Am I a Little?

[_bumble_bee]

Hello~

 

I'm very new to all of this, I just made this account today but am a little overwhelmed and have a lot of questions.

 

First is that I don't know if i'm a little at all? I've always been interested in the community but there are lots of aspects of being a little I feel like I don't fit into. Sometimes catch myself getting whiney or frustrated over simple things, I can cry very easily sometimes, and I get very soft and just wanna be held and cuddled, I don't know if any of this means i'm really little? I don't want to use a pacifier, or dress little though I do like pastels. I do like the idea of calling someone daddy but the idea of someone controlling what I do makes me very nervous and uncomfortable. I'm never really good at recognizing what kind've headspace i'm in either. 

 

I've been going through a bunch of different posts to try to make things clearer but the more I go through the more confused I get. I'm very frustrated and am not sure where to continue.

 

Does anyone have any advice, tips, or really anything that might help me clear things up for myself? I feel like if I read one more informational post about what little space is i'm gonna cry but I really wanna find out what I am. :< thank you. 

[Tasherz]

HI there!

 

First I want to say welcome to the community!!! Second, Take a deep breath. No one little space is the same. Honestly I'm pretty new here myself but, if I were to give any advise it would be to go with it... if you feel like sometime you feel little then you do, you could be more middle (age 7-double digits) which can help you to avoid the stuff you aren't comfortable with.. And the rules should never be controlling (and not all littles have rules) rules are to help keep us safe and to the best of our health. 

 

I hope this helps, and if you ever need someone to talk to feel free to add me as a friend!!

 

Tasha 

[Guest Lavendar Bunni Wubbins]

All littles are different in their own ways. You don't need to like some of the 'generic' things to be a little! Some littles are sexual, some aren't! Some enjoy playing with toys and some don't, some enjoy dressing up in certain ways & some don't...and that is perfectly fine!

 

It might help you to list out on a piece of paper the things you like about being 'little' and the things you don't like about being little, I think that will help give you a better sense of what you like & enjoy out of it...and say "screw it" to the rest! You can also explore those things later if they start to seem interesting for you. But for now, look into what you enjoy & like and focus on that. It does take a bit to sort out sometimes, and that's alright. Give yourself space & time to discover what you like & want, and what works best for you! You can always branch out later on if you want to.

 

There are a lot of daddies who love to be kind & nurturing and not necessarily controlling. And a lot of daddies that are fine with having a non-sexual little, etc. The biggest thing is do what works best for YOU. Don't let anyone else tell you that you aren't a little just because you don't like some of the generic or common things. We aren't all cookie cutter shapes!

[Guest ☠Doobngoobr Hoobgz☠]

Welcome to the forum!

One of the best parts of being in this community is the fact that there are no rules to determine who does or does not belong.  You can have a few traits or many and be just as welcome as the rest of us.  There are a lot of opinions and perspectives on how you can proceed.  And I''m sure there will be more responses to your post.  Based on what you said above, the best advise I can give you is this:  be yourself, learn about those of us in the community, reach out and make some awesome friends who are willing to help guide you along your journey, evolve as you need to along the way, and have fun.  Feel free to reach out if you would like to talk more about your questions.

[Alaskan Daddy]

First of all there are no 'cookie cutter Little's'. There are so many aspects to DDLG and the best thing to do is learn about the aspects of being a little and see which apply to you. There are also no 'cookie cutter' DDLG relationships. If you want a daddy I am sure you could find one that fits your needs and desires. Like any dynamic you can take as much or as little of the dynamic and make it work for you. Don't let anyone tell you that you do or do not belong just because you don't fit their mold of what a little should or should not be. Also don't let any daddy shame you to be something you are not or are not comfortable with.  I hope this helps and good luck.

[_bumble_bee]

Thank you to everyone whose responded so quickly. I feel a little bit calmer about everything now. I think i'll go ahead and try to make a list of things I do and don't like and see where that leads me. I appreciate the support from everyone!! 

[RavenclawPrincess]

There is no wrong way to be a little. As long as you are 18+ and everything you have going on is safe, sane, and consensual, then you are golden. Be yourself and if you identify as a little by your own standards, then you are a little. Don't ever let anyone tell you that how you identify yourself (in any context) is wrong. You know you better than anyone else, and you are the authority on your own identity. Diversity in this community is beautiful, so don't feel the need to shove yourself into a box for the sake of meeting stereotypes or someone else's standards. There's no such thing as "not little enough" in my opinion. 

[SmolAetherr]

you are whatever you want to be and if you need to prove that to people then get new people

[Guest Looby-Lou]

 

I'm very new to all of this, I just made this account today but am a little overwhelmed and have a lot of questions.

 

I've been going through a bunch of different posts to try to make things clearer but the more I go through the more confused I get. I'm very frustrated and am not sure where to continue.

 

Does anyone have any advice, tips, or really anything that might help me clear things up for myself? I feel like if I read one more informational post about what little space is i'm gonna cry but I really wanna find out what I am. :< thank you. 

 

Welcome!

I think it's totally okay (and very common) to feel overwhelmed and have lots of questions and uncertainties.

It's also very usual that at first, the more you read the more confused you become. Because some bits you read probably make you feel "YES! That's me!" and other bits might make you think "Oh I'm not like that at all", and some things you read might even downright scare you.

 

For advice? I'd suggest you give yourself time to become more familiar with your littleness, and to let yourself enjoy it  There's no right or wrong way to be little. There's nothing you MUST say (or do or feel) in order to qualify as being little.  YOU decide if you're little; never ever let someone else define that for you.

 

What you do & don't like, what you will & won't consider doing - it might all change over time. Give yourself freedom to explore, even if it's just in your own mind to begin with.

 

This is a friendly forum with lots of information, ideas ... and support! Whatever you're thinking, feeling, or worrying about, you can be sure you're not the only one doing it and you're not weird.

Looby