Good luck!
Guest Pipa_Brook Posted March 9, 2020 Report Posted March 9, 2020 Thank you everyboddy who repliedd! Got allott of good ideaas for me and daddy ! THAAANKIEEESS TOOO AALLLL
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