Being a woman

[Baby Bunny Boo]

Alright so im turning 19 in a week. The problem is lately i haven't been feeling like a woman. I've been so wrapped up in being a little and searching for a daddy that i've kinda forgotten the fact that i am one. Now i feel conflicted. Even when i look in the mirror something just feels off. Im not sure why i feel this way but i just do. Is it just my head or something else?

 

Edit: i feel like i should clarify since i didn't do it so well in the first part of this post. Its not completely emotional but also physical as well. I don't see much difference in my body (other than gaining weight)and it bothers me. Im not flat but in my eyes its just not enough to separate myself from a kid to now.

Edited February 26, 2020 by Baby Bunny Boo

[LittleTeacup]

When I was your age, I still felt like a child, and not in an lg way. I just had barely joined the adult world and was pretty much still a teenager leaning heavily on my parents. I didn't feel comfortable even being part of adult groups with middle aged and older adults, like I didn't belong.

 

You're legally an adult, but it might still take a couple years to really ease into the feeling. It took until I was about 24 to feel comfortable interacting with older people as an equal and accepting I'm an adult woman. And between the ages of 20 and 21 my parents say they saw a big change in my maturity level and independence. It's pretty common to still feel like an adolescent when you're 18 and 19.

 

Give yourself time to transition. When you look in the mirror, think "this is me" rather than "this is a woman" or "this is a little". Hope this helps! 

[Alaskan Daddy]

your feelings are your feelings and lots of times we cannot help how we feel. As long as you are taking care of your adult stuff then you have nothing to worry about. This a part of who you are inside your heart and it seems that your little side is being more dominant at this moment. Just be the best 'you' that you can be and everything will take care of itself. Some days you are a 'little' with a woman hiding inside you and other days you will be a 'woman' with a little hiding inside you. But when you put it altogether this is who you are. You are not alone, I would almost bet that every little on this site has had the same feelings as you are having in one way or another. I hope this helps.

[SmolAetherr]

thats not surprising, depending on where you are from legally you are a grown adult but you are still a teenager, you are still in your "teens"

 

when i was your age (currently 27) i was taking care of my pregnant fiancé but at 18 i very much felt that transition they adult responsibilities of managing money and having to take on a more equal contribution at my parents home, i can't imagine adding ddlg to the mix, what i can say is just roll with it being that age is hellish enough with hormones and a new laundry list of responsibilities

 

also it will take time to settle in, hell some days even i forget im nearly 30 because often times i have the maturity and certainly the sense of humor of a 18 year old

 

enjoy this time, you get the freedom to enjoy life as an adult without the expectations tied to acting like an adult (mostly)

[Guest party4u]

I get that. A lot of my friends are older than me by a few + years and I low-key feel like sometimes I'm not taken seriously BC of my age

[Guest Daddy-Tom]

30 here, you're still a kid lol. I don't say that to be demeaning. No teenager knows what's going on in the adult world yet. There's nothing wrong with you

[sweetangelkitten]

I also am in the same shoes kinda. I am older, and being a woman scares me. I don't like being called a woman or a lady, it makes me feel physically/ mentally sick and want to cry. I have a hard time talking to adults and pretending to be one at work. The physical changes have been disturbing and distressing. The outside world sees me differently than how I perceive myself, and that is really painful to go through  

[Holly.lea]

Hay baby bunny boo.

 

I'm 34, and still struggle with myself in the mirror, and I never feel equal to "adults". I don't feel like I have changed from when I was 16, I don't feel I look any different.

 

It took me a long time to realise that I am me, no matter what I see in the mirror. As a women we go through a lot of changes emotionally and physically, but I find that not comparing yourself to what the world says you should be at helps.

 

You need to be you! Take some time to discover yourself.

 

Big hugs

[Guest orb]

Late to this thread, but I still wanted to reply.

 

It has only been the last year that I have felt like an adult (I'm 23). As others have said, just because you reach the age of majority doesn't mean you have an immediate change. Your brain doesn't stop developing until, what, 25? Give yourself time. 18-19 are weird ages because you're just on that cusp both physically and emotionally.

[Guest La Blanca neko]

That's exactly how I feel too. U will change your whole life, it's a journey that never ends and is full of adventures. Enjoy it

 

Hay baby bunny boo.

I'm 34, and still struggle with myself in the mirror, and I never feel equal to "adults". I don't feel like I have changed from when I was 16, I don't feel I look any different.

It took me a long time to realise that I am me, no matter what I see in the mirror. As a women we go through a lot of changes emotionally and physically, but I find that not comparing yourself to what the world says you should be at helps.

You need to be you! Take some time to discover yourself.

Big hugs

[RainDoeSprinkles]

I can relate, Bunny Boo. I am quite a lot older than most people on the forum, but I still don't really feel like a woman. I often feel younger than people who are much younger than me! It is awkward at times, because I would like to feel more respected and looked up to. But on the other hand, children see me as one of their own, animals trust me, and I get to stay hopeful, filled with wonder, and childlike joy. I wouldn't trade it!